Update for Friends

My dear Ageless friends. I think I owe some of you an update.

Where have I been ?

Behind the olive tree... hiding :p

Seriously. I've been around, reading the forums randomly and occasionally but not posting.

I honestly got fed up with some posters' attitude and their ideas depressed me. But that's just me. Of course everyone is entitled to his/her opinion,
but I needed to get away, and not to be constantly reminded of certain things.

Apart from that, the book that I had been working on was finally published. Utter rubbish. After my ex-husband's death, too many people took upon them the responsibility to interfere even though they knew nothing about the subject. They should have just let me handle it as M. had wished, but anyway .......

I am still struggling with my career, I know I'm going to loose my salary, but I will keep the company's name. I was asked to speak at a conference in a VERY prestigious institution last week, and that's a first for me.

Another reason why I haven't been posting is because in February I met P.. Our situation is not appreciated here, and this is not the appropriate forum to talk about it. He is only 2 years younger so I'm not in an AGR. He is also unhappily married and the father of 2 children of 10 and 13.

He is English, lives in England, has been separated from his wife for more than a year.When we met, he still shared the house with her and their 2 children for financial reasons. They slept in separate bedrooms and communicated only on the subject of the children. They both dated other people after the agreement to separate.

We met on Second Life, (which is an online interactive community). We really made our second lives there, bought land, made friends, got engaged, and we promised to keep it as such, but as time went by, our real lives sneaked in. We realised that we were both in need to escape our real lives but that we were also falling in love and wanted to know if it was real or virtual love.

We met on the 25th of May. He came to Paris, spent 5 days here and we fell head over heals in love with each other. He is a very simple guy. Very smart, easy, HILARIOUS, full of life, hard worker, very honest and very courageous.. oh and very handsome and while I'm at it, the best lover I've ever had. :yes:

As soon as he went back, to my greatest surprise, he decided to move out of the house. They finally decided to divide it. His wife buys his half, he will get his own place and he reassures me that everyone is happy. I know how strange he must be feeling, living at mum and dad's right now, but he does not want me to carry any of the burden of his private life.

We speak daily, and he makes a huuuuuge effort to get in touch when he travels, and he travels ALOT. We are planning a trip to Scotland to rent a cottage by Loch Aline, don't know when, but soon.

One thing is obvious to both of us, and that is , we will never be able to live together. His children and career are in England, my child and career are in France. However, we are really glad that England is not in the North Pole.

Anyway, we have both been married and have built families. We do not wish to share our daily lives and quarrel about dishes and laundry. We know that by living apart, each time that we will meet, it will be a fiesta. So what's better than punctuating our lives with days of pure bliss ?

So that is the story, for those who are interested.

And by the way, if you have an avatar in Second Life, come and see us, we have built a great dance floor on the roof of P's music studio :)

Hi Sweetie,

Good to hear your update. I played SecondLife. I did prefer There, probably sentimental because thats where I met Dev. As I am sure you know, very similar (albeit with a lot less creativity and community ownership) to SecondLife.

Happy to hear that you are doing so well.

Love to you!

Rebecca

Great that you are doing well Loucine. Thanks for sharing.:)

Hi Loucine,

Nice to hear from you! I have an avatar in Second Life and when I get a moment I'll pm you with the name.

I understand what you're saying about the forum about poster's attitudes and getting a little depressed by them. I think some of that has happened to me lately, too.

How wonderful that things in your life are turning around.

Bub

Hi Loucine

Welcome back!! I'm glad your doing well!! Hope to see more of you!

Meredith

Hi Loucine! :)

I just want you to be happy. Wherever and however you find that.

I'm glad you haven't forgot about us here!

:bighug:

~~Angel~~

wow... your situation in general is very similar to ours. I've mentioned it in passing but you are right, this isn't the appropriate forum for it. Nice to see no one has taken any shots at me for the way we handled it though. My marriage had long since become a farce... we hated each other and only our love for our children had kept us together. It had been that way for years. When H.S. was given to me by life, or fate or what have you... I had to decide what was best for me and I did. I met her on a prog rock music website.. not exactly THE place to go to find women hahhaha. As they say.. when you least expect it.. it can happen.

....Anyway, we have both been married and have built families. We do not wish to share our daily lives and quarrel about dishes and laundry. We know that by living apart, each time that we will meet, it will be a fiesta. So what's better than punctuating our lives with days of pure bliss ?...

Fantastic news, Aline. I'm happy you've found such a good mate. Who can argue with pure bliss?? ;)

So glad to hear from you and very happy to learn you have love in your life.

I get entirely what you say but we miss you.

Stay well.

Hi Loucine!

Your story is soooo romantic. Congrat's on all the positive things you've got going on right now.

And...... good to see you, happy you updated us! :bgrin2:

So good to hear from you all :)

Marcy, you look great ! bubbleee, come and see us soon, can't wait to get your PM.

I miss exchanging ideas with all of you and thank you for not being judgmental about my situation with P.

I forgot to mention that his wife and children have always been aware of our relationship. His computer used to be in the kitchen and everyone could read our funny IM-s.

They knew where he was going when he came to Paris and who he was staying with. P. was honest with me from day 1 and told me that he was married but separated. No guilty feelings from eaither side.

His daughters even IM-d him while he was here, saying "daddy, is she nice" ?

aline...glad you checked in...have been wondering.
stay well, be happy.

Hey Aline! I should really have emailed you, shouldn't I. :o

Just so you know, no judgement here. The first time I came over to the US to see Donna she was in the same house as the ex... in separate rooms. They were taking their time over splitting everything and selling up.

Glad to hear you're doing well.

Hey Loucine, just wanted to say "thanks for the update" and that things will go on well for you :)

Sorry that the book thingie didn't turn out as you wanted it to, though, it must be such a letdown after putting so much effort in ... :(

Well, I hope that things will get better now and that you will find the necessary peace of mind as well :D

Hi Aline! Great seeing you on here again, and all best wishes to you and P.! No judgments here.:)


One thing is obvious to both of us, and that is , we will never be able to live together. His children and career are in England, my child and career are in France. However, we are really glad that England is not in the North Pole.


Well, that's what the Chunnel is for. France is the easiest international destination for an Englishman, and if I were going to commute to another city to see someone, there's no place I'd rather go than to Paris!

Hugs to you,

Dave

So glad to hear that things are going well for you. :yes:

Hey Aline. I know we didn't really know each other here, but I'm glad you're doing ok. I've kind of stayed away from here myself lately. (Just busy with other things.) But I still enjoy reading the forums and posting every now and then.

Take care and keep in touch. :)

I am glad that you have found love in your life :)

And i hope things continue to go well for you. Nice to "see" you :yes:

Thank you for your well wishes :) I miss you all, I really do !

Rob, congratulations to you and D :D sooooooooooooo happy for you !!!!!!

I wanted to e-mail you also, but your address has changed.

Please do stay in touch and I'm still hoping to meet you two one day .

Wow, that IS romantic, and also no judgements from me whatsoever. Im happy for you both.

however, you now have made me interested in second life, like I can afford to spend ANY more time on the computer, but still, it sounds fun!

i am happy for you also, i feel like an old friend or at least a person i admire just stopped by. missed having you around!!! blessings to you and i hope to read more things from you, i miss your intelligence, kindness and world experience.

yeah! aline stopped by!

Joe, pleaaaase join Second Life :o I would sooooo much like to see you there :)

Kiittylane, so happy to hear from you. You are one of the most amazing people I've met on Ageless. It is so refreshing to see someone so open-minded, so eager to understand :) you really are wonderful my friend :)

Hey Aline great to hear you are doing so well. I regularly have breaks for the same reason but often come back refreshed and ready to re-engage with like minded people. I also like the idea of not having a live in lover and have someone who is a frequent friend to have "interludes" with....its fun and not mundane at all....do you have any plans career wise or are you just going to wing it....blessings to you enjoy your journey

Hello Freespirit, thanks for your post. Actually I'm in a dilemma
concerning my career. My late ex-husband's company did not survive, I lost my job yesterday which is very sad.
The only interesting job offer that I have at the moment is in Dubai. They want me to be the deputy editor for the pictures department of a press group. Quite an interesting and well-paid position. The problem however is my son :confused:

aline... i take it that it is a distance then.... i forget, how old is your son? but also they enter OUR lives, not the other way around.
if that is the offer that will take care of you both, there really is no question.

Hi there,

Having already hailed your return on another thread, nonetheless, I'm happy to do it again.

I've missed you very much, and while I understand what you are saying re: this website, your free spirit and downright common sense has been sorely missed.

Re: your new b/f, as far as I'm concerned, you've hit the jackpot. I never want to live with another lover again. Short visits and traveling are the ideal. Forget hanging around for the laundry and the crabby moods after a bad day at work.

Those who would judge the marriage issue, well, forget them. Honestly, I think that issue is beginning to go the way of gay marriage. It's just a lot more accepted these days that marriage often doesn't work out, and people find lots of alternate solutions, esp. those with kids.

Sorry to hear of the job dilemma.
XXOO Kat

Thank you Kat, I missed you and admire you just as much, maybe even more :)

Christina, yes it's quite a distance. My son will be 11 in September and I cannot take him along. His father refuses to come and live with him in the apartment here, so I will have to find a young student to live with him.

It really breaks my heart, but I don't know what else I can do. I have too many depts and no job opportunities in France :(

That also means that I will have to sort of give up on P. , because we won't be able to meet more than once a year :confused:

so I will have to find a young student to live with him.:eek: How scary! He is only 11. Is he used to being separated from you?

hello dear Barbara. It's more than scarey, we have been very close since he was born and we had never evoked the idea of being separated before.

That's my big dilemma at the moment. If I stay, we might be in such financial hardship that he will have to deal with a depressed mum, if I go, I will save the situation but leave my son. My idea was to leave him here until I know that my situation there is stable, after that, I will take him there with me.

Wish I wasn't alone in this, how I wish his father could feel even slightly responsible.

I made it very clear that he will keep the flat and I will pay him a pension since he will be keeping our son. The guy is sick, there's not much that I can do about it.

Hello Aline

Long time honey. Glad to see things have been looking up recently, but what to do about the job situation? You once told me to take risks and be alive. Well, I'm too much of a coward to do that. But you are not. Go to the middle east, and take Sevan with you. Why does he have to stay in Paris? He is 11 years old, put him in an international school and get out of the west.

I hope you are well....

E

Hey Edu,

Good to see you again.

Aline moving to the M.E.??? Never gonna happen...BUT I wish it would so I could see her more often!!!

The very, very strange thing is that the only reason I just signed onto Ageless was to post a "Where's Aline?" thread. I normally communicate with her outside of Ageless...and I haven't seen her in weeks. I am really worried. Aline, please...come out, come out where ever you are!!!

Ok I really want to bump this because I am starting to worry about Aline very much. She has never *totally* disappeared like this...

Has ANYONE heard from her???

How long has it been?

I show that she was on Ageless on July 23, so 7 days ago?

Really Jo??? Ok that makes me feel a lot better...hopefully she'll turn up soon.

Thanks Jo...

Ok, I can call off the search party...I've found her. She was out of town for a while...but all is well and she is safe, wheeeeeeeeew!!!

Phew! Now THAT'S a relief!!! :yay:

So many things about your post just made me smile! I wish you my best!

:bighug:

(Oops! Missed the part where she was missing.......glad she's OK!)

Thanks to you Edu, you're the one who intoroduced me to Second Life :)

As for the rest, get your butt on yahoo !

edit to add: not missing at all, I was only in Normandie :)