Setting the date

My YM and I have been talking a lot recently about our engagement. Initially I was hesitant to set a date as I was concerned that I needed to allow him time to be sure - a "get out" clause almost (even though he tells me every day how sure he is, I still worry). Also it gave us time to save up. However we've gone through all this lately and now, well, we've decided to set a date for our wedding! It's quite a way off, so we have plenty of time to save and plan still, and we have both decided we don't want to spend a lot of money on it anyway, though hopefully we can aim for a nice honeymoon together.

Basically we've set it for 31st October 2009 - a Hallowe'en wedding! We're going to use that as a basis for a theme, a gothy/rocky style wedding do. It'll be a simple registry office ceremony and then we'll hire a local pub (that does GREAT food) for a buffet and a halloween themed party. We won't have loads of people but will just invite close family and friends.

The idea hit us both at the same time and it sounded perfect, so we've decided to go for it and set that as the date :D

That's awesome! That sounds so fun. Congratulations!!!

My YM and I have been talking a lot recently about our engagement. Initially I was hesitant to set a date as I was concerned that I needed to allow him time to be sure - a "get out" clause almost (even though he tells me every day how sure he is, I still worry). Also it gave us time to save up. However we've gone through all this lately and now, well, we've decided to set a date for our wedding! It's quite a way off, so we have plenty of time to save and plan still, and we have both decided we don't want to spend a lot of money on it anyway, though hopefully we can aim for a nice honeymoon together.

Basically we've set it for 31st October 2009 - a Hallowe'en wedding! We're going to use that as a basis for a theme, a gothy/rocky style wedding do. It'll be a simple registry office ceremony and then we'll hire a local pub (that does GREAT food) for a buffet and a halloween themed party. We won't have loads of people but will just invite close family and friends.

The idea hit us both at the same time and it sounded perfect, so we've decided to go for it and set that as the date :D


Congrats!

Hehe. Ours is 10/31/08. It won't be themed but I love the holiday. :D

Ours came about pretty similiar. I said I wanted married in October (my favorite month) and we both sorta suggested Halloween. I said, fine the first time it falls on a Friday we'll get married. Since it falls on a Wednesday this year we figured 2 years.

But next year is a leap year so it must be destined. Fate's getting even with me for hesitating!

Gee... I never heard of such long engagements :confused:

Gee... I never heard of such long engagements :confused:
It seems the norm for the people I know to set the wedding date a year from getting formally engaged. However, my YM (and several other of my girlfriends) think that a year is rushing it. Especially when we see people getting engaged after only a year of dating.

From our point of view, most couples seem to be rushing into marriage. My formula would be to get engaged around the three year mark, then the wedding no sooner than the five year anniversary of being together. That would ensure that it's true love and not just infatuation involved. I also believe that one needs to experience one good fight with with your partner just to see how he deals with conflict. But that's just me after two LTRs and one marriage under my belt. Thank goodness no children, pets or real estate was involved in any of the breakups.

Gee... I never heard of such long engagements :confused:

My gown is going to take 6 months to make! :eek: Good thing I did push it out that far!

I like the date. That was the main thing for me. Sounds like the main reason for Rose as well. :yes:

Actually I don't think my engagement will be that long. When we get married it will be after 3 1/2 years of dating (1 1/2 years engaged). Maybe I just move slow in the love department! :D

Well, I may be old school, but... I never thought of an engagement as any sort of a trial period. That's what dating is for, that's what living together is for (if you go that route).

An engagement is the confirmation that you want to marry. A time to set dates, make plans, move ahead with your future -- with the emphasis on move ahead. It shouldn't be about having that last one chance to back out... :(

An engagement longer than a year seems excessive to me. :bgrin2:

I think a year engagement is just about right...they say that the modern wedding takes about a year to plan.

Anything much longer than that...I think is kind of silly and pointless.

Alec and I will have been engaged for about 8 months when we finally get married and we only needed that much time to save up money for our wedding. :D

Nadine.

Sounds like your wedding will be a really good time for all!
Best wishes to you both!
Blessings, TD

It's 2 years in advance partly to save up, buy things along the way and make sure we get a good honeymoon - and mainly because we liked the date and liked the idea of a Hallowe'en wedding. I'm also so bad at organising stuff that I'm going to need all the time I can get even for the simple things!

Thanks for the good wishes.