freaked out not freaking out

I'm new to this age gap relationship stuff. I know that people will be freaked out when they find out about my OM. What freaks me out is that I don't find our relationship strange at all. I mean, aren't I supposed to feel akward?
I think before I met my OM, I would have said ewwww and judged others for the same thing. But, it just feels right. We feel such a strong connection just being in the same room together.
So, here's the question... is this what other ladies have gone through? And why aren't I freaked out that I'm not freaked out?

Because age is just a number ..... You don't feel strange because you obviously love him or care about him.... My OM is 44 and I am 27........ How far apart are you two?......

I worry sometimes..... but never about how much I love this man.... I kn ow he is the one.........

Good luck

I know what you mean. I would have never thought I would be dating someone 17 years older than myself. But when we are together....there are no ages, just two people connected to each other. It's okay to freak out, but don't let that drive you away from the relationship.....you could be driving out the best thing to happen to you.

I wish you the best :)

It never occured to me to be upset or uncomfortable about my OM's age. He truly is my soul mate. We are far too compatible and love each other too much to let something like a number stand in our way. The only time it bothers me is if I ever dwell on the thought that I may one day have to live without him. (He's 52, I'm 28) In ten or fifteen years, I will be having to deal with his aging as well as my parents aging and inevitable passing on. Of course, as we all know, someone our age can be taken away from us just the same, so I'm willing to risk that. Luckily for me, we both live very healthy, active lifestyles, so hopefully he'll be around and well for a long, long time.

You'll probably encounter opposition from friends, but that's how you'll separate the true friends from the "so-called" friends. A friend will be overjoyed with your happiness after his or her initial concerns are put to rest! (And you should work hard to put their concerns to rest. There's a difference between not caring about your happiness and genuine concern, ya know?)

Good luck!
Happy4Me

welcome...

i most definetly have been where you are (i'm 27, he's 45, together 3 years). our ages didn't occur to me when we started dating; i just knew that i really wanted to get to know him more. then, when we went public & started seeing each other exclusively, everyone around me did indeed freak out (parents, friends, you name it). but like happy4me says, that's when you'll realize who your true friends are!!
i advise you to skip as much melodrama as possible, no matter how badly some around you may want to impose it, and enjoy your fab new relationship! life is too short -- may as well live deep, and with the people who compliment you best.

have a great weekend,
sam

Thank you for your advice everyone. It's so good to read that I'm not the only one alone in this situation. The few friends I have told about this care and are concerned about me, but I get the impression that they would badger me if I didn't mean so much to them. Especially when I saw the look in their eyes when I told them about his son being my age. I'm 20 and my OM is 45.

The concern that my friends bring up is about the future. They warn me about when I get older that I'd have to take care of my OM. They painted the picture of me trying to raise babies and having to care of a deathly ill husband.

My age gap didn't freak me out either........I was more worried about what others would say/think. I'm 31, he's 60-we've been together 6 years and will be married in May. Luckily we never got any flack from anyone......and I don't think it would have bothered me anyway.

HEY MAZZYN THAT'S THE SAME THING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY DID. THEY TRIED TO TELL WHY BOTHER WITH SOMEONE WHO YOUR GOING TO TO BE TAKING CARE OF IN THE NEXT 2 OR 3 YEARS FROM NOW. IM 23 AND MY OM 46. THEY SAY WHY DON'T YOU GET SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE. BUT I DON'T WANT SOMEONE MY OWN AGE. IF I DID I WOULD BE WITH THAT PERSON. BUT I CHOSE TO BE WITH AN OM.

I'm 30 and my husband is 57. We've been together for almost seven years and married for two. The biggest question we ask ourselves now is why did we wait so long to get married?

None of us is promised a tomorrow and nobody knows what is going to happen in the next hour let alone in several years. Better to enjoy the gift of love standing before you today then to throw it away fretting over something that may or may not happen in the future.

My husband and I take it one glorious day at a time and are so very grateful for every moment we have.