very very confused

Hey, I am confused. I had never thought of having a relationship with a younger man but, suddenly, I found myself completely in love with him. He is 20, I'm 27. He is English and lives in England, I'm Spanish, living in Spain now. We met in UK, where I went to finish my PHD and he was playing football for a local team. We were living in the same house for three months and fell in love like two kids.

Six months earlier, his girlfriend had left him for an older (and richer) man and he was very sad. My husband had also fallen in love with another woman (older and richer too) and was thinking of leaving me, I was very sad. The pair of us were hurt. His girlfriend was his first love, and so my husband was. Now they want us back, but I am deeply in love with him, and do not want to stay with a husband who, even if he has been very nice to me for 12 years (we get married two years ago though), made a very big mistake not considering my pain when falling in love with another woman. I think that he (my lover) loves me too. Is this love or are we being stupid???

I spend my nights and days thinking of him, but this doesnt mean that i cant see the difficulties. Different ages, different nationalities, very differents jobs... the differences scare me a lot, but I LOVE HIM, what should I do? I have tried to forget him, but I cant. We talk to each other almost every day and we are planning to meet soon, what can I do? I dont even dare to tell my parents...

What you should do is think about whether you could be giving up the one true love of your life. Don't let age be an issue it can sometimes be a blessing.

Hmmm........ Well, if it makes you feel any better......I'd give a lot for only a 7 year age difference :)
You have to go with your heart or risk a deeper kind of damage than loving a y/m would cause you.
Blessings, TD

"Hmmm........ Well, if it makes you feel any better......I'd give a lot for only a 7 year age difference "



I was thinking that same thing but didn't know if I could say it.

Thanks

Why did you say you "think" your YM (young man) loves you too? Has he told you that he loves you yet? Has he said what he wants from the relationship from you, and if so, what did he say?

On your husband, you said: "My husband had also fallen in love with another woman (older and richer too) and was THINKING of leaving me, I was very sad." Had he had sex with her yet when he first told you that? How long has he been wanting you back? Are you living with him now?

These are questions that I am curious about so I can get the whole picture. Oh, last question... do you and your husband have any children? I am so glad that you came here. You will probably get a lot of feedback. Just remember to take what you need and leave the rest. Have a good day.

YW Terri :)
Am an Aries........try as I might to be diplomatic I always seem to blurt out what's on my mind.
Blessings, TD