Commentary on Romance

Well I have been thinking about romance.


I expect a man to be romantic, funnily enough I use to think that men just "knew" how. Almost as if they were hard wired to know how to woo.

I have been finding out differently though, my last husband was romantic. He gave me flowers and planned surprised dinners and he wowed me with it all but when he did it he did it big. So he made me think that men were just naturally romantic.

I have found this to be not true though. I have watched my fiance who is 22 slowly learn how to be romantic. When he garden and goes to trim his roses he always brings me the 1 most perfect rose from that morning and puts it in the bud vase. It is his way of being romantic, I find myself being touched by his want to romance me. I have come home to find roses sitting in my bathroom counter waiting for me and romantic candle lit baths which we use to have before we moved into a home without a sunken tub.

And I think now of what my fiance has saved in his keepsakes box. A box that he has had since he was child and is filled with momentos that have no value except to him. A note from a school friend from the second grade...a button from his step dads shirt who passed away....and a love poem that I wrote him when we were first dating.

I had never written a love poem to a man before and actually given it to him...I was actually quiet embarrassed to do so but he reacted with the same fuzzy feeling and romantic swoon that we as women experience when they give us something romantic. He has kept it, he cherishes it and says that it is the only poem he has ever received. I believe his exact words were "I have never gotten a poem from a girl before."

So lesson learned. So I wooed him much as men have wooed women throughout the ages...I bought him Scotch Kisses when I found out he didnt like chocolates...(Sees Candies sells them..they are carmel covered marshmellows) and wrote him letters...ok emailed him romantic letters...lol.

I guess in the end we all like to be wooed and romanced...when we are courting.

And I guess my question would be for the women, have you romanced a man and how?

And to the men what is the most memorable thing a woman has done that you would call romantic?

And to the men what is the most memorable thing a woman has done that you would call romantic?

You already said it:

I had never written a love poem to a man before and actually given it to him...I was actually quiet embarrassed to do so but he reacted with the same fuzzy feeling and romantic swoon that we as women experience when they give us something romantic. He has kept it, he cherishes it and says that it is the only poem he has ever received. I believe his exact words were "I have never gotten a poem from a girl before."

We didn't actually get together when we very first met, but she wrote a poem for me and the rest is history. :p

And I think now of what my fiance has saved in his keepsakes box. A box that he has had since he was child and is filled with momentos that have no value except to him. A note from a school friend from the second grade...a button from his step dads shirt who passed away....and a love poem that I wrote him when we were first dating.

I've got the same thing, with letters from various people, including friends and exes, a Christmas Card from every person I was at school with, birthday cards and various bits and pieces. I have a separate box with things that have to do with Donna. I've always figured it'd be nice to look back at all this stuff some time in the future, I've actually already whiled a couple of days away looking through everything.