newbie saying hi.

Hello,

Im 41, my husband of 19 years is 43. We have 2 teenage children; lots of pets and I have a "life partner" who is now 75. I've been seeing him for the last 15 years with the full consent of my husband; whom I love very much but I also love my l.p. I do not want my cake and eat it, as has been said to me many times, nor do I want a father figure and he certainly isnt a dirty old man. We speak on the phone every day, if Im ill he speaks to my husband, the kids both know him as uncle...and to be brutally honest although I would never recommend this situation to anyone; it works well for us.

Hi and welcome!

Just wondering, is your life partner more of a good friend and a mentor, or is he a full blown lover as well? :confused:

He's a full blown lover aswell

I think relationships come in all shapes and sizes...and I am glad to see a poly relationship that seems to be functioning quite well! Welcome to Ageless! :)

Welcome to agless and enjoy its many forms :)

P.S. glad the poly thing is working out :)

I think relationships come in all shapes and sizes...and I am glad to see a poly relationship that seems to be functioning quite well! Welcome to Ageless! :)


I agree. With all the drama in the world today I won't make any judgements on how someone loves.

Welcome to ageless. You definitely bring a new perspective for people so I hope you stick around.

Thankyou all. Love is a many faceted emotion. I would certainly never infer that loving two people is easy, it takes a very special person to accept their partner may also love another person. Without seeming two faced I know I am unable to accept my husband having another partner. Yet he is more than happy (not simply tolerent) for me. Maybe as I have never looked at other men, and although I have many friends, there are only a select few very old faithful ones who are aware of our relationship. Life is too short to be listening to *****ing, rumour mongering or snide comments. So long as there is complete (101%) honesty between you, there is no need for any lies. If my husband was anything less than happy - 1. I would know (24 years is a long time to know someone) and 2. Hard as it was - I would pack it all in.