LadyInWaiting
08-17-2007, 09:24 PM
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DEAR ABBY: Say there's this guy who's about 30, who has a stepmother who is younger than he is. (She's 27.) They have a warm, happy, close, loving friendship -- nothing abnormal or unusual.
Then the father dies, having had no children with her. Is it wrong for the guy to develop a romantic interest in her? And what about her? Would it be wrong for her to take up with her former stepson?
I have never experienced a deeper, more romantic kind of love than I have with my former stepmom. Dad had himself a prize catch. She's built, pretty, understanding and a great cook -- and the way we've been going, we might be married sometime soon.
I just can't decide if it's right or wrong. What do you think? -- SMITTEN IN NORTH TEXAS
DEAR SMITTEN: What you have in mind is unusual but not unheard of. You are not her biological son, so there is no reason why you could not marry if you wish. In fact, it could work out very well since your feelings for each other evolved from an already-established friendship. I say, go for it -- but be prepared for some teasing.
Looks like Dear Abby 2.0 has a very liberal outlook....that and Ow/Ym doesn't seem to bother her either.
DEAR ABBY: I have a unique problem. I have a very youthful appearance, and it never fails that I am taken to be 18 years old. It doesn't matter how I'm dressed, if I wear makeup or how I wear my hair. It's always the same thing.
Most people insist that being carded all the time is a compliment, but to me it isn't because it negatively impacts my social life. Inevitably, the only men who approach me are young men who think that I'm their age, and "dirty old men" who immediately lose interest once I tell them I'm 34. Also, when I try online dating I never get anywhere. I'm at a complete loss on how to meet a decent man my age or a little older because I feel that the type of man that I would want would never approach a woman young enough to be his daughter. Can you tell me anything I can do about my situation? -- FOREVER YOUNG IN NEW ORLEANS
DEAR FOREVER YOUNG: Something I learned when I was quite young was that people have to "play the hand they are dealt." Perhaps it's time to consider that in many cases, age is only a number, and ask yourself whether your standards are too rigid.
Today, many women your age (and older) are happily coupled with younger men -- and while men in their teens and early 20s may be too young for you, someone in his late 20s and early 30s might be "just right." My advice is to explore this line of thinking, loosen up, and stop prejudging men who might be interested in you. Then let me hear from you again in six months.
DEAR ABBY: Say there's this guy who's about 30, who has a stepmother who is younger than he is. (She's 27.) They have a warm, happy, close, loving friendship -- nothing abnormal or unusual.
Then the father dies, having had no children with her. Is it wrong for the guy to develop a romantic interest in her? And what about her? Would it be wrong for her to take up with her former stepson?
I have never experienced a deeper, more romantic kind of love than I have with my former stepmom. Dad had himself a prize catch. She's built, pretty, understanding and a great cook -- and the way we've been going, we might be married sometime soon.
I just can't decide if it's right or wrong. What do you think? -- SMITTEN IN NORTH TEXAS
DEAR SMITTEN: What you have in mind is unusual but not unheard of. You are not her biological son, so there is no reason why you could not marry if you wish. In fact, it could work out very well since your feelings for each other evolved from an already-established friendship. I say, go for it -- but be prepared for some teasing.
Looks like Dear Abby 2.0 has a very liberal outlook....that and Ow/Ym doesn't seem to bother her either.
DEAR ABBY: I have a unique problem. I have a very youthful appearance, and it never fails that I am taken to be 18 years old. It doesn't matter how I'm dressed, if I wear makeup or how I wear my hair. It's always the same thing.
Most people insist that being carded all the time is a compliment, but to me it isn't because it negatively impacts my social life. Inevitably, the only men who approach me are young men who think that I'm their age, and "dirty old men" who immediately lose interest once I tell them I'm 34. Also, when I try online dating I never get anywhere. I'm at a complete loss on how to meet a decent man my age or a little older because I feel that the type of man that I would want would never approach a woman young enough to be his daughter. Can you tell me anything I can do about my situation? -- FOREVER YOUNG IN NEW ORLEANS
DEAR FOREVER YOUNG: Something I learned when I was quite young was that people have to "play the hand they are dealt." Perhaps it's time to consider that in many cases, age is only a number, and ask yourself whether your standards are too rigid.
Today, many women your age (and older) are happily coupled with younger men -- and while men in their teens and early 20s may be too young for you, someone in his late 20s and early 30s might be "just right." My advice is to explore this line of thinking, loosen up, and stop prejudging men who might be interested in you. Then let me hear from you again in six months.