Feelin Old & Ugly!!!

Beautiful Saturday & Lov feels old, ugly & fat!! God I hate summer. Actually I love it, but I hate dawning & bikini & trying to look good! I want to eat what ever I want & not have to worry about my flab. Can I get a hell yeah???

Beautiful Saturday & Lov feels old, ugly & fat!! God I hate summer. Actually I love it, but I hate dawning & bikini & trying to look good! I want to eat what ever I want & not have to worry about my flab. Can I get a hell yeah???

Amen sister...I have never ever been *thin* skinner YES thin no. I want to go to the beach so bad but I feel as if someone will yell out MOOOOO who let the cow out? I love summer but sometimes I feel I dont wanna go out and enjoy it in fear some idiot nobhead will make remarks..

NOW mind you I have good days but this last week EEKK

*hands you a drink* wanna share a fat day with me girl?

Well, Lov, you shouldn't be feeling old, since you posted this on the YOUNGER WOMEN/ OM side, lol!:D

But I can sure relate. I don't like summer anymore either. Bathing suits, shorts, bleh. I can't even pull my hair up because it shows off my "old lady chin.":(

I think it's a woman thing...because I feel like a fatty!!!

I tried on a bikini today and all I could think was that I'd never be able to wear it in public because my pooch stomach would hang over the bottoms!!!
:(

Thank goodness my man says he loves me no matter what!!!

And Lovaholic...I'm sure yours loves you no matter what also! :D

Nadine.

Thank goodness my man says he loves me no matter what!!!

And Lovaholic...I'm sure yours loves you no matter what also! :D

Nadine.

Yes, second that. Focus on the postives! :yes:

BIKINI?????

I havent worn a bikini for about 25 years!!!!! :( :eek:

I think it's a woman thing...because I feel like a fatty!!!

I tried on a bikini today and all I could think was that I'd never be able to wear it in public because my pooch stomach would hang over the bottoms!!!
:(

Thank goodness my man says he loves me no matter what!!!

And Lovaholic...I'm sure yours loves you no matter what also! :D

Nadine.

I haven't owned a bathing suit in a couple years lol. I just don a bikini top and a pair of cutoffs and take the kids to the beach and ya know what.... theres usually about 10 500 lb mommas runnin around in bikinis with a small gaggle of kids that makes me feel much better. I think we are all a little self conscious of baring our bodies but once ya get out there it isn't quite so bad.

yeah well, i just had a baby...dont get me started on feeling fat and the d@mn stretchmarks...margaritas all around!

Chiming in for the old fatties club...add in ugly too....as all three have been how I have felt for the past week.

It sucks. I hate it....but I cant really change much of it and I know I will get over it soon enough...so only advice I can offer Lov is...it will pass...just try to get through it.

BTW, if it helps matters any, I think you are gorgeous, and dont look "old" or "fat" in the slightest...plus look at that sexy young guy that is crazy about you...Im sure he agrees with me :)

* hugs*

Lissa

I haven't worn a bikini since high school. I've always been happy in a one piece suit. Anyway, my YM loves the softness of my body. He's also said that he wouldn't mind me being a little more luscious. Aren't we older women supposed to think of ourselves as delicious ripe peaches?

Margaritas led to an exhausting night of great sex!! I completely forgot about my fat issues & had a great time. hehe You should try it!!:D

Margaritas led to an exhausting night of great sex!! I completely forgot about my fat issues & had a great time. hehe You should try it!!:D

Well that is always a great way to feel better get drunk and get banged!

Well that is always a great way to feel better get drunk and get banged!


Hmm...excuse me. I did not "bang"....it was more like bump bump!!! lol

33 years old here feeling young and pretty. Shorts and bikini don't scare me yet. Friday I go to a wedding and excited that I get to wear my tight fitting ****tail dress.

For all those who don't feel good about your shape take advantage of the cool mornings and evenings. Go out take long walks or run.

I quit wearing bikinis when I was oh.... 20? 19?

Back then I was so skinny, they just looked horrible on me. If I turned to the side, if I didn't have a one-piece, you wouldn't have been able to see me.. LOL

Now I'm almost 47, and living in a colder climate in the summer (this morning was 40 degrees here), I don't think about going outside without long sleeves, covering my legs, and wearing a jacket or sweater to boot. Forget about bathing suits!

I'm also 175 pounds now, with lovely stretchmarks and flab (despite those walks, thanks, and exercising). I have had several surgeries on my abdomen and the muscles there are shot, I've got huge scars, and a pouch to put the Ozzie kangaroos to shame. No bikinis for me anymore. I'd look like...what do the kids call it these days? a "muffin top"? LOL... (same reason I don't wear hip huggers either - waist high jeans for me, baby, since ... um.. forever! I didn't even wear them in the 70's!)

Well, Lov, yesterday I felt fat and ugly, too. I saw Harrison's BBW post and that helped me feel better. (Thanks, Harrison! *mua*)

Today I'm wearing jeans and a cute tank top that I got the other day when I was out getting my daughter some new clothes (she's grown out of them). As I was watching her try on all these different clothes, I was noticing how very similar our two bodies are shaped (yea not a surprise - she's my daughter, duh!) But it occurred to me how gorgeous she is and I thought "maybe when she's telling me I'm looking great, too, I should believe her." (She's 15)

When we got home, I tried on the tank top and she said I looked GREAT in it. She said "You should wear that when K comes to visit!" and winked at me.

Today I'm wearing the new shirt with my jeans and a pretty pair of earrings. I'm looking hot today! LOL I'm just pissed that there's nobody here to "enjoy the view" other than my kids (and I don't want them "enjoying the view" if you know what I mean!)

By the way, there are days like today when I feel more beautiful than I did when I was in my 20's and 30's (no contest comparing my teens - I was an ugly duckling then, and a really boney one at that).

If I were to need a bathing suit for any reason, I'd wear the one I bought for myself a few years ago. It's got one of those little skirt like parts to it. I look really cute in that!

Hmm...excuse me. I did not "bang"....it was more like bump bump!!! lol

bang or bump bump you got some so what's the difference?:bgrin2:

I have to confess that I truly believe I have body dysmorphic disorder!!! I just go crazy about my body. You have to remember that I am a personal trainer & have been inthe industry for 29 years! It gets tougher every day as all the new trainers with their flawless bodies enter the work force. I'm 47 & don't work out like I used to. Honestly I just got bored of it. Working out every day & trying to stay slim drove me crazy! I train mostly older men & woman now & it's much more rewarding. No one's trying to look like anyone their just trying to stay healthy.

Then, along comes my wonderful, handsome skinny bf!! In addition to all the age issues I go through (by myself btw) I also can't help look at all the beautiful 20 yr olds all over the place here. I live in a resort area so everyone's in convertibles & in beach wear. The bars are outrageous!!! I look & although I know I look pretty good for my age I still feel insecure.


i'm just venting. I'm really okay. I do want a nose job though. ha ha ha

Margaritas led to an exhausting night of great sex!! I completely forgot about my fat issues & had a great time. hehe You should try it!!:D

LOL okay I will! BUT he is 8000 miles away will a webcam. mic and toys be okay? ROFL *pours booze in a glass*

Beautiful Saturday & Lov feels old, ugly & fat!! God I hate summer. Actually I love it, but I hate dawning & bikini & trying to look good! I want to eat what ever I want & not have to worry about my flab. Can I get a hell yeah???

Hell yeah!! And you wouldn't be a real woman if you didn't feel this way from time to time. I know its a stereotype, but I really think this is the way most of us are wired. It has taken me half a century though to figure out that its US, not THEM. Women are the worst critics of women! Men are usually looking at something other than what we think they are looking at.

If you are a personal trainer, then you are applying yourself to a different standard than most of the real world. Your body becomes your selling point; your advertisement that you know what you are doing. That's got to be rough, although I'm not sure that it is a dysmorphic disorder.

I worry too and I am terrible at watching my diet. So I splurge, then try to be good, the repeat the cycle. I choose not to go out in a bathing suit except with family or close friends. My issues run deeper that. Its those veiny things, the cellulite, the wrinkles around my knees that would be a dead give away to my age. (Now who do I think I am fooling? Lol.) And the truth is, I am healthy, not really overweight, take ballet twice a week am and fairly well toned; but hell yeah, I have those moments when I feel like I'd sell my soul to be 25 again!

I choose not to go out in a bathing suit except with family or close friends. My issues run deeper that. Its those veiny things, the cellulite, the wrinkles around my knees that would be a dead give away to my age. (Now who do I think I am fooling? Lol.) And the truth is, I am healthy, not really overweight, take ballet twice a week am and fairly well toned; but hell yeah, I have those moments when I feel like I'd sell my soul to be 25 again!

Ya know what...i'm the same way. I love to swim, but i dont anymore, because i hate the way i look in a bathing suit. SAD, really. It sucks to feel old and fat, but its true that we can only blame ourselves...we need to feel better and just go out and DO IT.

My sister had a portion of her breast removed due to breast cancer years ago, and when at the islands, she still goes to topless beaches and takes her top off. She's had two kids, and wears a two-piece bathing suit. NO, shes not fat, but at 57 years old her body is far from perfect.

She knows that this is our only life to live. The cancer is in her bones - it has been for years, and thankfully has not spread - but if she does not enjoy this life now, what other one is there? If we die tomorrow, hopefully we've done all that we wanted, and not let our wrinkles, cellulite, and poor self image ruin our lives for us. We're never going to wake up having the body of someone in their 20's - EVER again.

hey girls,
despite your age and the fact that I never saw you I have a feeling that you all look beautiful and fantastic so stop being negative about yourself. Feel beautiful forever!

She knows that this is our only life to live. The cancer is in her bones - it has been for years, and thankfully has not spread - but if she does not enjoy this life now, what other one is there? If we die tomorrow, hopefully we've done all that we wanted, and not let our wrinkles, cellulite, and poor self image ruin our lives for us. We're never going to wake up having the body of someone in their 20's - EVER again.

AMEN to that!

We're all too hard on ourselves. I'm my worst enemy when it comes to how I look. Friday night I had coffee with a smart, cute, adorable 33-year-old. I'm 54. He kept telling me how great I look and various other compliments.

He isn't the only man, younger or older, who gives me the same compliments...I won't stop working to lose weight, exercising, eating properly, and working on being the best me I can be.

But I will recognize that I'm beautiful and sexy just the way I am, and I have stopped beating myself up.

Excuse me while I go eat a piece of my buffalo chicken pizza that was just delivered.... :tongue2: :D

Ow..ow..ouch...

The pain.....

Have got 3 weeks before our trip to Italy and just bought a new bikini. But because I have been lazy and not worked out for a year, a couple of weeks ago I started with the weights and sit ups. Thankfully, my body seems to remember these muscles and the shape is popping back.

My man asked me what the hell I was doing and I told him I don't want to be the flabby Brit surrounded by gorgeous Italian girls on the beach - he told me not to worry, I'm fine as I am....

....but no. I can't be sucking my stomach in all the time so....

oww, ouch...:(

Margaritas led to an exhausting night of great sex!! I completely forgot about my fat issues & had a great time. hehe You should try it!!:D

Love that idea!!!:bgrin2:...LOL