I'm 40 now & an "older man" of 35 "stole" me from my 25-year-old boyfriend in October 2005. I feel really stupid & I apologized to my old boyfriend. I didn't make any excuses. I just told him I regret it. We've been on 2 dates recently & we both had a great time & have another date in 2 days.
My husband dumped me in 2004 after I had his babies. I met my ym in January 2005 & was very happy with him. But at the same time, being in the process of divorce & with 4 kids & needing support financially & around the house I fell for some other guy's offer to help me put my life back together. He was helpful but it didn't take long for me to realize I'd made a big mistake. Unfortunately it's taken me almost a year to get him to move out because he turned out to be one of those people that has trouble keeping a job and paying bills & such so he was actually more of a drain on me as time wore on. Jeez I wonder if I'll EVER get it right!!! Anyway, I'm just really happy to be back even though I feel so dumb.
Mandrake Root 06-05-2007, 07:33 PM welcome back... and don't be so hard on yourself. I could write a book on all the mistakes I've made. Getting back up after being knocked down and still having the capacity to love and to trust is what, in my humble opinion, what sets the truly special people apart from others. Don't be so hard on yourself, you are still young.. and have lots of open road in front of you.
Julie 06-05-2007, 09:16 PM Welcome back!!! It sounds like you have had a really rough time. Don't be so hard on yourself, we all make mistakes. Now, you can start to pick up the pieces and turn things around!!!:)
Alawiy 06-05-2007, 09:34 PM Welcome back - and wow to you for being so brave to tell about your mistake!
greeneyedgirl 06-05-2007, 09:56 PM welcome back... and don't be so hard on yourself. I could write a book on all the mistakes I've made.
oh my my my, i guess you aren't aware of the book i DID write, hu?
it's entitled I always zig when I shoulda zagged
undertitle Oh Lord, why did I do that?.....again
thinking of starting my own self-help group also, gonna call ourselves
'We B Morons'
kinda a takeoff of 'Toys R Us' but it works, i think ;) lol
lol, i remember you Mama, wb! we're happy to have you around again. :yes:
Mandrake Root 06-05-2007, 10:23 PM oh my my my, i guess you aren't aware of the book i DID write, hu?
it's entitled I always zig when I shoulda zagged
undertitle Oh Lord, why did I do that?.....again
thinking of starting my own self-help group also, gonna call ourselves
'We B Morons'
kinda a takeoff of 'Toys R Us' but it works, i think ;) lol
lol, i remember you Mama, wb! we're happy to have you around again. :yes:
hahha.. arrrggg.... I missed that one. I might have been able to contribute to it at the very least. ;)
Kristin 06-05-2007, 10:46 PM Been there, done that. You'r not alone - and I'm a perfect example of "It's never too late!" :yes:
Science Goddess 06-05-2007, 11:14 PM oh my my my, i guess you aren't aware of the book i DID write, hu?
it's entitled I always zig when I shoulda zagged
Shoot, I was almost certain that is the story of my life. (Good one, Tracy!)
Welcome back, Mama. I don't know you from before but echo what others have already said:
We all make mistakes.
Sometimes, they're doozies.
Ah, well, we should only kick ourselves for a moment and then get on with it. We can't go backward, only forward.
And it sounds like you're going forward. Good deal!
Awww... thanks for the support, guys. I do feel like a big burden is off of me and I can go back to the one that makes me happy. I've learned over the past year-and-a-half just how much that is worth. He may not mow my lawn, but I was always sooooo happy with him, and the other guy only mowed my lawn once in that whole time anyway so... well, hmm... do the math.
Hey, ya know what's funny? Since he's not officially my boyfriend, I can introduce him as my old boyfriend. Get it? OLD?!
Mandrake Root 06-12-2007, 08:51 PM Awww... thanks for the support, guys. I do feel like a big burden is off of me and I can go back to the one that makes me happy. I've learned over the past year-and-a-half just how much that is worth. He may not mow my lawn, but I was always sooooo happy with him, and the other guy only mowed my lawn once in that whole time anyway so... well, hmm... do the math.
hahha.. glad to hear it. Happiness is really all that matters isn't it?
have to chuckle about your comment about doing the math.. used to be a favorite saying of mine.. until that fateful semester I took theoretical algebra my senior year of college. Nothing like seeing through mathematics the life illustration that nothing is what it appears. To most people... if you tell them 3+2=11 they'll look at you like you are crazy. Then again... it's just doing the math. Can't tell you how many free drinks I used to win showing people you can do that back in the wild days of youth hahah.
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