fooled around and fell in love??

Well, I thank all of you who offered their wise advise on my budding relationship with my YM. I am very confused right now and feel like a silly little school girl because I can't deal with my feelings for this guy.

As you recall, this guy really turned me on sexually at first and my sole intention was to just have a fling with him. I thought that he wanted the same! As it turns out, I seem to have developed serious and deep feelings for him, which I did not want to happen.
He is so sweet and kind. I went away for a week and he offered to watch my cat and pick me up and drop me off at the airport. As it turns out, I come home to a warm house, clean dishes and a repaired cupboard. He even cleaned out the cat box!!!

Though this man is nothing short of wonderful, I am running scared and thinking that I should break it off before I fall too deep! I just can't see a future with him. I don't understand why I feel this way but I suspect I would not feel so if he were closer to my age. Does anyone out there have any insight or advise for me on this.

Just a couple questions...you say you are running before you "fall too deep." How come? What would happen if you did fall deeply in love? And why is it that you can't see a future with him. Is it just about the age difference?

You feel this way because society convinces us that older women are less attractive than younger women. That's why.

However, like most propaganda, it isn't necessarily true - as your young man is
showing you.

I don't know what kind of future you (or he, for that matter) is envisioning, but anything is possible if you both want it with your whole hearts.

And you'll have to talk to him to find out what he wants.

Why don't you just enjoy being together for a while and once some time has elapsed - ask him?

I tried to run but just as much as you want too. We have been together three years. For the first few months I kept it in my mind that this was just an infatuation that would not amount to anything. That is how I kept from running scared but guess what...I don't want to run anymore,

Good Luck and get ready to have the time of your life.

thanks all for your insight into my dilemma. I think that you all share a similar point of view. It is the age difference definitely! I just think that I can't measure up physically or even be able to relate to him on an intellectual level (for his age group I mean). I think that I may be thinking too much as he constantly reminds me how sexy I am ( although I don't see it) and how much he enjoys my company.

I guess that I should just play it by ear. I will keep you updated and thanks again!

M

I am a 38 year old 170lb. cake decorator with a high school education dating a soon to be 23 year old that is physically fit and getting ready to graduate from college as a computer science major.
I believe that if he calls you sexy...he means it and if he enjoys your company...believe it.
It's a scary thing but it can be such an enjoying experience. Nothing is ever perfect but you won't know how it will turn out unless you give it a shot.

Good Luck!!!

micru,

if he scoops cat poop, i'd hang on tight!!!

i agree with everyone else...take things slow, and don't make any hasty decisions you'll regret later. things generally happen as they should.

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