LENAE
05-09-2007, 01:21 PM
HEY YALL!!! I GET THIS DR. GILDA ADVICE COLUMN IN MY EMAIL AND FOUND THIS ONE TO BE PRETTY INTERESTING! I THINK EVERYONE SHOULD FOLLOW HER ADVICE! :)
Hi, Dr. Gilda,
Do you think that a relationship between an older woman (35) and a younger man (23) can be anything more than sex or something casual and temporary? Do I just chalk this up to being in my “prime” and go with it, or do I walk away before someone gets hurt? He says he loves me and I have very strong feelings that I can’t bring myself to label yet. I have been divorced for over three years (so this is no rebound thing) and have children. He has been trying to get me to date him for over a year. I’ve tried dating other older guys, but haven’t felt any chemistry. So, I have finally given in to his protest that “age doesn’t matter.” It’s only about how we feel about each other. I may just be overly concerned with the opinions of outsiders about the age difference. I am also concerned with getting attached to someone who is perhaps too young to really know himself yet.
– Ready to Rob the Cradle
Dear Ready,
Follow this Gilda-Gram: “ your age or older, and there’s been no love connection. So why try to repeat that situation again? This young guy is new and fresh and certainly a unique experience for you. Isn’t life about expansion?
These days, plenty of older women are with younger men, in large part thanks to Hollywood. As far as what others are thinking, Demi and Ashton apparently don’t give a hoot. So why should you?
As far as getting hurt is concerned, whether you are with an older guy or this 23-year-old, there is always the potential that someone’s feelings will end up in the dumpster. There’s always the possibility that the affair will amount only to sex, and will be short-lived. But if you fear this, that’s exactly what you’ll manifest. Another Gilda-Gram to remember is: “What you think about, you bring about.” So quit thinking of all the negative possibilities, and instead open your heart to the potentials.
Have a spirit of adventure! Take the plunge, date for a while, and decide to do whatever you want with what you have when you get there. Who knows what will happen at this early stage? Only one thing is for sure: If you don’t try, you’ll never know what you may be missing!
Hi, Dr. Gilda,
Do you think that a relationship between an older woman (35) and a younger man (23) can be anything more than sex or something casual and temporary? Do I just chalk this up to being in my “prime” and go with it, or do I walk away before someone gets hurt? He says he loves me and I have very strong feelings that I can’t bring myself to label yet. I have been divorced for over three years (so this is no rebound thing) and have children. He has been trying to get me to date him for over a year. I’ve tried dating other older guys, but haven’t felt any chemistry. So, I have finally given in to his protest that “age doesn’t matter.” It’s only about how we feel about each other. I may just be overly concerned with the opinions of outsiders about the age difference. I am also concerned with getting attached to someone who is perhaps too young to really know himself yet.
– Ready to Rob the Cradle
Dear Ready,
Follow this Gilda-Gram: “ your age or older, and there’s been no love connection. So why try to repeat that situation again? This young guy is new and fresh and certainly a unique experience for you. Isn’t life about expansion?
These days, plenty of older women are with younger men, in large part thanks to Hollywood. As far as what others are thinking, Demi and Ashton apparently don’t give a hoot. So why should you?
As far as getting hurt is concerned, whether you are with an older guy or this 23-year-old, there is always the potential that someone’s feelings will end up in the dumpster. There’s always the possibility that the affair will amount only to sex, and will be short-lived. But if you fear this, that’s exactly what you’ll manifest. Another Gilda-Gram to remember is: “What you think about, you bring about.” So quit thinking of all the negative possibilities, and instead open your heart to the potentials.
Have a spirit of adventure! Take the plunge, date for a while, and decide to do whatever you want with what you have when you get there. Who knows what will happen at this early stage? Only one thing is for sure: If you don’t try, you’ll never know what you may be missing!