OHLis
06-26-2007, 10:11 AM
Hi all,
I've been absent for a few weeks, we went away on vacation to the AL gulf coast where YM is from and spent a much needed week alone together at his parents beach house.
We had an amazing time. The surroundings were beautiful, the scenery was beautiful, and well, it just turned out to be a very healing and magical week together for both of us. Something about sitting on a pier in the middle of the water late at night with no sounds but the water rushing in and no sights but the moon and stars is very moving spiritually and emotionally.
Our day to day lives are so stressful and full of distractions and we so often lose touch with one another, totally unintentionally, but we do it regardless...and this week was completely devoted to us just being us. No kids, no jobs, no animals to tend to, no phone calls. It was heaven.
We actually had time to sit and talk, really talk, for hours if we wanted to with no interuptions, and no concern for the clock.
I had never been down there. We have been together for 4+ years and I had never seen where he came from. I had met all of his family members because they have come here multiple times, but I had never seen where he grew up and never had the opportunity to see what his life was like before me.
I dont know why...but it REALLY effected me in a way I didnt expect.
His life down there was SO different than the way it is here. His family owns a very successful seafood business. He started working with his father when he was 10. By age 18 he had enough money saved to buy his own market and when I met him at age 21 he had had the market for a few years and was doing really well. He took me there to show it to me....and I was overcome with emotion...totally unexpected. I just kept looking at it and thinking, my God, you gave this all up for me? He was set, wouldve been able to retire by age 35, wouldve never had to worry about money, and now he is working a regular job struggling to climb the ladder in a business he knew nothing about when he started. I knew all of this of course....but seeing it infront of me really smacked me in the face.
Add in the fact that his family are all very close...grandparents, aunts uncles, cousins, etc...they all live and work there together, very close knit. They adore him, so much, him coming down there was a huge event for them. He left them all behind...for me..and tells me constantly how it was the best decision he ever made, and he never regrets it. It was all very moving for me, to see it all, right infront of me. I guess it made his words have more meaning, I dont know.
As many of you know, due to my past "baggage" I was unwilling to take the plunge and marry him, and before we left I was struggling with the idea of trying to have a baby even though the original "window" we agreed upon for getting pregnant was supposed to be closed on my 38th birthday.
Well...both of those have been decided. We were sitting out on the pier one night late...quiet, just enjoying the sights and sounds and he looked at me and said..."Im so happy, I hope you know how happy you've made me these last 4 years" All I could do was cry....and then thank him...for giving up everything he had there....for me. He then said that he would do it all over again a thousand times, that none of that mattered to him, that without me, his life was meaningless. At that moment it seemed all my insecurities and fears just came crashing down and I asked him if he still wanted to marry me...he said.."more than anything"...and I told him.."well...good...because I am ready now, and Im ready to re-open the baby window...over the next year, I want to do everything we can to make it happen." He was beyond thrilled, ecstatic...cried and cried like he just won the lottery, lol.
The next morning he told his mom and dad and from that minute on was walking on air. We had a few more days left and enjoyed every second, even more now with the new "plan". After a loooong ride home and getting back to the grind of life, nothing has changed...I was a bit worried maybe Id get back and Id start re-thinking, blaming my new found security on the "magic" of the place...but I am just as "clear" as I was then and am really actually excited to get going on the planning of both things.
I love this guy...he is amazing...I knew that before, but now, I have no doubts, no concerns and no insecurities about his feelings for me and mine for him. All is good. Better than good.
I know this was incredibly sappy, and I apologize....but I wanted to share it with everyone regardless. Im adding a few pictures so you all can see how beautiful it really was.
http://imageigloo.com/images/2358pierevening.jpg
http://imageigloo.com/images/1076pierweb.jpg
I've been absent for a few weeks, we went away on vacation to the AL gulf coast where YM is from and spent a much needed week alone together at his parents beach house.
We had an amazing time. The surroundings were beautiful, the scenery was beautiful, and well, it just turned out to be a very healing and magical week together for both of us. Something about sitting on a pier in the middle of the water late at night with no sounds but the water rushing in and no sights but the moon and stars is very moving spiritually and emotionally.
Our day to day lives are so stressful and full of distractions and we so often lose touch with one another, totally unintentionally, but we do it regardless...and this week was completely devoted to us just being us. No kids, no jobs, no animals to tend to, no phone calls. It was heaven.
We actually had time to sit and talk, really talk, for hours if we wanted to with no interuptions, and no concern for the clock.
I had never been down there. We have been together for 4+ years and I had never seen where he came from. I had met all of his family members because they have come here multiple times, but I had never seen where he grew up and never had the opportunity to see what his life was like before me.
I dont know why...but it REALLY effected me in a way I didnt expect.
His life down there was SO different than the way it is here. His family owns a very successful seafood business. He started working with his father when he was 10. By age 18 he had enough money saved to buy his own market and when I met him at age 21 he had had the market for a few years and was doing really well. He took me there to show it to me....and I was overcome with emotion...totally unexpected. I just kept looking at it and thinking, my God, you gave this all up for me? He was set, wouldve been able to retire by age 35, wouldve never had to worry about money, and now he is working a regular job struggling to climb the ladder in a business he knew nothing about when he started. I knew all of this of course....but seeing it infront of me really smacked me in the face.
Add in the fact that his family are all very close...grandparents, aunts uncles, cousins, etc...they all live and work there together, very close knit. They adore him, so much, him coming down there was a huge event for them. He left them all behind...for me..and tells me constantly how it was the best decision he ever made, and he never regrets it. It was all very moving for me, to see it all, right infront of me. I guess it made his words have more meaning, I dont know.
As many of you know, due to my past "baggage" I was unwilling to take the plunge and marry him, and before we left I was struggling with the idea of trying to have a baby even though the original "window" we agreed upon for getting pregnant was supposed to be closed on my 38th birthday.
Well...both of those have been decided. We were sitting out on the pier one night late...quiet, just enjoying the sights and sounds and he looked at me and said..."Im so happy, I hope you know how happy you've made me these last 4 years" All I could do was cry....and then thank him...for giving up everything he had there....for me. He then said that he would do it all over again a thousand times, that none of that mattered to him, that without me, his life was meaningless. At that moment it seemed all my insecurities and fears just came crashing down and I asked him if he still wanted to marry me...he said.."more than anything"...and I told him.."well...good...because I am ready now, and Im ready to re-open the baby window...over the next year, I want to do everything we can to make it happen." He was beyond thrilled, ecstatic...cried and cried like he just won the lottery, lol.
The next morning he told his mom and dad and from that minute on was walking on air. We had a few more days left and enjoyed every second, even more now with the new "plan". After a loooong ride home and getting back to the grind of life, nothing has changed...I was a bit worried maybe Id get back and Id start re-thinking, blaming my new found security on the "magic" of the place...but I am just as "clear" as I was then and am really actually excited to get going on the planning of both things.
I love this guy...he is amazing...I knew that before, but now, I have no doubts, no concerns and no insecurities about his feelings for me and mine for him. All is good. Better than good.
I know this was incredibly sappy, and I apologize....but I wanted to share it with everyone regardless. Im adding a few pictures so you all can see how beautiful it really was.
http://imageigloo.com/images/2358pierevening.jpg
http://imageigloo.com/images/1076pierweb.jpg