A day without criticising

Anybody ever try it?

I think I could go a day with voicing criticism, but I'd love to go a day without THINKING critical thoughts about anyone.

Make it even more challenging and try not criticizing yourself that same day!

That's a good idea, Zollie!

Have you ever tried a day without criticising?

I try to do it as much as possible, but tomorrow I'm going to make an even more conscious effort!

Great goal, Chatter....I'm on board for tomorrow too. No one likes a person with a critical, mean-spirited cynical soul anyway. I have so much on my plate in the next two weeks that I've found myself whining a lot lately (not enough time, not enough money, blah blah blah). Stopping that too.

Thanks for the kick in the behind as a reminder to practice what I totally endorse!!:yes:

i tried once.


i blew up. :bgrin2:

Great, Zollipup! I'm going to give it a try, also!

Special K, you're picking a stressful time to do it, but if you can cut out the criticism, it will also decrease the stress; and wouldn't it be lovely to, dare I say it, ENJOY this exciting time? :) Good luck!!!

GEG, you nut!

There's three steps to get to criticism: observation, perception, and judgment; and there's a thought process between each step. I think the key may be stopping the thought process that leads to the critical conclusion, but it's SO FAST that I've reached the critical judgment before I get a chance to try to control it! :eek:

It's certainly a challenge!!! :yes:

I can let go of a critical, judgmental thought, but I'd like to stop it before I have it.

coolies Im up for it!! HUGS! great idea chatter..I would love to see this!

coolies Im up for it!! HUGS! great idea chatter..I would love to see this!

Alright!!! :thumbsup_still:

If nothing else, I think it'll be entertaining watching ourselves try!

Alright!!! :thumbsup_still:

If nothing else, I think it'll be entertaining watching ourselves try!

LOL wont that be the truth..my god you talk to much! JUST KIDDING..ya know i love ya!:tongue2:

how about going a day without thinking about sex. who could do THAT? :p

now that think about it...who could go an HOUR w/out thinking about it.:cool:

how about going a day without thinking about sex. who could do THAT? :p

now that think about it...who could go an HOUR w/out thinking about it.:cool:

LOL oh HECK NO!! im at my peek buddy...Thats like saying don't go pee for 2 weeks for me!! LOL

My mom taught me two very important life lessons.

1. If you don't have anything good to say about someone, don't say anything at all.

2. If you think that you know enough about someone to judge them, walk a mile in their shoes first.

I don't always practice what mom taught me. And on the days when I don't, I feel nauseous in the pit of my stomach. Because I know mom was right. But, generally, this is how I live my life.

On message boards, we really only have a small peek into each other's lives, and therefore no way that we can know enough about each other to fully know each other. So, this is a really great place to post a thread like this Chatters. I hope others will take up the cause today. I know I will.

Thank you

2. If you think that you know enough about someone to judge them, walk a mile in their shoes first.

Just to take that thought a bit further...

If you think that you know enough about someone to judge them, walk a mile in their shoes first. That way if you still want to criticize them you're a mile away and you got their shoes! :bgrin2:

You know I'd be a heck of a lot less inclined to criticize if people would just stop talking. ;) :tongue2:

I'm a bad puttycat.


i tried once.


i blew up.


You're a hoot. :giggle:

I can try, but you're all paying me and Trace's inevitable medical bill!

how about going a day without thinking about sex. who could do THAT? :p

now that think about it...who could go an HOUR w/out thinking about it.:cool:

Next. Not even an option. :tongue2:

how about going a day without thinking about sex. who could do THAT? :p

now that think about it...who could go an HOUR w/out thinking about it.:cool:

OH NO...this topic again? no comment!! ;)

I'm at the stage where i'm about to do something 'reckless' :bgrin2:

anyhow...about critisizing (however ya spell it) - i dont usually do it to people. I might think it though, so i'll try not to.

I'm usually not judgemental either. Especially before i know someone, or very much of the facts. Altho if youre talking about on here, many times you dont get alot of facts, only what a person needs to share about a certain topic.

LOL wont that be the truth..my god you talk to much! JUST KIDDING..ya know i love ya!:tongue2:

Well you blew it right away! :p

I made it until 1:00, but then I blew it, but it was funny ... dang, that's always my downfall.

I'm going to keep trying.

Well you blew it right away! :p

I made it until 1:00, but then I blew it, but it was funny ... dang, that's always my downfall.

I'm going to keep trying.

Good morning! the sun is shining..the birds are chirping..the dog wet on the carpet..OOH i love mornings!

Anybody ever try it?

I think I could go a day with voicing criticism, but I'd love to go a day without THINKING critical thoughts about anyone.

Kumbaya, chatterbox, kumbaya :)

Kumbaya, chatterbox, kumbaya :)

:giggle:

Or for Seinfeld fans: SERENITY NOW!!! SERENITY NOW!!!

I made it all day. I definitely did not criticize anyone else, but if I had to be perfectly honest... I tried not to be hard on myself, but I probably was.

You know, when you are less hard on other people, you are less hard on yourself and that's a good thing :)

So, baby steps... I did ok!

I made it all day. I definitely did not criticize anyone else, but if I had to be perfectly honest... I tried not to be hard on myself, but I probably was.

You know, when you are less hard on other people, you are less hard on yourself and that's a good thing :)

So, baby steps... I did ok!


Good for you, Zoliepup!!! :ohyes:

I failed to be perfect, but I reduced my critical thoughts by at least 90%, so it was well worth the effort, and I'm going to keep on working at it. Much better than making critical judgments, and when I didn't make a critical judgment, I avoided making any judgment. I liked it.

It's amazing how much anger comes from making judgments and how much more pleasant not making them is!

Good point about being less hard on others makes us less hard on ourselves! It also works the other way, being less hard on ourselves makes us less hard on others. One feeds the other.

Here we go!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have you gone Aussie or English on us now CB? :tongue2: (It's "criticizing", at least here in the states...sorry, couldn't resist!)

Wouldn't you know, I don't consider criticizing a BAD thing. To me it means to consider the merits and demerits of a person, situation, even a piece of architecture, and judge accordingly.

We all do it all day long, every day. If we didn't criticize appropriately and discern what is right for us, we'd make poor choices for ourselves over and over.

Criticism only leans into the negative category if you are judging everything negatively all the time because you are a negative leaning/seeking person.

Okay, so, meanwhile, I get the intent of your post...just throwing out alternative viewpoints here.

Here we go!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have you gone Aussie or English on us now CB? :tongue2: (It's "criticizing", at least here in the states...sorry, couldn't resist!)

I'm sorry you have posted in the wrong thread. This is a recording.

Here we go!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have you gone Aussie or English on us now CB? :tongue2: (It's "criticizing", at least here in the states...sorry, couldn't resist!)

Wouldn't you know, I don't consider criticizing a BAD thing. To me it means to consider the merits and demerits of a person, situation, even a piece of architecture, and judge accordingly.

We all do it all day long, every day. If we didn't criticize appropriately and discern what is right for us, we'd make poor choices for ourselves over and over.

Criticism only leans into the negative category if you are judging everything negatively all the time because you are a negative leaning/seeking person.

Okay, so, meanwhile, I get the intent of your post...just throwing out alternative viewpoints here.


I'm with Kat. How about going a day without complaining? Might be harder for some to manage that one, lol.

I'm with Kat. How about going a day without complaining? Might be harder for some to manage that one, lol.

I found that with less criticism I was complaining less, but I guarantee that you have just put up a challenge that I would fail no matter what--probably in the first few minutes of waking up. Maybe I'll try next month when residency is over!

For me, it's purely selfish. I'm happier when I'm not criticizing. Don't get me wrong, I can enjoy being critical (and I often do :blush: ) but I am happier when not.

I agree chatter...I think there should be a no criticizing day!!!!

However, I think some people are not happy unless they are criticizing other people. Maybe it makes them feel better about themselves.. Who knows :ohyes:

I agree chatter...I think there should be a no criticizing day!!!!

However, I think some people are not happy unless they are criticizing other people. Maybe it makes them feel better about themselves.. Who knows :ohyes:

Now now, play nice Mer.

Now now, play nice Mer.

I was.... I have a friend that criticizes people everyday... I swear she can't walk down the street without saying something about someone... BUt I swear she feels better after shes done it lol... I tell her all the time she's a "W"itch.....

I was.... I have a friend that criticizes people everyday... I swear she can't walk down the street without saying something about someone... BUt I swear she feels better after shes done it lol... I tell her all the time she's a "W"itch.....

Rather contradictory to your recent proclamation that you only hang out with "positive-minded people." :p

I believe the ability to discern or critique is essential to one's happiness. I agree with Zoliepup wholeheardedly. Complaining is a whole other realm that I like to stay away from, and even if I have a legitimate complaint, I rarely express it unless I think it'll do some good. I just swear a lot to compensate.

One of the most critical people I know is a friend who is a university professor. She can run circles around most in terms of seeing sides of issues, persons, places, things that I would never think of. I love being with her because I learn so much. A lot of people think she's a little *itchy, but I think she's brilliant in how she analyzes the world.

[QUOTE=kat7;477663]Rather contradictory to your recent proclamation that you only hang out with "positive-minded people." :p

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I made a proclamation??? Interesting....:cool: I do hang around with positve minded people ( don't remember saying those exact words) but I dont' like to hang around with those who are depressed every min of everyday or those who like to hurt others for the "sake" of hurting someones feelings...IMO is ridiculous. .


There is a time and a place for everything... But I still think chatter has a point... it would be nice if people for ONE day could get awy from criticizing others and try to find the good for only one day...

as a reminder, here you go....

Kat ... I only like to be around positive people...

two words: ginko biloba :D

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I made a proclamation??? Interesting....:cool: I do hang around with positve minded people ( don't remember saying those exact words) but I dont' like to hang around with those who are depressed every min of everyday or those who like to hurt others for the "sake" of hurting someones feelings...IMO is ridiculous.

You read it from a scroll...i swear you did! :D

I like to hang around with positive people. Then when i'm NOT that way, they can pick me up and remind me to knock it off.

I have a friend, we call her "B.O.D. lady" (Benefit of the Doubt) because she gives EVERYone the benefit of the doubt...no matter who we might be talking about, or who has done something to irritate one of us. it takes alot for her to get angry about someone, and yes she eventually will if they really do her wrong. in the meantime, she'll gently make up 100 excuses for why they might be the way the are, and it really makes you think.

I like to try to find the good in things, and in people. I just find it works better for my own state of mind. Granted i cant always do it, depending on my mood. But i feel much crappier when i'm trashing someone or something.

as a reminder, here you go....



two words: ginko biloba :D

I knew I didn't say Postive minded :tongue2:

Three Words: Kava kava root :bgrin2:

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You read it from a scroll...i swear you did! :D

I like to hang around with positive people. Then when i'm NOT that way, they can pick me up and remind me to knock it off.

I have a friend, we call her "B.O.D. lady" (Benefit of the Doubt) because she gives EVERYone the benefit of the doubt...no matter who we might be talking about, or who has done something to irritate one of us. it takes alot for her to get angry about someone, and yes she eventually will if they really do her wrong. in the meantime, she'll gently make up 100 excuses for why they might be the way the are, and it really makes you think.

I like to try to find the good in things, and in people. I just find it works better for my own state of mind. Granted i cant always do it, depending on my mood. But i feel much crappier when i'm trashing someone or something.

I did !! LOL I hear ya.... I like to try and find the good things myself....But after my boyfriend died.... I've lived for 5 years depressed and sad and angry and being that way that when I matured and grew up I realized how lonely I was and Made me realize how special life is and I wake up happy every morning with a positive outlook. I get stressed like everyone else... but I always find a way to pick myself up!!

Make it even more challenging and try not criticizing yourself that same day!

I completely agree with you here..... I think it's definitely harder not to criticize myself. I manage a group of indviduals and I know I am harder on myself.

I did !! LOL I hear ya.... I like to tray and find the good things myself....But after my boyfriend died.... I've lived for 5 years depressed and sad and angry and being that way that when I matured and grew up I realized how lonely I was and Made me realize how special life is and I wake up happy every morning with a positive outlook. I get stressed like everyone else... but I always find a way to pick myself up!!

At least you got over it, and tried to find the better in life. Some people who lose loved one's never seem to get past it and that is sad. But others like you take it in stride.

At least you got over it, and tried to find the better in life. Some people who lose loved one's never seem to get past it and that is sad. But others like you take it in stride.

Thanks!! I've learned a lot in 32 years. Everyday is a GREAT day if i touch the ground each morning! I'm not sure I got over it; however, i've learned how to channel it and believe in something more than what we see. I've learned how to live thru the memories and know he's with me each and every day!!

Thanks!! I've learned a lot in 32 years. Everyday is a GREAT day if i touch the ground each morning! I'm not sure I got over it; however, i've learned how to channel it and believe in something more than what we see. I've learned how to live thru the memories and know he's with me each and every day!!

And of course keep a positive mind...right?:tongue2:

And of course keep a positive mind...right?:tongue2:

Yes!!:yes:

I did !! LOL I hear ya.... I like to try and find the good things myself....But after my boyfriend died.... I've lived for 5 years depressed and sad and angry and being that way that when I matured and grew up I realized how lonely I was and Made me realize how special life is and I wake up happy every morning with a positive outlook. I get stressed like everyone else... but I always find a way to pick myself up!!

I didnt know you had that tragedy in your life. I am sorry you did.

Something like that can really change you for quite a while...and lots of times you do end up appreciating life even more. I'm glad that part did happen with you :)

I know that being angry at the world, etc., can eat you up...i've been there!

I didnt know you had that tragedy in your life. I am sorry you did.

Something like that can really change you for quite a while...and lots of times you do end up appreciating life even more. I'm glad that part did happen with you :)

I know that being angry at the world, etc., can eat you up...i've been there!

Thanks.. He died 9 years ago.. he was only 25 and I was 23 together 7 years. Thats why I love Chatters Thread.... I think its a great idea to try and not criticize others all the time and to try and do one day without it and just try and see the good in people and if you can't to just let it go.. I know we can't always.. thats an unreasonable request but I think to try and take one day and not I think it's a GREAT idea!!

Thanks!! I've learned a lot in 32 years. Everyday is a GREAT day if i touch the ground each morning! I'm not sure I got over it; however, i've learned how to channel it and believe in something more than what we see. I've learned how to live thru the memories and know he's with me each and every day!!

Mer:

That was a beautiful post. It's kind of nice to know someone you loved is on the other side, championing you, right? We should all remember that about our loved ones. I think they all hang around us at times, lifting us up. :angel2:

Delete mindless babbling.


Keep: "Man I love that giraffe in my signature!!!"

Delete mindless babbling.

Wait a minute. I thought you didn't want to criticize yourself, and here you are doing it!!

We love your "mindless babble."

You should let us be the judge, and leave the criticizing to us!!

Wait a minute. I thought you didn't want to criticize yourself, and here you are doing it!!

We love your "mindless babble."

You should let us be the judge, and leave the criticizing to us!!


"Mindless babble" is an honest assessment of what I deleted, not a criticism of it! :p

Sorry to take away your fun!!!

:giggle:

so we see some have succeeded in not criticizing and some have not...

however more importantly...



who has gone a day without thinking about sex?:bgrin2:

so we see some have succeeded in not criticizing and some have not...

however more importantly...



who has gone a day without thinking about sex?:bgrin2:


Actually...I can vouch for that. :(

so we see some have succeeded in not criticizing and some have not...

however more importantly...



who has gone a day without thinking about sex?:bgrin2:

Obviously not you, Mano. Heck, you can't even stop posting about it!!! :tongue3:

:rofl:

so we see some have succeeded in not criticizing and some have not...

however more importantly...



who has gone a day without thinking about sex?:bgrin2:

LOL me? not think about sex? Hunny listen and remember this ..I HIT MY PEAK! LOL

ps mer I LOVE YA! great positive thoughts from you. I love to see people who try to avoid all the negative life tries to feed us. HUGS to you

Obviously not you, Mano. Heck, you can't even stop posting about it!!! :tongue3:

:rofl:

LMAO...wow thats true..he is the ageless pervert and i meant that in a positvie WAY!:tongue2:

Actually...I can vouch for that. :(

I'm sorry for your sister Angel, i'm sending prayers and positive thoughts.

Obviously not you, Mano. Heck, you can't even stop posting about it!!! :tongue3:



yeah, well i tried. I last all about 2 minutes. :cool:

Btw, that flirtatious giraffe cracks me up.

LMAO...wow thats true..he is the ageless pervert and i meant that in a positvie WAY!:tongue2:

not the ageless pervert....the ageless doctor of luuuuuuuv....and um...i forgot the other names...

I can only go moments without thinking about sex.

As a matter of fact, i only slept two hours because i was tired of not thinking about it :bgrin2:

not the ageless pervert....the ageless doctor of luuuuuuuv....and um...i forgot the other names...

Captain lovepants and Sgt sexyman???

Mer:

That was a beautiful post. It's kind of nice to know someone you loved is on the other side, championing you, right? We should all remember that about our loved ones. I think they all hang around us at times, lifting us up. :angel2:

Thank you Kat... It wasn't easy... and just the other day in the car I heard a song and started crying it never goes away but it definitely gets channeled.

Delete mindless babbling.


Keep: "Man I love that giraffe in my signature!!!"


MAN i love your giraffe!!!!! I was going to tell you before!! It's great!!


Mano... LOL another chitchat thread turned sexual LOL

Dont know if the pic will work...it's my niece sharing a cracker with a giraffe :D

http://i.pbase.com/g6/94/532594/3/80507580.CkCUFSoT.jpg

I couldn't see it, Jellybean, but that happened once before, remember? Everyone could see it but me and then when I signed on again, I could see it too. Weird.

It didn't happen this time. I still can't see it.

BTW, i tried. I last all about 2 minutes. :cool:

Btw, that flirtatious giraffe cracks me up.

Now you're scaring me, Mano/Dr. O/Dr of Looooove!

It reminds me of the day my then-husband told me I had eyes as pretty as a Jersey cow, and since he said it in a flirtatious way, and since he had a lot of opportunities to be alone with Jersey cows, it scared me!!! :p