new member needs help

I've found myself attracted to a man 14 years younger than me. I don't know what happened but it did. How do I know if he's into older women without him thinking I'm weird. No insult to any of you intended.

Welcome to Ageless!

I'm not prying, but first off, I hope you're not married. Jumping into a relationship with a ym because you're bored with your current husband has NEVER turned out well! Also, HE needs to be unattached as well.

Having said that, assuming your single and he's single, you should just flirt with him in a subtle way. Get to know him. Ask him about himself. Where does he like to go, what does he like to do? If he says something that peaks your interest, like going to art museums, for instance, you could say, "Really? Me too! I can never find anyone to go with me." If he likes you the way you like him, he might say, "Well I'll go with you sometime. My friends never want to go with me." Then you can say, "Okay! Hey, how about if we go Saturday afternoon? They're having a special exhibit and I'd really like to see it. Are you free?" If he likes you, he'll say, "Yeah! Definitely! What time should we meet?" If he's NOT interested in you, he'll say, "Well, I was gonna clean my fish tank on Saturday..." Then you know to bow out gracefully. Escape with your dignity intact.

Is it me or does subtle flirting usually open the door? I guess this is our way of feeling each other out. Try it