Older man

Hello everyone, I'm new...Need to chat.
I am falling for a very older man, I'm 35 he is 57
He is retired already and is working as a contrator..
I'm just getting into my career. We have fabulous
discussions, I'm attracted to him in every way, but
I cannot imagine introducing him to my family...any
suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Please keep
in mind my parents are 70, which is much closer to his
age than mine, and my dad is very strict and proper.

Good morning Mary Jane,

Congratulations on finding a man you are attracted to and enjoy being with. I can appreciate your age gap. I am 55 and my husband is 29. If you think you are worried about parental introductions, you should have seen Bear. LOL

Honesty is the best policy here. This is your life. You are 35 and presumably on your own. While you may want their approval, it should not be necessary. You have your own life and can live it with whomever you choose.

I don't really understand why you can't imagine introducing him to your family. He's 22 years older than you. Big deal. The bigger deal is that he is successful and has been able to retire early. He can provide for a family and have more time to spend with you and children if you have them. What's wrong with this? Take it from someone who is 55 -- 57 is NOT old! If he's in good health he can live a long time.

I'm only two years younger than Bear's mother. While not thrilled with having a daughter-in-law her own age, she saw that he and I were very good together. She told me that he and I would be crazy to miss even one day of being together because we don't know how much time we have left on Earth. And, boy is she strict and propper and very religious.

Loving parents have a way of coming around if they see that your chosen partner is the right person for you and that you are happy. As for the rest of your family...well...do you live for them or for yourself. Who knows they may be absolutely delighted to have a contractor in the family.

I'd like to invite you to come and join the list at www.agegap.net. You will find the community is pretty well split between OM/YW and OW/YM. Some of the couples have a lot bigger gap than yours and can give you more in sight on how to deal with your family.

Peace,
Bear's Angel

Welcome...Let me tell you from my experience...you see I have been in both situations...For six years I lived with a man 21 years older than me until I met Jason who is 16 years younger than me. My O/M had daughters my age. Comparing both scenarios I would have to say the O/M...Y/W was a breeze.

LET ME JST SAY THAT MY MOM WAS'NT HAPPY CAUSE I WAS DATING A MAN WHO IS 42 AND IM 21. AND SHE REALLY PUT ME THROUGH SOME CHANGES ABOUT ME DATING HIM. HE HAS TO GIRLS WHO ARE 17 AND 12. AND HE HAS BE MARRIED AND DIVORED. SO HE'S BEEN THROUGH IT ALL. BUT IT WASN'T UNTIL I TOLD HER ABOUT HOW WE FELT ABOUT EACH OTHER THAT SHE STOP PUTTING ME THROUGH SO MUCH CHANGES. BUT IT TOOK SOME TIME.

Sometimes your parents will shock you. I thought my parents would be very upset w/ me (22) dating a man who is (39). I was scared and lied about his age. After a few months, I decided to tell them the truth...and they both stood by my side!!!

Floored, shocked and relieved...they just wanted me to be happy. :)