Dev, the kids, and I - Update

Hi folks! For all those following along, Dev and I were supposed to have our first therapy appt tomorrow morning at 10:30. They called and changed it to 8pm on Tuesday, July 3rd, so I'm afraid the update is... well no update until after Tuesday night!

I think we are all on our best behavior this week since last week's debacle, but eggshells is no way to live and I know I am looking forward to some professional assistance in this matter.

Thanks for all your support and I'll update when I have something more to say. :yes:

Marcy:
Thanks, I was wondering what was going on. Hope all goes well!

Lov

Yea me too Luv... thanks!

Ack, I know I don't like it when I am looking forward to something and the plans change.
Sweep away those eggshells lady! You love each other......you'll be fine. I just know it ;)
Hang in there!
Love Ya, TD

People normally look forward to therapy like a trip to the dentist! :D It won't be that bad. In fact, when you come out of it, you'll be smiling and hopeful. Things won't start getting "real" for another few sessions, after the therapist gets to know you two and figures out what makes you tick. Then he or she will "push some buttons" to see what happens, and that's the best thing, because arguing in front of the therapist, even getting a little rude, gives them the insight they need to help you. Our therapist actually requested that we fight in front of her, so she could get an insight as to how we communicate on difficult subjects. It was hard for us to let loose and really be ourselves, but bless her (experienced) little heart, she knew JUST the subject to get us started (I'm sure you can figure out what that was ;)).

Anyway, it's all good, in the end. Even though Robin and I didn't end up working out, it wasn't because the therapy didn't help us, it's because in the end, he didn't want to do the work he needed to do (my therapist's words EXACTLY). It sure helped me though, and I grew a whole lot because of it.

So, go into it as open and honest as you can be. You're investing your time and effort into this, and you want to get the most out of it that you can, so reveal as much of yourself (and Devon of himself) as soon as you can, so your therapist can get to the nitty gritty.

Good luck! You'll end up enjoying it and being closer, I promise! :)

i am a big fan of these kind of things. i wish you well.
its tough to be a grownup! hoping for all the best for you and your family.

I hope it goes well. It's so hard to wait to get started, I'm sure.