The best way to turn down a guy

Yes, I asked it, what is the best way to turn down a guy?
I get asked out all the time, and get pressured for my phone number.
It always fails, I smile and try to turn the guy down without hurting his feelings.
Some guys don't take no for an answer and say "ah, come on" "its just lunch" or whatever else you can imagine. I really don't like lying to people but one time I lied and said I was married and that kinda toned it down.

Suggestions?

Yes, I asked it, what is the best way to turn down a guy?
I get asked out all the time, and get pressured for my phone number.
It always fails, I smile and try to turn the guy down without hurting his feelings.
Some guys don't take no for an answer and say "ah, come on" "its just lunch" or whatever else you can imagine. I really don't like lying to people but one time I lied and said I was married and that kinda toned it down.

Suggestions?


Sometimes being married doesn't even help. I've had guys say "Where's your ring?" (if I forgot to wear it) or "Dang girl, that's all your man loves you? If you were my girl I'd buy you a rock that no one would miss."

...or countless other dribble.

I've found the best way to handle it varies on the guy. I avoid lying because you never know who that guy knows and a potential mate you want to date may be his friend and now you're suddenly a married chick.

So be careful with that.

I'd stick to a firm and polite 'no' when all else fails. Some people are just a little thick-skulled on hearing the response.

I've been put on the spot with a couple rude ones and shot back at them equally rude with my last resort line of, "Does the word "no" confuse you? I tried to keep it simple, but honestly if you've got suggestions I'm all ears on how I can break a one-syllable response down so even you'll catch it."

That one always shuts them up. I may get a farewell "B" comment but it always comes with a farewell, and I can live with being called a "B". In fact I derive great humor out of those interactions. :tongue2:

Just be kind and polite to the rest and do what you've been doing. We all have been there and nothing works for every type of guy you'll come in contact with.

Yeah. That's what makes it difficult is when the guy doesn't take no for an answer and start harassing you!

I do agree with you about lying. I've only done it once. It is a small world after all.:rolleyes:

Yeah. That's what makes it difficult is when the guy doesn't take no for an answer and start harassing you!

I do agree with you about lying. I've only done it once. It is a small world after all.:rolleyes:

It is a small world and I've had it bite me in the butt, which is why I said avoid doing it if you can.

Honestly, I've been known to lie to a guy and take my chances just to be rid of them.

The tactic I used a lot back in the day that usually left the guy not being upset was, "Look I'm sure you're a great guy, but I wouldn't be a great girlfriend to you because I'm not interested in a relationship with you. And if I'm not interested, I'm not going to play you because it would just hurt you and leave us both feeling like crap."

Like I said, I usually put the blame on me saying I wouldn't be great for them and it usually took their defensive stance off and allowed them to go rationalize me any way they so desired.

My biggest problem has always been (and still is) not the initial meeting with a guy, but after being friends with them. I can't even count the number of all my ex's friends (married, single, whatever) who would hang out at our house and then think it was okay to hit on me.

For a while I thought it was something with me, but it's not. These guys see what it's like to see their friend have a good woman and want a piece. Even my fiance's uncle hits on me, but we laugh it off. I rarely sell myself as valuable, but I know I'm a heck of a woman to be partnered with. I'm laid back, unshakably faithful, and I speak from my heart and not just my mouth. I continually strive to be better today than I was yesterday. I don't involve myself in gossip and avoid it all costs. Those are appealing qualities for a spouse and I know how rare those qualities truly are.

Just remember that's what they're picking up on you. It's no just your initial beauty but that there's some quality under it. You are beautiful both inside and out, and of course men will fight to win it. Even if that fight is with you, lol. :yes:

....Just remember that's what they're picking up on you. It's no just your initial beauty but that there's some quality under it. You are beautiful both inside and out, and of course men will fight to win it. Even if that fight is with you, lol. :yes:

Scott is the bomb, that's foshizzle!! :D

Plus she is a really nice gal. :)

**Brief Hijack**

Scott, can we make you an honorary BBWer?? You said such nice, kind things in a PM, I want to share them on the BBWer Journal! :) Of course, I will respect your wishes, whatever the answer. Thank you.

**Hijack over**

Scott is the bomb, that's foshizzle!! :D

Plus she is a really nice gal. :)

**Brief Hijack**

Scott, can we make you an honorary BBWer?? You said such nice, kind things in a PM, I want to share them on the BBWer Journal! :) Of course, I will respect your wishes, whatever the answer. Thank you.

**Hijack over**



Thank you Harrison!!! :o
Thank You Angel for your kind words also!!!

You may share what I wrote anytime!!!! I have no problems with it.

Back to normal programming......

Show them this picture...

http://i61.photobucket.com/albums/h51/gp_fillmore/shotgun.jpg

Tell them its your over-protective uncle

Show them this picture...

http://i61.photobucket.com/albums/h51/gp_fillmore/shotgun.jpg

Tell them its your over-protective uncle

/sighs

Hey, it's your fault for wearing that hat! :p ;)

Show them this picture...

http://i61.photobucket.com/albums/h51/gp_fillmore/shotgun.jpg

Tell them its your over-protective uncle

Yeah, If I could stop looking at your chest. HAHA. :D
That's a mighty big gun you have there. :D

Yeah, If I could stop looking at your chest. HAHA. :D
That's a mighty big gun you have there. :D

He he! George is just flaunting his good looks! If you've got it, flaunt it!;)

Scott, I don't have any specific tips for you. What I usually do is smile politely and firmly explain that I have a stud waiting for me at home! I never give out my number. If he opts to be persistent then I can get pretty rude; to heck with his ego!

When I was 18/19, I used to walk around with the number for a funeral home and if a guy wouldn't take no for an answer then I would nicely give him that number. Now can you imagine this guy rushing home and building up himself to give this hot chick he met a call,only to hear "Morgan's funeral home, how may I direct your call?":bgrin2:

I was cruel I know, but some guys deserve to be treated like that! Anyway I wouldn't suggest my old strategy, just be firm and never give out your number unless you want the person to contact you.

When I was 18/19, I used to walk around with the number for a funeral home and if a guy wouldn't take no for an answer then I would nicely give him that number. Now can you imagine this guy rushing home and building up himself to give this hot chick he met a call,only to hear "Morgan's funeral home, how may I direct your call?":bgrin2:

I was cruel I know, but some guys deserve to be treated like that! Anyway I wouldn't suggest my old strategy, just be firm and never give out your number unless you want the person to contact you.

hahahhaha good one

make me feel lucky for just getting laughed at and walked away from :giggle:

I would tend to lie, sort of. I know, I know. But I just found it way easier to tell a man that I already have a wonderful wonderful guy in my life. I just didn't elaborate and explain that this "guy" in my life was actually my dog. Hehe. ;)

In general, I found that it really helps to cut them off before they go on to long, and be really firm that you are not looking or not interested. If you waver, they won't leave you alone!