ow/ym does it last

Hi everybody, this is my first time on here and I have some questions. I am 38 and my boyfriend is 21. Can something like this really last? Or am I living in a dream world? Its been about a year and things are going ok. I have to say I thought I knew what sex should be, boy was I wrong. Anybody have any comments? Or advise.

Thanks for listening, Wendii7545

In any relationship, it really depends on the two people involved in a relationship. I firmly believe that the more special moments we create in a relationship, the more it will grow and last. I wish you luck!

Well, you are your own proof that it can last. You said around a year and still going good? So you are definitely past the few casual dates stage, etc.
Yeah, it can last. ;) I think you have just as much chance as anyone else, age-gap or not. I think Tyger is right...its less about age and more about the two people. I don't think it is any different than people saying a relationship between two people of different races can't make it, just based on that one thing, or people with two different religions, or even two people with different social status....It just does not hold true that things CANNOT work out because of your age difference.
BTW...I am 34, my boyfriend is 20 and we have been together over two years.
Welcome to the site. I'm happy to meet you.

Hi wendii, I live in merritt island, ,florida. I am glad to meet you. I am looking for older women who like younger men to go with and support with. Julie

Well when I met my Y/M I totally questioned the relationship lasting. I am 38 and he is 22. We have been together almost 3 years and the question just doesn't cross my mind anymore. You will see that both of you will get into sync after awhile and believe me...I can relate to your experiences in many ways.

Hi Wendi,

To answer your question...yes it can last. Bear is 26 years my junior. We met on line in the spring of '99. We were married this July and look forward to living happily ever after.

A group with more success stories can be found at www.agegap.net. Almost everyone on the list is in a committed relationship and many of us are married. Stop by and join if you need more reassurance.

Peace,
BA

Well.....

We were 35 and 19. Now we're 39 and 23.

Lasted just fine so far :>

from an OW who was 65...she married him when she was 50, he was 25. He just died last summer at 40, she outlived him. I have two friends that both married 30 ym and they were 50 ow and they are not ea. 36 and 56 respectively and still married. I can be done. Mine only lasted 4 yrs due to his roving eye and me not tolerating the continual over drinking...but I have faith in viewing and hearing bout other people. Each man is different. H.

This post hits home for me. I have a the same question and fear, and my situation is also complicated by the fact that I'm coming out of long abusive marriage (divorced in June) and the y/m I care for will not even meet me until after June. He is 18 and I'm 38, we live 2000 miles away and he is a diabetic (juvenile type).

Lot's of if's and obstacles to overcome, but the greatest "if" for me, is if we have even the remote chance of it lasting longterm. When I first realized there was an attraction, I thought ... nice distraction for a little bit. After months of chatting, talking on yahoo and making faces at each other on webcams :rolleyes: ...... I realize I want more than a fling with him. Once I was in "sabotage mode" as he calls it, and said it would not work cause he would outlive me or would want to runs the roads later and sow his oats. His response was, " I will most likely die long before you of my illness hun, be more trouble than I'm worth, and have no desire to sleep around when I found the best!" (virgin btw)

Reading these posts has kept the hope alive that investing all this energy to overcome such obstacles as the agegap, illness and distance *might* have a sweet reward. I still keep myself grounded to the fact that it's just a sweet dream, but he says I'm clinging to pessimism like a fearful child clings to a blanket.

I know this much for truth. We are soulmates and friends, and love each other with a depth that I never thought possible. My happiness and mental health is most important to him and he loves me for who I am now.... not what I was or who I might be. Maybe, I will hit the jackpot of life and get to share life with him..... maybe only for a few years... maybe not at all. But I am going to try overcome my pessimism and give him a chance --cuz I promised him I would.

This site has helped me keep the dream alive and not push him away. Keep the post coming! *hug*

Thanks for listening to my ramble.
Gypsy

Well, I don't know the exact number of years, but I do know that the minister in my town married a woman who was approximately 18 years older than he when he was in his 30s, and they were married something like 30 years before she passed away with Alzheimers a couple years back. So yeah, of course it is possible. ANYTHING is possible with love involved...

a while ago i posted a real story about my cousin and her husband 17 yrs her junior, they married about 20 years ago when she was 40 and he was only 23, they are still married and very much in love with each other, she is 60 and he is 43.
but..... he was that type of guy that at his age knew what he wanted in life, and his lady was first priority. not every guy at 20 would committ for a lifetime but like in everything theres exceptions to every rule.
I think that yes it can last, depending on the ym in question. and of course how important for him is the relationship with his ow.
Cheers
Adri

Welcome to Agelesslove! I'm 40 and my fiance is 24. We were 36 and 20 when we met. We are both the happiest and most content we've ever been in our lives. We can't imagine our lives without the other. No one notices our age differences. The people who DO find out, think we make a really cute couple. Our families are fine with it, and so are our kids (I have two from a previous marriage, and he also has a kid). We are blessed to have found eachother, and we both KNOW IT! :)

Can something like this really last?


I guess only in time will anyone really know the answer to that.some will,some won't,same as with any relationship.