yellowrose 04-09-2007, 08:44 AM You don't hear much about my son. He is the 'good' kid. Always does what he should. Never got into trouble. Gets me the best cards at Mother's Day. :)
He had a rough year because his friend of 15 years died of a heart attack. His friend was only 35. :(
Saturday night he and his friend from where he used to work (5 years ago), went to a club like they do once or twice a month. They had 2 beers and headed back to my son's home. His friend did not think he should drive home so he spent the night.
The next morning, (Easter morn), my son goes and knocks on the bedroom door and there is no answer. He thought at first his friend went home early. He opened the door and his friend was on the floor DEAD!
This guy was only 30 years old! My son is grief stricken. The last thing his friend said to him was that 'he was his best friend in the world'.
Please say a prayer for him and the friend's family. Thank you so much...
sylverspice 04-09-2007, 08:56 AM My heart is with you people.
That is really sad.
Reminds me to always appreciate our loved ones while they are around.
Joann_Spehar 04-09-2007, 10:53 AM You don't hear much about my son. He is the 'good' kid. Always does what he should. Never got into trouble. Gets me the best cards at Mother's Day. :)
He had a rough year because his friend of 15 years died of a heart attack. His friend was only 35. :(
Saturday night he and his friend from where he used to work (5 years ago), went to a club like they do once or twice a month. They had 2 beers and headed back to my son's home. His friend did not think he should drive home so he spent the night.
The next morning, (Easter morn), my son goes and knocks on the bedroom door and there is no answer. He thought at first his friend went home early. He opened the door and his friend was on the floor DEAD!
This guy was only 30 years old! My son is grief stricken. The last thing his friend said to him was that 'he was his best friend in the world'.
Please say a prayer for him and the friend's family. Thank you so much...
That is so sad! :( I really feel for your son and his friends family. Everything happens for a reason so it is said, but it doesn't help when someone you love passes away. I will pray for them. :(
Carazy 04-09-2007, 11:20 AM I am very sorry, this must have been such a shock :(
I remember I was floored when my ex-bf died of a sudden heart issue last September, he was only 38 as well - and that even though we had been separated for like 3 years. I can imagine how hard it is if it hits one you know so well and are so close with, and then even at home :(
I will keep your son and his friend's family in my prayers, it must be such a terrible time for them now :(
Jo-Admin 04-09-2007, 03:13 PM Oh my gosh....that is unbelievably awful. Do they know why the young man died? Only 30...thats just so sad.
Im so sorry for your son. :( I'll send lots of prayers, for him and for you too. I know how hard it is to watch one of your children go through something devastating like this...
special K 04-09-2007, 03:26 PM praying right now for your son in his grief....
whiterose 04-09-2007, 07:17 PM Oh wow. What a huge shock! I am so sorry he had to go through that. He is definitely in my thoughts and prayers. :(
GoldDust 04-09-2007, 07:34 PM your son and his friend's family will be in my prayers
Alawiy 04-09-2007, 09:07 PM Definitely in my prayers....
We had a similar thing in our circle... My brother was murdered. He was only 21 at the time. He had two best friends, both of whom died very shortly aftewards, too (one of a sudden mysterious flu like illness, and the other a heart attack before the age of 30).
These are such a shock, and seemingly against the natural order of things, so it can seem so much harder to bear.
I will be praying for all of you.
Lilybart 04-09-2007, 09:44 PM I will light a candle for him.
Definitely, my thoughts and prayers are with your son and his friend's family.
Sorry to hear this YR. Your son must be in total shock right now. My heart goes out to him.
I just found out two days ago that one of my oldest friends from my 20's was just given three months to live. He is 57, and battling cancer for the fourth go round. The doc said no hope this time. I'm just trying to find the words to say to my friend. It's hard.
Life is so weird sometimes.
greeneyedgirl 04-09-2007, 11:17 PM Praying for you and yours, sweet lady.
Tracy
freespirit 04-10-2007, 05:45 AM I know he will be ok because he has you for a mum Barb....it must have been awful for him finding his friend like that and so suddenly....
Angel 04-10-2007, 09:26 PM You don't hear much about my son. He is the 'good' kid. Always does what he should. Never got into trouble. Gets me the best cards at Mother's Day. :)
He had a rough year because his friend of 15 years died of a heart attack. His friend was only 35. :(
Saturday night he and his friend from where he used to work (5 years ago), went to a club like they do once or twice a month. They had 2 beers and headed back to my son's home. His friend did not think he should drive home so he spent the night.
The next morning, (Easter morn), my son goes and knocks on the bedroom door and there is no answer. He thought at first his friend went home early. He opened the door and his friend was on the floor DEAD!
This guy was only 30 years old! My son is grief stricken. The last thing his friend said to him was that 'he was his best friend in the world'.
Please say a prayer for him and the friend's family. Thank you so much...
Geeze Louise YR! You and the family have really been dealt a bunch of extremely traumatic blows on you recently.
Me and my fiance will pray for protection over your family.
yellowrose 04-11-2007, 12:06 AM Thank you Angel.
I spoke with him again today. He has not eaten since Saturday. He has just had a few drinks of water. This has totally wiped him out... I have never seen him this broken. :(
He met with the sister of the deceased, and he said she asked him why he did not do CPR. The body was already cool and even the paramedics who got there within minutes of the 911 call did not do CPR. He keeps thinking he should have heard something or done something.
They did the autopsy and his friend had a heart defect. They haven't all the results on whether there were drugs or not.
The funeral is Thursday at 9 AM. My son really wants me to go with him, so I guess I will. I love my son too much to let him down. That means I will drive 135 miles either the night before or very early Thursday morning.
On top of all this, I am trying a new drug treatment infusion in the morning. It has promise but is also dangerous in terms of fatal infections, etc. Say a prayer for me, that it will work... (it is Orencia).
Our family is going through a lot... there is more but I am too tired to write. My oldest daughter is still doing well in her recovery... :)
jellybean400 04-11-2007, 08:43 AM That is so sad...i'm sorry you all are going thru so much, and i wish you strength. (((hugs))) Jill
Lovaholic 04-12-2007, 10:13 AM Barb:
Just wanted to say I am so sorry for your son's grief. I can't imagine how he must feel. It is so very tragic.
I hope all goes well with your new medication. I am sure your son will appreciate your being there for him at the services.
God Bless!
Lovaholic
kindanice 04-12-2007, 11:27 AM Goodness. You and your son are in our thoughts and prayers.
Angel 04-13-2007, 06:23 PM I just found out two days ago that one of my oldest friends from my 20's was just given three months to live. He is 57, and battling cancer for the fourth go round. The doc said no hope this time. I'm just trying to find the words to say to my friend. It's hard.
Wow, that's really a tough situation to be placed in. I'll pray that his remaining months are as fulfilled as they can be and that he does not suffer in pain.
My oldest daughter is still doing well in her recovery... :)
Wonderful. Prayers for her continued success.
YR, I just read this thread, and I am so very sorry for all of this pain that both your son and you, and the freind's family, are going through. That is so devastating. Yes, your son is lucky to have you to lean on.
I hope you are okay too with the new medicine.
waterfall 04-13-2007, 07:32 PM YR, I just read this thread, and I am so very sorry for all of this pain that both your son and you, and the freind's family, are going through. That is so devastating. Yes, your son is lucky to have you to lean on.
I hope you are okay too with the new medicine.
oops that was me, forgot that I'm using Rob's hard drive and it's logged in as him. I just logged him out, and me in!
tinydancer 04-14-2007, 08:38 AM Yellowrose, I am so sorry to hear what your son is dealing with right now.
I will say a prayer.
Kat, when my favorite dance partner/friend was dying from aids, at age 25, he was scared and "searching" for "something"..........I didn't know what to do or say.
I found a book, "Letters to a Dying Friend", and it gave me much comfort. I passed it on to "Nate" and he too, found some comfort in it's words.
He, having refused all common meds of the day (1989) died in less than a year after being diagnosed.......he was 25:(
Yellowrose, try finding that book for your son...........it might help to comfort him too right now.
Blessings, TD
bijou 04-14-2007, 11:42 AM Yellowrose:
I am so sorry to hear all this heavy sad news. I wish you strength for all you have to manage in the next little while.
Your son is lucky to have such a steadfast and caring mother. I do know, though, from recent experience that when you're called upon as a mother to get your child through a difficult time, you put yourself on hold and do what you have to and only later realize that it's taken a toll on you too. Try to find ways to care for yourself through this.
And on that subject, I hope the medication is a success.
Take care - you'll all get through this.
jx
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