MidniteRayne
03-06-2003, 02:32 PM
The first thing to look for is what age your prospective mate is operating at; does he or she act older or younger than they are? The age someone feels is more important than the age he or she really is.
When two people of different generations come together, Reishus says they can each bring something unique to the relationship. Different experiences can enrich the time together. She says, "Never let age stop you from finding your real mate."
PinkCat
03-06-2003, 03:03 PM
That is so true. If I had used age as an excuse not to be with my sweetheart, I would be nowhere near as happy as I am now!
I guess I am a hypocrite... I used to totally judge people for all kinds of things, including when they would date someone much older/younger. Now here I am, dating a guy 10 years younger, and realizing that people (myself included) are just far too judgemental.
Redoakgal
03-06-2003, 04:23 PM
Amen to that! (I was also guilty of the same thing!)
SnowPrincess
03-08-2003, 12:59 AM
Reishus
I did a little web search Mel, and I found a Reishus construction worker named Olaf!!
I don't think thats right:confused: http://usa.venus.co.uk/weed/agifs/images83/move217.gif
OK Rayne, give it up, who is Reishus?
Inquiring minds here :)
:cool:
MidniteRayne
03-08-2003, 11:42 AM
She is a certified clinical sexologist . A.C.S.
Her first name is Sandra.
Good outlook I think.
PinkCat
03-11-2003, 10:23 AM
Well, whoever she is, that's some wise thinking!
You know, whenever some "professional" states that we shouldn't date younger men, he or she is saying that all young men are immature... and almost by default, that all older men are MATURE. We all know that is not true!!
I know that my ym is definitely more mature than *I* am, so I just hope he can put up with my craziness...
Nessa
03-11-2003, 02:44 PM
Originally posted by melisande
Reishus? who she?
I thought it was a monkey..... Oh no that would be Rhesus
never mind.....
HadleyManassas
03-12-2003, 04:14 PM
Ok Gang, have a new problem that I have encountered. This is one that I sorta knew about as Doug mentioned it to me 3 yrs ago, but I tossed it aside. However, it is a real problem. For those of you who have travelled all over the world with spouses, bf's and have relocated with jobs many times, who have bought and sold homes often, who have sent kids off to college, and lived within many different neighborhoods within your community. My bf, 40, Doug , lives outside of Ocean City, Md. For those of you who are living in other locations, the shore of Md. is very isolated. And Doug is one of those individuals who has lived out his entire life on the Eastern Shore of Md. He has only travelled to Baltimore, MD. that is it. I can count on my hands the number of times he has taken the Annapolis bridge across the bay. He knows there is a bigger world out there, wants a bigger job, knows he is smart, is a great worker, and realizes he has found loyal love in me. But he has made plans and cancelled them 3x in the past 3 yrs to come and see me again, and all because of his fear of the unknown, of venturing forth from the shore he has grown up on, of leaving this closed, isolated community. I met Doug when I taught on the shore and could still hear the British accents in the Tangier Island kids who came to my classes. Between Snowhill, Md and Accomack, VA, there are men and women who have never ventured beyond their towns literally. Doug is attempting to overcome his fear of the unknown. He knows the world outside of his tiny town is grand, and he wants to see it, wants to experience it. He is afraid of the bridge, he is afraid of the major highways, he is afraid of finding a new job and learning a new way of life with me; yet, he wants it so badly that he called and attempted to tell me last night of his fears. Choked up I could hear the anxiety in his voice last night. In his mind he wants to come to see me, wants a life with me, says marriage is what he wants, a new way of life off the shore, has made plans, told me to send directions, says he is coming but admits that his anxiety level is massive. So that is my new situation...life was fine when I lived near him, but when I moved for a job, to him that concept was foreign. So...this sincere man will make his own decision about whether to arrive and see me, this love he claims he needs so much and can't let go of. I am not going to harrass him, or beg him, or berate him. He is dealing with a very real phobia for him and a life change in the mix. I am going to see what will happen. Hadley
