An introduction

Hi all

I have popped in and out of here for some time now and read many of your posts. I am 43 yrs old and have been in a relationship for over 4 yrs with a YM who is 23. We get on well in most ways, but we always have reoccurring arguments over the fact that he sleeps till after lunch time every day and despite discussing it, promising things will change etc, nothing ever does. I love him dearly and he says he does me, but i cannot help but feel resentment when i run around like mad and he just lies there and snores! When he is up and around he is good with my younger children and helps around the house but i have never been sure that that is enough.

I already have children who all know him well (i met him through my oldest son who is his friend). However, I have just discovered I am pregnant and am completely flawed as to what to think, feel or do.

anyway that is my story and i look forward to meeting some of you, especially those of you with the same kind of age gap.

Thanks
Jax

Welcome!

I'm in a similar age gap and have had in the past a husband that would sleep a lot like that. I can identify with the feelings of resentment you have about that. I think it's not just a laziness, but in my case, depression or more like he was overwhelmed with everything in life and that was his only way to cope with it. It was all too much for him. What would hurt me was that he wouldn't then try to find better ways to learn to cope.

My YM now sleeps late, but that's because he's up til such late hours of the night. Still... it makes me nervous that there may be a repeat and that scares me a little.

because he's up til such late hours of the night. Still... it makes me nervous that there may be a repeat and that scares me a little.

up till late hours of the night, hmmmmmmm :p

Hello, I feel so identified with you. My bf also sleeps a lot. In his case, he cannot get a full time job because he does not have a Panamanian work permit. I think that sleeping is a way to escape a reality that is less than perfect.

I think that there has been another topic about YM sleeping too much.

By the way, welcome to AL, but I think that this thread should go in the OW/YM Relationshihp support section. Perhaps one of the moderatos can move it for you.

Maybe its just me, but this doesnt sound good at all in my ears. You are uncertain about your relationship with him? "however" you are pregnant with his child?

I was a guy who slept til 12am most days and that mostly because I was kinda in the situation sheila described "I think that sleeping is a way to escape a reality that is less than perfect."

But that all changed when I met this girl.. :eek:

I'm not saying he doesnt love you but I think he is taking you for granted and doesnt feel he needs to make an effort.

Maybe ;) I'm no relationship expert(not even close :) )

Sorry for being a bit blunt... but I have to admit I'm sort of wondering exactly what the problem is....


the kid sleeping in and not helping with the dishes... or the impending pregnancy which you don't exactly sound overjoyed at, not to mention almost appearing to be an afterthrought in your post

I hope I am reading your post wrong. Which may well be the case. Hope everything turns out best.. if it's just a matter of him sleeping too long.. simply get him out of bed. A pail of cold water worked when we were in the service hahahhah

You said he snores... there is an off chance that he may have Obstructive Sleep Apnea. Look it up on the Internet and see if it fits. Not getting the quality of sleep needed makes one want to sleep longer than we usually need. Hope it gets better.:)

I live by Pensacola and I wonder how it is that we still have a mindset that age matters. I may be old fashioned but not old in the mind. As far as the man snoring, well, I haven't met many men who don't snore, I just roll him over or I rub his arms, but in the south, it is very hard to get by the bigotry and find a man who is funny and younger, anywhere between 30-35 or a little younger. I feel so young and outgoing. I love the outdoors. I love romance. I didn't even know this site existed. Thank you for listening. And do you always have to be 36-23-36 to attract a younger man? Help:D