never rains but it pours

Well I had a double dose of bad news today. MY "foster mother" who is my half brothers mom (she took me in after I left home provided for me and generally helped shape me into who I am today) died a couple of days ago, my brother only managed to get hold of me to tell me today. So as you can imagine I am upset about that, but then I got a phone call from USCIS, deportation proceedings have begun and I am being shipped back to England very very soon. I don't know why or how they found me but there it is. I guess the only bright side I can find right now is I will be able to attend the funeral. I don't know if I am going to keep coming here from this point forward, after all i am not in an AGR. Thank you all for your support over the last few years.

Tim

Hey Tim... you don't have to be in an age-gap to post here. I haven't been in an age-gap for over 3 years ( I think?) and I still hang out. :)

The people here have saved my sanity and given me strength when I had none (like right now in my life).

I am sorry about your Mom... That is tough to deal with I know. Take care...
Barbara

I'm sorry that your world has been turned upside down. I hope you find a way to put your life back together. It must be hard for you right now, but in time, things will get better.

Why are you being deported?

Hey guys - Tim's having a really rough time of it. For those of you who genuinely care and want to voice it, thanks on his behalf. For those of you who might have something helpful to add where INS is concerned, please contact him via PM. And for those who are just curious about the immigration/INS news... no offense meant but now is not the time.

With Tim's permission, I'll field PMs regarding the immigration stuff. He's got enough on his plate right now.

Thanks.

Tim, am so sorry about your foster Mom!
Hey, I am not in an AG anymore and....I ain't leaving here lol!
Geeze, I feel awful for you having to go back to England!
I know nothing about the immigration process but, this just doesn't seem right!
My prayers are going out to you too!
Seems lots of folks are needing prayers today :(
Bright Blessings, TD

Tim, I am sorry about your loss, hang in there. Hugs.

I'm terribly sorry, Tim, about your loss. You have my condolences, and I am sorry you have to say farewell to the USA so hurriedly. :(

Please do keep posting from the other side like so many others do. You'll not be forgotten here.

My sympathy is with you in the loss of someone so important to you. And I am sorry the INS is making things difficult. At least you are looking on the bright side that it affords a way to be there for the funeral. Good luck in all you do.

i am sorry for your loss...

I'm sorry for your loss, Tim!!! :(
:bighug:

(I hope you still will pop by jere every now and then though, like yellowrose said.. you don't need to be in a AGR to be a member here!)

As everyone else said; I am truly sorry & I do hope your days get brighter.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and other bad news. Take care; my thoughts are with you.

Hi Tim. I know the world seems like it is falling apart. I haven't experienced losing someone close to me but I can only imagine how painful it feels to lose someone close to you. It is good that you at least get to go to the funeral, and pay your respects. Not everything is bad as it seems and a lot of good things are in store for you. Please don't ever give up hope.

Tim, I'm really sorry for the crappy time you're going through. Hopefully this will be a new beginning, and a whole new start for you.
Big hugs, and please do keep in touch.

So sorry to hear about your mom, my prayers are with you.

Just remember, when a door closes, God has away of opening a window...

Tim,

I am very sorry to hear about your mum's death. It is never easy to lose our loved ones.

With the immigration ordeal, the only advice I can give is to seek out an immigration attorney. Pronto!
so sorry you having to deal with so much on your plate.

Tim,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

You may be surprised how well you feel when you get back home. You'll rebond with your friends and fam and life may look a whole lot better.

Hang in there.

Kat

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mum. I'm really sorry things turned out the way they did for you on this side of the pond.

I hope you can turn these crises into new opportunities that you can't even dream of yet.

Best,
Bub.

Sorry to hear about that Tim. I don't know what the situation is with INS, but maybe going back to England isn't the worst thing that could happen?

I have no words. I'm shocked, stunned...speechless. :(

As if things couldn't get worse for you. Please know that many of us don't know you very well, but would be willing to let you lean on us right now to have a place of comfort.

Don't leave Ageless. There's no reason to. Plus I think many people would be saddened to see you go.

Again, I'm so sorry and hope that you are reaching out and venting this pain and frustration to someone you can trust.

((((Tim))))

Tim all things happen for a reason and sometimes you dont know what that reason is at the time....it all becomes clear as it unfolds.....it seems like you are being forced to end your journey in the US...first your marriage ending, and all the financial stuff, and then the deportation (I thought you had residency but obviously not)....maybe it is time to go back home to what is familiar and regroup your life to move forward. There are lots of experiences waiting for you...love and light on your next step into the future.

I'm really sorry for your loss and the deportation order. :(

Tim all things happen for a reason and sometimes you dont know what that reason is at the time....it all becomes clear as it unfolds.....it seems like you are being forced to end your journey in the US...first your marriage ending, and all the financial stuff, and then the deportation (I thought you had residency but obviously not)....maybe it is time to go back home to what is familiar and regroup your life to move forward. There are lots of experiences waiting for you...love and light on your next step into the future.

What a wise woman you are!

Everything happens for a reason...and sometimes it can be very uncomfortable to go through. We gain our strength and wisdom from the adversities that take place in our lives. I too think that going back to England will be an opportunity for you to reconnect with yourself. I know you didn't come from the most peaceful background...but I hope you find peace in all of this storm.

You're in my prayers...

And this is a new beginning for you and I'm praying that it be a life well lived as it is the best to do. Live well, buddy.

Paris

Thank you to everyone who has sent PMs. To answer the many questions that have been pouring in, yes, Tim is probably going home. It's a long story - I don't think either of us has the energy to address it in detail right now - and yes, I think we both agree that this is probably what's best for him even though I think it's a thought that makes both of us sad. We had several long conversations today and, until INS contacts him again, everything is kind of in limbo.

Regarding the other sad news: Tim's mum is fine. Healthy, vibrant, young... she's fine. It's his older brothers' mother (they have different mums) who has passed away. It was very sudden and Tim's brother was there with her when it happened. She was like a foster mother to Tim during some of his teen years. He is, I think, homesick, even though he's scared and sad about leaving because he has close friends here in the states that he may not see for a very long time.

Tonight, he is spending the evening with some of those friends trying to relax and just put the stress on the side burner for a few hours. I'm sure, when he has a moment, he'll post another note.

Please continue to keep him in your prayers - that whatever transition he faces will be smooth, as unstressful as possible and that it will be right for him.

hey tim WOW I am truly sorry for all the bad things that have been happening...BIG HUGS TO YOU!

I have a question why are they sending you back?????????? if it is to personal please Pm me as I am doing all this visa stuff to

I hope and pray all will go well..I am so so sorry :(

Tim, I'm sorry you have had such a tough time. As far as leaving the site, you wouldn't be the first person who is no longer in an age gap relationship to return and post advice to others. See how you feel in time. I wish you luck for your future.

My condolences on the loss of someone so important in your life....

I'm very sorry to hear this news!!!

Tim,

I am so so sorry for the way things are turning out. It just took one bad thing to get the ball rolling, and now it just seems like everything is coming unraveled. It has to feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders.

I don't want to sound cliche...I'll try my best not to. Just know that no matter what, you will come out of the other side of this situation just fine. Just stay strong, deal with things head on, and do what you need to do. There is nowhere to go from here but up, right? The worst is over...just keep moving forward..even if you just take baby steps. Everything will work out and you will be just fine....it's just biding your time dealing with the mess until you get to the other side.

Much love to you and prayers and positive energy....

Tim, I am so shocked and saddened by all that has happened to you. I hope that you stay strong and stay positive. Good things CAN come out of bad. And like others have said, don't leave ageless, you don't have to be in a relationship to enjoy the friendship that is here.

Thank you all for your kind words. I don't know why I am being deported for certain but can hazard a good guess. I had to go to court for the car accident and was charged etc., was given a conviction and a twelve month court supervision order(?) plus around $1000 in fines. Other than friends they are the only people who had my cell number and address so i would imagine a red flag went up somewhere and thats how they got a hold of me. To be honest i can't really tell you what was said by them to me on the phone as I was still in a daze over my foster mother. I have thought things through and have decided to not fight this. I can't get a job here, I can't get a drivers license and it will be difficult to find somewhere to live etc., whereas in England I can get all of that within a week or two of getting there. Plus I haven't seen my mum in 4 years and will be nice to see her for christmas.
Right now just have to figure out what to do with all of the things at the house, especially as at any given time they could show up and take me away.

AWW Tim I am really sorry for all this.
I wish i had more words for you to make ya feel better but i don't.
All I can offer is a hug and to let you know it will be okay:(

So sorry for your loss Tim. Please remember that this is just a tough period in your life and it will soon be over. It's true that when it rains it pours, but bad expriences like these only make us stronger.

Do come back to post here, not being in an AGR doesn't matter at all, otherwise I should be out too ;)

Take care, and hugs to you :)

Im so sorry to hear about your loss but I must say you are looking at the deportation with a positive outlook and that is a good start for you.

Im wishing you all the best and I hope that you pop in once in a while to let us know how you are faring.

Good luck to you.

Tim's asked me to keep everyone as updated as possible - he'll post again when he can. Quick update:

I've gotten someone to take care of the pets and the things in the house. I'm struggling to get it done from 100 miles away but it IS getting done. As far as INS is concerned, it's literally just a waiting game at this point.

When I talked to Tim a little while ago, he still sounded overwhelmed (understandably) but calmer. He misses his mum and his little brother terribly so I'm glad that he will be with them in time for Christmas. I don't think he will leave Ageless completely - give him time to get his bearings and he'll check in. He's got too many friends here to just walk away completely and he knows it.

Tim's asked me to keep everyone as updated as possible - he'll post again when he can. Quick update:

I've gotten someone to take care of the pets and the things in the house. I'm struggling to get it done from 100 miles away but it IS getting done. As far as INS is concerned, it's literally just a waiting game at this point.

When I talked to Tim a little while ago, he still sounded overwhelmed (understandably) but calmer. He misses his mum and his little brother terribly so I'm glad that he will be with them in time for Christmas. I don't think he will leave Ageless completely - give him time to get his bearings and he'll check in. He's got too many friends here to just walk away completely and he knows it.

Thanks for the updates kel...really worried about this all and happy that he gets to see his mum and that...You both are such strong people and I admire you both!
It will turn out okay i promise...its just super rough right now:(
Proud of you both and love you both!:grouphug:

i recall the song "That's Life" as made famous by the Chairman of the Board:

Each time I find myself
Flat on my face
I pick myself up and get
Back in the race!

good mantra to have, i think.

Hi Tim. I'm glad you are hanging in there. The winds of change are blowing towards going back home. I pray that you spread your winds and fly effortlessly towards happiness. We all will be awaiting the good news. :)

Tim, I am sorry for your loss and I really hope that the INS act sooner rather then later, there is nothing worse then waiting without knowing IMO



elizabeth tudor reminded me of the refrain that always runs through my head when times are bad.

From Tubthumping by Chumbawamba :D

I get knocked down
But I get up again
Youre never going to
Keep me down

:bighug:

Tim, I am sorry for your loss and I really hope that the IRS act sooner rather then later, there is nothing worse then waiting without knowing ...

You are too cute, Shewolf. You must've meant INS (Immigration and Naturalization Service). The IRS is the department that takes our tax money and seizes homes and property when necessary. (Internal Revenue Service) :eek:

LOL!

In any event, I would like to meet with both you and Tim when the missus and I are next in England. Hopefully you'll be living within reasonable driving distance of one another.

Tim,

And it's never too late to try again to become an American. I personally find "Yank-ism" to be a most noble and worthy endeavor... :D

You are too cute, Shewolf. You must've meant INS (Immigration and Naturalization Service). The IRS is the department that takes our tax money and seizes homes and property when necessary. (Internal Revenue Service) :eek:

LOL!

In any event, I would like to meet with both you and Tim when the missus and I are next in England. Hopefully you'll be living within reasonable driving distance of one another.

Tim,

And it's never too late to try again to become an American. I personally find "Yank-ism" to be a most noble and worthy endeavor... :D


I know Harrison I is DA DORK!!!!

Actually I do know which is which, my only excuse is that I had surgery yesterday and was therefore posting under the influence of anaesthetic :tongue2:

I'm sorry for all that you are going through right now. I wish you all the best and hope that a fresh start back in England will bring some clarity and hope back into your life.

I'm sorry for your loss, Tim. :(