There is a God!

Just wanted to share something with the ladies as this has been mentioned before esp. by SnowP and Nafadda. DO NOT BELIEVE EVERYTHING someone tells you on the net. Making a long story short (or I tried too!), I had been writing to a gorgeous man who is abit younger than I am since September after I had answered his ad after Chris and I broke up for the second time. Well, Chris and I got back together for another month, but then it was over for sure, so the new ym (Mason) I and I began to write more in earnest. Some things did not add up and at one time I asked him point blank if were married and he replied no and that he had even been single for too long of a time. Well, he was getting closer to me, and I liked the attention and we had a lot in common, but my heart was still not over Chris, so I was taking this very slow. We were to meet in February when he was going to return to Florida. On Jan, 13th I had gotten a message from him in a lovely sexy card that he had to go to Nashville and would be offline for awhile, but he would call. Well, a bell went off in my subconscious for two years ago those were the same words a man had said to me whom I had been not only writing too, but had met and dated and was almost in love with. However after a few weeks of no communication with that first one, I discovered he had closed all his Yahoo accounts and just disappeared off the face of the earth... or so HE thought, for I keep everthing and with my excellent detective skills and the many clues he left, I discovered he was using another name, worked for a different police dept. than he told me and was married with children. I could not believe it!!! So when I did not hear from Mason, after two weeks, I decided to put on the ole Sherlock hat again and did some checking. I first discovered there were 31 Mason Storms on Yahoo half, with a martial arts connection. I wrote to those who had addresses and two replied saying he was a character in a Steven Segal movie...and a made up name....hmmm... another week passed and then I had thought of Terry's plight about maybe something happened to him (and really hoped something had, for I did want want to be fooled again!) However, since I am one who needs closure (sorry Dy!), I decided on Wednesday to send his picture to 4 martial arts businesses who had web address, in and around Orlando since Mason was a teacher and a judge in many events. I heard from one and he said he had never seen the man. Then yesterday while I was at the beach, a van pulls up next to me with one of the martial arts businesses I had written to!!! I mean, the beach is 14 miles long; and Orlando is 50 miles away.... and he pulls up next to me?? After the family settled in, I went up and introduced myself and asked him if he received my email.He relpied his secretary does it and never asked him about the pic. So I described the man to him and I could tell he knew exactly who he was (I mean Mason is 6'2" 46, Indian with long black hair that he wears in a ponytail and a thin beard.. very unique looking). He asked me why I wanted to know; and I replied he had done something for me and I never really knew who he was (which was the TRUTH!). He proceeded to tell me his REAL name was Mark G... and that he plays golf with him and that he was MARRIED to one of his former students. Well, you can imagine how I felt, but it was just for a minute, for at least now I had closure... but I had to do one more thing. I went home and wrote Mark/Mason a little note and went back to the beach and asked the man if he could deliver it. He asked what it was and I said a thank you card....I just hope his wife is standing next to him as he gets it!
So there is my tale of woe...but I still cannot believe what had happened yesterday; God did not want me to wonder and worry; he knew Mason did just fall off the face of the earth for all practical purposes and never would have contacted me again. Life is both sadly strange and wonderful. But to be honest, I am not too sure I will be answering another ad for a long time. So women, please be careful out there.

You handled that SOOOOOOO well SB !!!!!!!

And for all those of you who have issues with someone on the net, SB is an expert at private investigation. She seems to find things I wouldn't even imagine, and quickly as well ... ;) Ask her if you have questions ... while the service is still free :D

I'm certain this will be her next career ... she's just too good at it.

Love ya girl,

Princessdy

that's impressive detective work!

honestly i've never had a guy online lie to me like that that i've found out about. i think that's mostly because i tend to talk to people in large groups that mostly know each other and where everybody has been met by at least one other member of the group and often several others. i have answered one or two ads, but only local ones and met one guy downtown at a very public and very visible coffee shop. i dont think i really like the ad thing though. rather meet somebody in a social setting, even if it is a virtual social setting.

i did have one YM lie about his age when he first met me thinking i wouldn't have talked to him had i known otherwise - and he was right! :) oh, and another guy said he was a really sincere, loving, nice guy and turned out to be a total ***, but that's neither here nor there. :p

i'm sorry you had to go through the pain and trouble of being lied to, but i'm so glad you nailed the guy. maybe he'll think twice about it next time he wants to mess around with somebody's life dishonestly. i dont think i'd have been anywhere nearly as clever and insightful as you were under the circumstances. i'd probably just figure either he was dead or i was dumped, be sad, then forget about it. at least i know who to call if i ever feel i'm being deceived. :)

j

PS: how did he get away with being married? did he never give you his home phone number?

I'm so sorry to hear that, SB, but good work! At least you found out the truth!

Ladies, if a man doesn't give you his home phone number, and then answer when you call or have a machine with his voice on it, he's most likely married. Don't settle for just a cell number.

suicideblonde~

Wouldn't it be priceless to be a fly on the wall when Mason/Mark gets handed that note by a person who couldn't EVER have met YOU?!!
That oughta make his cheatin' heart LURCH! :D

~Val

And, and, and Sherwood Spirit, would it not also be interesting if, because it appears to be a note from a friend, he were to recieve it in the presence of his wife ???

Princessdy

....... and even better if he had his wife read the note TO him cause he's suffering from a bit of eye strain, what with all the time spent online gazing at the screen while deceiving innocent women and all.

You know, a while ago on here during my single days SupposedPath (Jason) and I talked alot!!
His girlfriend had died, he was single, all his writings are in the archieves here, well one day his wife imed me, and than called me, i showed her where to go read what he wrote, showed her a few letters, the poor wife had no idea!!
He has not been on here since.

I read a really scary article in the Minneapolis City Pages sometime last year, I think in the fall, about a man who admitted to doing this over and over again. The strange part was that his wife knew about his habits, and stayed with him even when he proposed to another woman over the phone, met her at the Mall of America with her daughter to pick out wedding clothes, and then finally told her he was married AFTER he had his fun pretending all day. It wasn't the first time either, it said he literally spent ALL of his time online except to sleep a few hours here and there and bathroom breaks. He had "girlfriends" all over the country and described keeping lists next to his computer so he would never confuse them all. He claimed to have childhood problems and this was a way to feel "loved" by many people, and that it was an addiction to feeling needed. His wife just thought of him as very sick and tried to support him because she knows he only loves her and has a problem. There are sick people of varying degrees everywhere, but the internet makes it all too easy for some to become artists of deception. Good tip though, if you really want to know if they're legit get the home phone number. Cell phones are easy to hide from wives, not so much with a land line. It's a jungle out there; just something to keep in mind.

for your support. And I never did have his phone number for our correspondence was just about nil for the first two months, but when it became more intense in November, I asked if we could call each other even though he was supposedly in Tennessee. When he said not at this time, I asked him point blank if he were married for it did sound fishy, and he responded all in caps NO, I AM NOT MARRIED..... THUS....major lessoned learned regarding phone numbers for I do think that is an excellent "married scum bag" test!

And I too hope his wife was next to him when he got that card!:D

Very cool....

Very cool indeed.

Yep-a-doodle.

Once in my long-past single days, I had a brief fling with a guy I met in Mexico. (He was traveling about, too). Seemingly nice person, but in 8 hours of conversation, forgot to mention the live-in girlfriend at home.

Having wangled his PO Box from him at some point - I sent a cheery postcard a few months later and guess who got the postcard! (the PO Box had been discontinued).

Anyway, she called after she'd kicked him out of their house - and ended up crying on the phone to me about his "fear of commitment".

I figured it all ended up being a favor to her in the end :>

Mason Storm aka Steven Segal......a Steven Segal wannabe,,,thank god he's out of the picture.He has to be one SICK DUDE:mad:

thats why I say not to trust or beleive everything that someone says,be it the internet or in real life,until they have proven themself.

I also will say again and again just being friends with someone for awhile first, is a really good way to see if the person is for REAL.when your just friends and nothing else,you get to know someone and see how they really are.