Do You Hold Hands/Kiss In Public?

Just wondering whether other folks with 'age gap relationships' show their affection in public? Of course, in some cultures it is frowned upon anyhow, so that may well be a reason for some people.

Personally, I have found that when we hold hands (OW 52 YM31), many more people tend to give us strange looks, obviously trying to figure out the dynamics.

It took me ages to hold hands comfortably in public. And it is always instigated by my YM. After three years, finally getting used to it, and ignoring questioning looks.

How about you?

We hold hands and kiss (peck) in public to a chorus of "Grosssss Moooommmm!" from my kids.

And because my fiance is very cute (damn him) he gets "checked out" very often and if he catches a girl giving him the once over..he makes it a point to put an arm around me and kiss me.

So there! to all you girls out there! :p

We hold hands, sometimes hug, and seldom a peck on the mouth. In my culture we kiss cheeks a lot in m-f and f-f situations, but it is not proper to kiss on the mouth in public.

For the 5 years I was with my ex-husband....yes we did hold hands and kiss (short) in public. I sat on his lap sometimes while out listening to music, etc....
No problems or strange looks ever. Maybe a few looks of envy from other y/m's and certainly the y/w's lol.
Blessings, TD

Unfortunately we haven't had the opportunity to be together in public much, but we did hold hands and were affectionate within reason. Nothing "get a room" worthy by any stretch of the imagination. I look very young for my age though, so I'm sure that most people assumed we were the same age or very close in age. We didn't get awkward glances or anything.

We hold hands pretty much everywhere we go. Kissing? Depends. During the day, lots of people around? A quick peck once in a while. In the evening and we're very alone? A little snogging's definitely fun!

At work though? I am all business. It took me more than a year to even feel comfortable saying, "I love you, too" when my husband called me at the office. I'm still funny about holding hands or anything like that when he comes to see me.

I'm terrible with public displays of emotion so I generally won't initiate it. If I do go to hold his hand he always comments.

But he's very affectionate towards me and he knows underneath this 'get away' exterior I can't wait for him to grab my hand and open the door for me.

Does it really matter what other people think though? hell no!

We have always held hands and kissed in public.:bgrin2: Not big 'ole sloppy, long drawn out kisses, but a little peck here and there. It just so happens that we are a very touchy-feely couple. If we are together we are always touching in some form...:p
We dont get many looks anymore like in the beginning of our relationship. Our age gap is not that evident any longer. So I guess folks dont find it that intriguing. When we first got together though, we got lots of "looks" because Brownbear did look a lot younger than me. He caught up with me for now though.:yes:lol

Really makes me miss my ex-ym. He is this big guy 6' 2" (35 yrs. old), me 5' 4" (48 yrs.). Even though he claims that he was uncomfortable with the way folks looked at us in public, he would quite often initiate public diplays of affection.

When walking through a supermarket or restaurant door, he would always put his hand on the small of my back to guide me through. Quite often he would hold my hand or lean down to give me a gentle peck on the lips. Always, always subtle, appropriate displays of affection. If we were in Walmart and I stopped to look at something, he would gently caress my back with his fingertips. Gosh, I miss him.

Before my ym, I had never experienced this. I'll tell you what. My next man better be affectionate. I won't settle for less now.

We do hold hands, hug or kiss in public. We don't "make out" so to speak...

We have not actually had any funny looks or anything so far, but now that we have been together for over 6-1/2 years and I am starting to look older and he is NOT, Im expecting it. I don't even care...frankly.

We're not hand holders, but he's usually got his fingers on the small of his back when we're out.

We also will do a quick peck. When we sit somewhere, he's usually got his arm over the back of my seat.

He opens doors for me, he takes my coat before I sit down, all the southern politeness stuff that breed seems to be born with.

I don't notice looks anymore. Actually, I seldom noticed them anyway. It's still a game in the restaurants, as to who the ticket's going to be put closer to. And sometimes servers seem to hang around and chat a little extra, like they're trying to figure things out. Like "so do you guys have plans for tonight?" type of thing.

Strangers have never been the problem, family, that's where you have to watch it.

We hold hands all the time...we even have a joke about it. My husband will say "stocks" and that means hold his hand. This started b/c one time I wanted to hold his hand but he didn't reach out for my hand and I said "you better hold my hand, your stocks will go up after being seen with me"...

We don't normally kiss in public, ESPECIALLY not in Saudi Arabia (although husbands and wives always hold hands here, much more than in America), in Egypt we will give a quick kiss if one of us is leaving at the airport with out the other...and in America we kiss at the airport or if someone is going somewhere with out the other.

We have always held hands and kissed in public.:bgrin2: Not big 'ole sloppy, long drawn out kisses

Boo! no 'ole sloppy kisses for us spectators to watch? bum deal. :cool:

Yes, we hold hands and kiss in public, we don't make out either...and we get more looks because I'm white and he's Native than we do because of the age difference...actually, the age difference isn't anywhere near as noticable as the skin tone difference.

yes we hold hands and yes we kiss

Yes we hold hands & give little pecks. This is the first time I have felt comfortable about PDA & I love it! Let those enquiring minds look all they want!

Yes to both, especially if he notices anyone giving us one of those "looks". We most always hold hands or put arms around each other when we are out, and he will often put his hands on my shoulders from behind or put his arms around me in the grocery line.

hehehe! Confession: I didn't even take the age gap into consideration when I responded to the original question! :bgrin2:

We pretty much always either hold hands or have our hands around/on each other in some way. Kissing I'm not so comfortable with, to be honest. It has nothing to do with the age-gap, I wouldn't anyway. But we do, on occasion, and almost always initiated by her.

We hold hands all the time...we even have a joke about it. My husband will say "stocks" and that means hold his hand. This started b/c one time I wanted to hold his hand but he didn't reach out for my hand and I said "you better hold my hand, your stocks will go up after being seen with me"...

This made me smile. :D

Boo! no 'ole sloppy kisses for us spectators to watch? bum deal. :cool:

Only when we are in our "exhibitionist" mode.:p

We are quite affectionate with each in public. Hand holding, hugging, kissing...yeppers!

Oh you bet we should public affection. We do not get many stares. We have however gotten a few giggles from older folks and winks though LOL

Yes, we are affectionate in its own place and time. We always seems to have to be touching each other, as if we need to be constantly connected, we'll share a sweet gentle kiss in public, and we always say I love you without hesitation, and end each phone call with the same.

I love going to the movies and having his arm around me with my head on his shoulders....then he'll whispers I love you.....lol

strange how the simplest things makes my heart skip a beat........

love,
sora

All of this mushy talk...it's fantastic!
PDA's... I can't say as I have a problem with it, but usually we try to keep it light...hand holding, little pecks...and the occaisional leg rub or hand in the small of eachother's backs... people look, we look back :) Sometimes there's a "purposeful PDA" when onlookers turn to outright staring, but behaving normal in public is more our style... (me 38, him 21).
A few comments struck a chord with me tonight... my YM is on a hiking/race trip in Yosemite with no cell phone signal for at least 30 miles, ( then onto Sonoma for the race), I sat here reading all of the sweet things everyone was saying and thinking about the silly things we take for granted every day... Regardless of the lack of cellular communication, the phone rings, he hiked 5 miles to a pay phone just to say goodnight and I love you... now THAT's what it's all about... onlookers beware, he deserves the biggest, sloppiest kiss for that...and I don't care who's looking!

I'm 26 and my man is 46.

We do hold hands and sometimes kiss too in public. We were in wal mart a few days ago and had a nice kiss in the dish detergent aisle...LOL

I like showing my man that I care about him and I dont care who sees it.

...and we get more looks because I'm white and he's Native than we do because of the age difference...actually, the age difference isn't anywhere near as noticable as the skin tone difference.

Yes Molly, us too. I am white as white can be, well actually pink in this humid heat, and he is more Arabic in complexion. I adore his milky coffee coloured skin, and he adores my white skin. Definitely a case of opposites attracting in that department.

Onlookers have a field day with us --- trying to decide which nationality we are/where we are from, how old we are (he has a baby face when shaven), what the relationship is (ie son/mother, lovers. married), and the great difference in skin tones/hair colour.

I usually just smile, happens so often now, we dont comment. He may squeeze my hand when he notices us being ogled. Quite funny really.

Hey All,

I haven't done a major PDA since I was a teenager.

HOWEVER:yes:

D is a very loving and touching person. We hold hands, cuddle next to each other in resturaunts, a nice kiss, hugs and strokes.

Yes we get stares probably because she could be my daughter.

You should see the looks in guys faces when this hot mama kisses me. I think she does that out of spite.:bgrin2:

rik

PS. We have a 27 year gap.