Met the family!

well today was his younger sisters birthday, and he finally convinced me that it would be okay if i came over to her house with him to have dinner with his family...he told me, "youll be surprised, no one will bat an eye." he said that he had told them about me and everything was cool. so i met his two sisters, his 3 nephews, and his parents. (one brother to go) it didnt go *badly* and no one was rude or anything like that, but i did feel a little like, they didnt know what i was doing with him or something. but that could just be me projecting my own feelings on them or something...i dont know...it was kind of weird. i was thinking if it went okay tonight, i would be able to go ahead and tell my parents about him, but im not too sure now. i cant help but wonder what was said about me/us after we left. i hope i didnt embarrass him. when i am feeling out of place i can get really quiet, i think i was like that tonight, but i wanted them to like me, i hope that they didnt think i was too weird. or just too young for their son/ brother. im glad its over. i wanted to hold his hand but i didnt. his older nephews are both in high school, i couldnt read their looks. they pretty much ignored me, typical of teenage boys i hope. i was scared that i would never be able to relate to these people, like what if we fall in love and i am stuck with them, will they ever accept me? but maybe its like this with everyones family, its been a while since i was in this situation.
sometimes i feel like this is going to be too much to deal with or something. i hope this isnt all a big mistake. i am hoping that there will come a point when i stop feeling worried about what other people think. sorry if this is irrelevent, i just needed to tell someone.

I remember when I first met D's sister!! She was so nice, non-judgemental....but always wondered what she thought about me and the situation I am in with her brother. I know his mother likes me - but hates that I am 17years younger. She says I would be perfect for him if I were in my 30's. I never understood that - I would still be the same person! You fall in love w/ the person and not the age. She was telling D she had a friend who is divorcing her husband after 10yrs b/c he's getting too old. There is a 12 yr age difference. That freaked D out!

On new years - I met his two nephews. One is 16, the other is 21.....I'm 22! I was afraid the oldest was going to say something along the lines of "i can date her!" But it wasn't said.....thank goodness!

After a while his mother noticed how happy we are together and how happy her son it. She accepts it and is happy that we both found happiness.

I wish you the best of luck!!

Stand in the light with your relationship. The more uncomfortable you are about it, the more you will make people uncomfortable with you. Once you stop focusing on the age difference, others will as well (I know this from experience with my 26 year older husband).

At the end of the day, who you love is your choice and your choice alone. Others are certainly free to have their own opinions and not agree with you, but letting them dictate your choices will only in the end make you miserable.

Don't let other people's opinions influence any of your decisions! I mean, I always take certain friend's or family member's thoughts into consideration, however, if there is something I want that makes me happy, I just go for it! Thus, I've been able to live without regret (on decisions I made for myself. ) It took me a long time to learn this - pretty much being shoved down the aisle for my first marriage and other decisions that people have "made" for me- whew. Now, after all of that HELL, I am so unbelievable happy and fullfilled in my relationship with my man. I love him to no end and he loves me. Most of our friends and family members who have had objections have seen that we really love each other and that we are happy. They'll come around! Realx, take it easy and love each other. It's easier to ignore opinions when you're feeling all warm & fuzzy!;)

well i have been feeling kind of ambivalent about us the past few days, i think that things will be fine, i just need to work them out in my head.
i had told my dad a few weeks ago that the person i was seeing was older than me, and i told him the truth last night, well i fudged a little, because he was saying, "my fiance's younger than me!" (shes 9 years younger than my dad, which still makes her 7 years younger than my man...i told him he was a year older than she is...he took it pretty well, though i think he was surprised. i guess im not sure how i feel about 'us' which is the main problem...
on another note, i saw my exboyfriend last night and it turns out he has known all about my new guy the whole time, our circles of friends are even more connected than i thought...he knew his name and everything...well seeing him really mixed me up...maybe i need to be alone...

Oh girl I know how you feel!!!! When you see your ex - especially if you were together for a long time (4 years for me), it is so hard! You only remember the good times. It's hard to remember why you broke up. Just take a deep breath and let your life move on.....hmmm.....maybe I should take my own advice. It's hard when your in the same field as your ex...and have to work with him from time to time.

if he wasnt so nice it would be easier!!! last night we met at this bar down the street so he could give me a key to his place so i can watch our cats next week, started talking, and i started feeling so JEALOUS which i am not really used to...he guessed that was what it was, thats when he said he knew about me seeing someone else, and that it was okay, that he will always be there for me, etc, etc...but he also says "why are you denying your feelings for me?" which i dont think i am doing...i had been so sure that we were not right for each other. he brings up our intensity, which is true, but i really dont like feeling so MUCH - i wanted to escape his hold on me. incidentally, he is 8 years older than i am, which seemed like a big deal when i was 19 and he was 27. we were together 3 years, lived together for 2 of them.

I know what you meen how it is a little uncomfortable when you meet the family. I am 21. Last summer I met the first part of his family. His nephew was graduating from high school. That evening he had a big party at my sister-in-laws house with all his friends (he was the class VP) it was a little strange with some people staring at me especially when I was introduced. My husband is 43.
It was easier meeting his younger sisters though because one married a guy a little younger and has a little baby girl and the other is not yet married.

Calybo,

I know exactly what you mean about meeting the family. I still remember the first day I was introduced to everyone (well, it was all at different times so I endure the "uncomfortable-ness" about 4 times)..Anyway, when I was introduced, I was 18, and he was 38...I DID NOT want to meet anyone but he pushed the issue until I finally gave in. Each time I met one of his relatives, I don't think any of us knew what to say so I was always ready to leave their presence. No one has ever said anything about us (to our faces) but sometimes I wonder exactly what is being said. Anyway, here we are 8 yrs later and everyone seems to be okay with us. They are excited that we have decided to get married and things are going pretty good. I wish you the same happiness.