Just Curious

I'm new to this board and would like input. I've been in a very long-term relationship with a guy a few years older than me. We met when I was pretty young. Since then, I've wanted to (but did not) cheat on him twice - both times with guys significantly younger than me. I can't help but wondering if there's a trend here and whether it signals something about the relationship I'm in. Thanks.

I think it signifies you should get out of your LTR, if you are comepletey sure thats what you want.
You know it is really ok to break up with someone if thats what you really feel in your heart.
If you really want someone else you must make sure that is what you want.
Sometimes love does fizzel as we grow...........
Do you love your LTR man? I mean really love him to continue your relationship? Or are you feeling the need to get out of it?
Sometimes we shouldn't stay in a relationship if we don't want to be.
You didn't say your age, if you want to share all that than feel free too, we have many differant members here who all give great advice in one way or another.
Good luck!

I do agree with snow that love sometimes fizzles... because people generally lack something in their relationship that if they go for something else it could be better than what they have. In other words variety. When I read your post, the first thing came to mind is that you have answered your question. You had this notion to cheat twice but didn't so it sent signals on where u want to go. If you really take the time to listen and watch your actions, it can help you see where u are going. Just be open and notice what has to change in order for you to be happy. But of course you really have to be honest not just to yourself but your bf as well. Good luck.

Well, it all depends. People in long-term perfectly happy relationships do fantasize about other people sometimes and even flirt right up to the edge of the line more than once.

It doesn't necessarily indicate that their relationship is over or doomed or a mess.

It can be a hint that you're needing something more than your getting from this guy.

So think it over.

The answer is probably inside you.

you may want to check out the yw and om boards, there are alot of women there who may be feeling or have felt the same way you do, being that they are in relationships with older men. But of course feel free to always come to us, I'm only trying to help you, get the support your looking for. Just check it out on the same agelesslove boards we are on.