Well, life's not fair...

Hi everybody,
I love this community and I've been reading with interest and curiosity people's stories here, both good and bad.


Some of you here may know my story about how I've been deeply in love with my two buddies' mother.

Of course, they don't know. Lately, she's been seeing an old man regularly.

The position I'm in makes difficult, due to the fact that I love her two sons like brothers.

I've been praying a lot lately. Hard. No results.

And as I have been reading people's stories here, what many people here go through, all in the name of love, I've concluded one thing: life's NOT fair.

Love, as beautiful and great as it can be, is also full of lies, guilt, depression and other kinds of stressful situations. Love can attract of kinds of heartaches, which are very hard to overcome.

Dunno, is love just a fairy tale? Does the romance and "honeymoon" just a short-time span?

Sorry if I sound bitter, but like many people here who are dissapointed with their lovelife, I needed to vent.

On a more positive note, I sincerly think you're all cool!

;)

Life is not fair that is true. It can still be an amazing journey if you remain open to it.
Love....any love......is worth everything. It doesn't nessasarily just love between lovers.
I am a firm believer that you can love many things about someone...unless their love matches your own...........it isn't worth all of that drama to me.
People do feel hurt and that really sucks, how well I know:rolleyes: I try to think of it more in terms of how very much I appeiciate anything wonderful that comes along all the better b/c I know what feeling bad feels like.
Does that help you at all or does it even make any sense to you lol?
Blessings, TD

...And as I have been reading people's stories here, what many people here go through, all in the name of love, I've concluded one thing: life's NOT fair....

:eek: It sure the hell ain't, SS!

LOL After all, you clicked on my Masturbation thread, right?? Why do you think almost 40% of us say we'd go crazy without "The Big M"?? :p


Toughen up, son... Once you get over your fixation on one particular older woman and start to realize there are so many more fish in the sea, you'll be much, much happier. :D

Life goes on.

Ah..that's what I meant to say lol.
I agree with Harrison.

How old are you? Have you ever seen the movie Tadpole? Where a college student is in love with his new stepmother? At least you like the right kind of woman, mature etc...

Well, my friend, you're right that life's not fair. But, there's no reason why life should be fair for everyone else but not you. It's time for you to step up to the plate and see if you can't make life a little less fair for the "old man." Let your beloved know how you feel--and go from there!

We've been telling you forever to say something to her. Life is a lot less fair if you leave it all up to chance. You had the power to exert some influence and you let it slip through your fingers. You still have a chance to say something, but now its a whole lot trickier.

As some wise person once said, "You make your own luck." Not always, but any of us can certainly assure our own BAD luck.

What did you expect this woman, whom you've told us is beautiful and warm and charming, to do when she decided that she wanted male companionship and that her marriage was, to all intents and purposes, over? Pine away forever hoping that you'd express some interest in her (assuming that she was interested in you to at least some extent)? Jump your bones sometime when you were alone, and take a chance on being rejected and viewed as "an old fool?"

There was never any guarantee that your interest in her would be reciprocated, but there was an iron-clad guarantee that if you did nothing to make clear your interest to her, nothing would ever happen. She would either find somebody else, or she would live out the rest of her days alone.

Life is indeed frequently unfair, but in your case, I frankly don't think it has been. YOU made the decision not to tell her that you were interested in her as anything other than your friends' mother, and that GUARANTEED that you would never have a relationship with her. If you care for her as much as you say, I'd think you would be happy that she's found somebody to make her happy, since you were never going to, rather than living out her days alone.

And now, my suggestion to you would be to move on with your life as she has with hers. The idea that there is only one person meant for any other person is, frankly, bunk. I've known too many people who have had a happy marriage, been widowed, and had another happy marriage (and maybe even had the process repeated) to believe that.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I really don't understand how you could have not expected this, or how you could consider it to be unfair.

Hi everybody,
I love this community and I've been reading with interest and curiosity people's stories here, both good and bad.


Some of you here may know my story about how I've been deeply in love with my two buddies' mother.

Of course, they don't know. Lately, she's been seeing an old man regularly.

The position I'm in makes difficult, due to the fact that I love her two sons like brothers.

I've been praying a lot lately. Hard. No results.

And as I have been reading people's stories here, what many people here go through, all in the name of love, I've concluded one thing: life's NOT fair.

Love, as beautiful and great as it can be, is also full of lies, guilt, depression and other kinds of stressful situations. Love can attract of kinds of heartaches, which are very hard to overcome.

Dunno, is love just a fairy tale? Does the romance and "honeymoon" just a short-time span?

Sorry if I sound bitter, but like many people here who are dissapointed with their lovelife, I needed to vent.

On a more positive note, I sincerly think you're all cool!

;)


Well she has moved on and she is happy, maybe you should be thankful instead. If she hasnt shown an interest and if you had said something it might have done nothing but gaurantee you not only losing her but also your "brothers", who might or might not have been to thrilled at their "brother" having the hots for mom, they might even have taken it upon themselves to beat some sense into you.

And youre right Life isnt Fair, As my fiance says..."Nut it up" and dont dwell on it, there are other women out there and Im sure there is one out there for you.

Love, as beautiful and great as it can be, is also full of lies, guilt, depression and other kinds of stressful situations. Love can attract of kinds of heartaches, which are very hard to overcome.

Just a quick FYI: anything that is full of lies, guilt, depression and other stressors is NOT love. In fact, real love is none of those things. Hang in there - real love will come!

Best to you...

What did you expect this woman, whom you've told us is beautiful and warm and charming, to do when she decided that she wanted male companionship and that her marriage was, to all intents and purposes, over? Pine away forever hoping that you'd express some interest in her (assuming that she was interested in you to at least some extent)? Jump your bones sometime when you were alone, and take a chance on being rejected and viewed as "an old fool?"

Exactly! If you expect a 73 year old lady to be chasing a 37 year old friend of her sons, who is not giving ANY indication that he has any interest in her...not even asking her to do anything socially or making it MUCH clearer...you are living in a complete dream world.