Who's more accepting...men or women???

I was just thinking about this the other day.....who is more accepting of an AGR men or women as a whole????

I guess I was leaning toward men. I think men are more accepting of all different types of relationships rather than women. Let the flaming begin....

For instance take a YM/OW relationship. I feel the YM male friends would accept it better than say friends of the OW. Just my 2 cents.

In my experience the the younger men are more accepting and my friends want to accept, but can't get past their worry, particularly because they have not met my YM yet.

I think men are more accepting at any age. I guess it depends on their generation too.

i do not think men are more accepting, I think though, that men do not care as much about other people's businesses...not even their own LOL (j/k)

I think it is this lack of judgement and nosiness what eventually leads to acceptance.

Of course, this is just my subjective opinion and a generalization, therefore not totally accurate :tongue2:

i do not think men are more accepting, I think though, that men do not care as much about other people's businesses...not even their own LOL (j/k)


I agree with this.

I was just thinking about this the other day.....who is more accepting of an AGR men or women as a whole????

I guess I was leaning toward men. I think men are more accepting of all different types of relationships rather than women. Let the flaming begin....

For instance take a YM/OW relationship. I feel the YM male friends would accept it better than say friends of the OW. Just my 2 cents.

I say men as well. When my OM and I have been out at restaurants, walking around holding hands etc., the ones who have given us mean looks have almost solely been women. Of the women who have given us mean looks, there have been only middle aged and older women. So, maybe men in general and younger women are the most accepting. This has been my experience so far anyway.

I'm a YW I don't care who you date UNLESS you date someone I'm dating than were gonna have a problem but that is not age related!

I'm a YW I don't care who you date UNLESS you date someone I'm dating than were gonna have a problem but that is not age related!

I wish everyone had that attitude. :)

I wish everyone had that attitude. :)

Girl you should know by now there is only ONE Jenny Jen:cool:

Girl you should know by now there is only ONE Jenny Jen:cool:

LOL. Well, one can always hope the attitude spreads:tongue2:

In my experience regarding OW/YM, older men feel jealous and threatened, specially those that were hovering over you like flies before you went steady. Younger men do not understand, they think it is just sex and they want their friend to move on with a gf their own age.

YW do not get it either, they feel that we took a specimen from their species for our own, and OW are suspicious, and jealous. Ahh, and OW dating/married to YM who should be supportive seem totally distrustful... *Raises hands in dismay* :aaaaaaack:

Hah! I be you never thought I had such a negative outlook but experience has led me to this.

my own personal experience has been i, the female was fine with it, while the younger man had issues...but again, that was my situation!

I wonder if the "accepting" is the same all over the US. I think that in the south it is probably looked upon differently. Maybe!? I'm from CO and ppl are more liberal there then they are here in SC. What do you guys think?

Ooops, I completely missed the particulars of the thread! [Delete response.] Sorry! Carry on!

I would think that for OM/YW couples, men are in general much more accepting.

As for my OW/YM relationship, I'd actually say my friends treat him like any other boyfriend and accept him just fine. I would also say that his friends treat me like any other girlfriend. Actually no one seems to care.

But for OM/YW, I think men would be more accepting.

I wonder if the "accepting" is the same all over the US. I think that in the south it is probably looked upon differently. Maybe!? I'm from CO and ppl are more liberal there then they are here in SC. What do you guys think?


I think you are spot on, scott2075!!!

I think the toughest place for an OW/YM relationship would be in places like Alabama, Mississippi and any other area where "liberals" are looked at as weirdos.

Go to the West Coast, like WA or CA, and you're probably on easy street.

My rule of thumb is this: If your state is a place where gay/lesbian unions and interracial marriages are widely accepted, you probably will have little or no problems with an age gap. :)

My rule of thumb is this: If your state is a place where gay/lesbian unions and interracial marriages are widely accepted, you probably will have little or no problems with an age gap. :)

I'm from NY you can probably date a farm animal and not be looked at twice!

I'm from NY you can probably date a farm animal and not be looked at twice!

LOL!!! :D :p You crack me up!

LOL!!! :D :p You crack me up!

LOL I crack myself up!!! :p

I find women to be more curious/nosey but not necessarily less accepting than the men. In fact, the only random stranger who has actually commented has been a man in the street who loudly said something to his friend along the lines of "oh my god look at that!"

My friends all found it a bit unusual at first as they never thought I'd end up dating a teenager, as neither did I (although my last two boyfriends had been younger, it wasn't a huge gap - they've been getting younger each time mind you!). But they were all very accepting, as were my family and his family.

His friends seem OK about it when it comes to the crunch, but being young and a bit on the silly side (they seem less mature than him, more "their age" so to speak) they used to tease him a lot and send him messages about "his mother" etc which used to wind him up - which, of course, is why they did it. I think it was tongue in cheek teenage silliness though and I don't think they actually actively disapprove.

My OW friends were a lot more accepting of my YM than my OM friends. And at the time I started dating my YM, there was a man a little older than me that was very disappointed to see prefer my YM's company to his. Later on, he became good friends with my YM though.

In general, YW/OM couples are more public and more widely accepted through all of history. I'd like to see a trend towards more YM/OW couples. :D

I think Harrison's comment about it being easier in California is right on the money.

I had a few comments direct at me but they were mostly from either coworkers who had gone to school with him, or from my best friend who couldnt accept that he wasnt more than a momentary toy. As if I have ever had men as toys before. the weirdo. I still love her though!

I think though that she was more disappointed as she saw us (she and I) as going to vacations and partying together finally, since I spent all of my 20's married but once she understood that I loved him and that it was permanent she accepted it. She's going to be my maid of honor next June.


I would actually say that I got alot of flack from the men. Older men, who made comments like "hey girl, what do you want with that little boy?" and "What the hell are you dating that kid for>?"

The women my age had a tendency to say "ooh you go girl!" or "Way to go!" as if I just found a great pair of shoes on sale or grabbed the last yummy tibit.

And he is a yummy tibit by the way...lol :p

The younger women who had their sights on him though gave me the most evil looks as if I had stolen him from them. Eh, he chased me not the other way around so as far as Im concern if they have any complaints they can voice them to him, he will have no problem shooting them down.

Clint (my fiance) did tell me that when he started dating me, that he got a couple of high fives. Men can be dorks..no matter what age. No offense to the men on this board.

I think out of the group of guys on the internet that I got my YM from, he is unique in that in the beginning while chatting on aim, he never once asked my age. Then when we met, he never asked my age either. When he finally found out my age, he was surprised as he thought me about 12 years younger. I never made a big deal about my age to him as in the beginning, I thought that we would just be platonic best buddies. And if it was more, it wouldn't be a LTR type of thing. At the time, we lived about 1500 miles apart.

In the three years we've been a couple, it seems that women his own age don't appreciate his wonderfulness. But we have noticed that women in their 30's seem to like him. When I pay my cable bill in person, one of the ladies told me that she thinks my boyfriend is very cute. Another time, he was at work and some cellphone sales rep lady tried to flirt with him and pick him up. She dropped hints about how she liked to go to bars and drink. He would say that he didn't like to go out to drink. He was completely oblivious to her intentions, and his co-workers (all male) thought the whole thing very funny.

On the other hand, I would say that every other guy from that general message board group that I met my YM through would have a heart attack if they knew my real age. I never say my real age as I don't want to be referred to as a grandma. Talk about age prejudices! Not only that, if any of them had been attracted to me and wanted some, it would have just been a novelty fling for them. I think that their pride and insecurities would prevent them from ever considering being in an AGR with someone like me. Maybe in secret, but certainly not in public. So I would say that most YM would not be truly supportive of a long term YM/OM relationship. And I think that older men would feel threatened by a wave of YM dating older women in their circle of acquaintances.

For all of us on this board with our YM, I would say that we are very lucky to have found such wonderful, open minded YM to share our lives with.