Did you always want to be a mother?

Just curious. Thanks!

I always wanted to be a mom...always. I wanted a brood of them!! I had two and my ex who was very abusive forced me to get my tubes tied..long story..SO now getting them untied..I WANT ONE MORE!! maybe two..I have seen a doctor on it..he he says I am good to go to get it done..GOsh I can't wait!

Being a mom means the world to me and I treasure every blessed day I get to wake up and see what the two beautiful children I have accomplish. I am so blessed!

I always wanted to be a Mom. I got started real young....I think it was because I thought if I had child of my own, there is always that one person who loves you no matter what, always. Does that make sense?

I first realized I wanted to be a Mom when I fell in love with my now ex-husband. We were both too young really, I know now, but we loved each other and got married and I have never had one regret about having my son at the age of 20. He's now 27 and despite his dad and I having problems and divorcing when he was 16 (or maybe because of?) he is such a bright, good, kind hearted person who is making a life for himself and his wife and I know when he makes me a grandmother one of these days he will be a fantastic dad because he's so loving. I also have a 19 year old daughter, who was 8 when her father and I divorced and she's also an amazingly kind and intelligent person.
I can't imagine my life without these two wonderful people, also known as my children, in it.

Thanks for starting this thread and giving me the opportunity to get that out there!

In a word....No!
But here I am....had Myan a month before my 35th birthday and have never regretted it.
Well, maybe I should hold off on the regrets for now.....she's almost 13:rolleyes:
Blessings, TD

I'm undecided.

Somedays I think it would be neat...but then others....eh.

Nadine.

What Jesique said.
I'm enjoying my freedom right now.....I've had to raise my sib's, so I'm done with that for a while.....

I'm undecided.

Somedays I think it would be neat...but then others....eh.

Nadine.

I just remembered!! I had a dream about you last night and you were in hospital and had just delivered a beautiful baby!! Honest!!

Yes..I wanted to be a mom. I am extremely proud of all of my children. I have three ranging in ages 25-29. They are my life!!

I just remembered!! I had a dream about you last night and you were in hospital and had just delivered a beautiful baby!! Honest!!

LOL...really?! How neat! I love to hear that people had dreams about me!!!

I hope it was a girl...cuz at the moment that's all I want. :D

Nadine.

LOL...really?! How neat! I love to hear that people had dreams about me!!!

I hope it was a girl...cuz at the moment that's all I want. :D

Nadine.

I won't tell you what it was...don't want to spoil the surprise..but the baby was beautiful and healthy!!

Oh and Nadine....I always wanted little girls too, and then when my son was born...I thought he had come straight from the stars!! I still think that about him and he is 29 years old!! Yes, he was and still is my sweetheart baby.

Yep! Always wanted to be a mot-

Huh? What? Men can't?

Oh...

Well....

Hmmm...

Nevermind!

Oh and Nadine....I always wanted little girls too, and then when my son was born...I thought he had come straight from the stars!! I still think that about him and he is 29 years old!! Yes, he was and still is my sweetheart baby.

LOL...I have no doubt thats true...how can it not be?! :D :D :D

Nadine.

I'm undecided.

Somedays I think it would be neat...but then others....eh.

Nadine.

I feel the same way. If I do decide to have children I dont want them for another 6-10 years. I am happy not being tied down....I like the freedom of doing whatever I want whenever I want. :bgrin2:

Plus the thought of childbirth scares the poop out of me!!! And I cant stand the thought right now of being waken up multiple times in the middle of the night for feedings!!! :eek:

I've never even considered having kids. It's just not anything that ever appealed to me at all. I test myself occasionally, because I'm slightly afraid of the stories I've heard of people's hormones going crazy and making them want kids around 30 or so, but if I try to think of babies as particularly cute or appealing, it just doesn't work. Little kids can be interesting for about ten minutes or so, but after that I'm done with them. I think the feeling is mutual. :p

You know....I never once had to get up in the night with Myan :no:
She slept with me and if she cried, I just rolled over, gave her a breast, and went back to sleep lol!
She was an awesome baby though!

But if I try to think of babies as particularly cute or appealing, it just doesn't work. Little kids can be interesting for about ten minutes or so, but after that I'm done with them. I think the feeling is mutual. :p

I feel the same exact way! Which is why I wonder if I should consider having kids. :confused:

I feel the same way. If I do decide to have children I dont want them for another 6-10 years. I am happy not being tied down....I like the freedom of doing whatever I want whenever I want. :bgrin2:

Plus the thought of childbirth scares the poop out of me!!! And I cant stand the thought right now of being waken up multiple times in the middle of the night for feedings!!! :eek:


Tied down? Bring it on, I'm ready!:D

Childbirth? Bring it on, I'm ready!:bgrin2::tongue2:

The day I find out I'm pregnant I'll be walking around with a big ole smile on my face for nine months and people are just going to be sick of my annoying smile!:D

Yes, I always wanted to be a mother. I've always loved babies and kids...and yeah, I'm one of those people who can never quite understand why people who don't want any kids at all think the way they do.

Yep! Always wanted to be a mot-

Huh? What? Men can't?

Oh...

Well....

Hmmm...

Nevermind!

LMAO!!! :rofl:

Anyways... Yes I ALWAYS wanted to be a mother.

If a bf did not look like father material due to his morality or education it was bye bye bf. My ex looked like good father material, :rolleyes: and he is not bad now that he does not have the direct responsibility of raising a child.

I always wanted to have a baby boy. I always wanted 2 but never wanted more than 2. Too bad number 2 did not want me. :( Not even through adoption.

All in all, my son is the best! Cool, smart, loving, responsible (kinda), and is what I always wanted! I am a very happy mom. :yes:

Well, I never wanted to be a mom b/c I was on the road from age 15 to 32....didn't think a baby should have to live like that.
I had also never been around little kids b/c no one around me had any either.
Some people need to have children to make themselves feel complete or "worthy".
I am just the opposite.....I was too afraid that I wouldn't have enough time and patience to give to a child....I didn't want to be selfish.
Too many children have to witness abuse, divorce, poverty b/c too many women "need" to be mothers.
Having said that, yes, my own child ended up travelling and being a part of a broken home. Still, since she has entered the world I've done the best I can by her and I just pray that's enough.
Now, when someone feels that they have so much love in their lives that they want to share that with a child....then, imo, they are having children for the right reasons.
I'll tell you this much....my child is no extension of me...she is definitely of her own mind and has interests that couldn't be more different from me.
Kids are like a box of chocolates....you never know what your going to get.
Blessings, TD

I THOUGHT I wanted kids. I always wanted a daughter, but I thought one of each would be cool. Then I had 2 boys. So for 14 years I told myself that god, or fate or whatever, figured that I grew up with brothers and was a bit of a tomboy so knew I would probably just make a girl neurotic. LOL

And I also realized that I liked the IDEA of having kids. But I never became that wonderful mom who bakes cookies and reads to her kids every night and does crafts. I've always been disappointed with myself for that. But I love my boys and I would have them all over again - I would just change the things that I did so wrong.

So it's a wonder that I even HAD another kid. But she turned out to be the girl I always wanted and I felt like I was getting a second chance when she was born - like god said, "I think she's learned by now." :yes:

I couldn't imagine having this body that is BUILT for having babies and never experiencing that, either. To me it be like having your sight but walking around with your eyes closed - never experiencing all of the beauty your eyes were made to see.

It's something that a man will never have the opportunity to do, too. I feel bad for them that way.

"I'm one of those people who can never quite understand why people who don't want any kids at all think the way they do."

well, some of us don't want kids because of overpopulation. or we want the freedom of being child-free. or, and this is important, because of our upbringing, do not feel they would be a good mother. and let's not forget those for whom it was never the right time or there was never enough money.

i love children. i always have, and i always will. i love my nephew and nieces very very much. but deep down, i did not want to be a mother. i came of age in the '70s, and feminism had opened up a new world of choices for me. and one of those choices was to be child-free. i wasn't going to marry and have children just because it was expected and socially acceptable. i've seen too many women do that, and greatly regretted it later. i left parenting to those who were great at it (like my sister and friends) and enjoyed the company of their children.

not all us child-free folks dislike children. i mean, come on! we were all kids once.;)

I'm undecided.

Somedays I think it would be neat...but then others....eh.

Nadine.

That's pretty much how I feel. I think it's more I don't want to be a mom now, but would possibly like to in the future.

But if I did get pregnant "now" as opposed to "later" I would joyfully accept it.:)

Nope I never wanted kids. Yeah wrap your mind around THAT. I tried to get my tubes tied when I just turned 18 but no dice.

5 kids later now, I can honestly say that I never really knew what I wanted until I had it. Im the oldest of 4 and have helped raise 2 younger siblings so the thought of having my body change, changing diapers and being at some little creature's beck and call was just not appealing. Then I had a baby and that baby opened my eyes that living life was just not all about what I could do for myself but what I could do for someone else. You really dont know what love is until you have a child love you completely and unconditionally and until you learn that you would do anything for your child even put your life after its, I would gladly happily and with no regrets die for any of my children if I needed to..and yeah they are a pain in the butt, but unlike other things that make you want to throw your head through a wall, if someone asked you would you have it any other way most parents would say no and mean it.

My kids are everything I never knew I wanted until I had them.

Strw...I bet your an awesome mom. :)

Never wanted them, but once I had them I couldn't imagine my life without them. :)

Strw...I bet your an awesome mom. :)

Thank you, I try but it's the hardest job I have ever had, I can only hope they grow up and can look back with laughter.

Never wanted them, but once I had them I couldn't imagine my life without them. :)

I always wanted them and when I got them I really didn't want them anymore... LOL J/K (not always.. LOL).

But there is one thing I would have liked to have done different and that was to start a little later having them... 18 is way too early!!!

I can't wait to have one now though... :D

Yep! Always wanted to be a mot-

Huh? What? Men can't?

Oh...

Well....

Hmmm...

Nevermind!

That was like hearing Santa isn't real. :eek: :p

Okay, I've never wanted to be a mother, but I thought it might be worth offering a guys perspective...

I always thought I would have kids. I had this idea that by 23 I'd be married and have one, and the white picket fence, and all that crap. But I think I was just buying into what we're told we should do with our lives by society.

I have a step-daughter now, and have been a part of her life for the last couple of years, so in a way I DO have what I imagined, albeit a couple of years late. However... we have shared custody of Savannah. She is here one week, with her dad the next, although that might change in the future when she needs a bit more stability. This really works for me because we enjoy our 'off-weeks' where we aren't tied down and having to worry about her needs or wants. And then I feel refreshed for the weeks we do have her, I just wish we had a bit more spare time then to do fun stuff (is it me, or do kids get too much homework?).

This has made me realise that I really don't think I would like to have a baby that would be completely dependent on me. I also don't feel the need to continue the family line, or anything like that, so I'm just happy to be a part of Savannahs life, as I am now.

That was like hearing Santa isn't real. :eek: :p

Okay, I've never wanted to be a mother, but I thought it might be worth offering a guys perspective...

I always thought I would have kids. I had this idea that by 23 I'd be married and have one, and the white picket fence, and all that crap. But I think I was just buying into what we're told we should do with our lives by society.

I have a step-daughter now, and have been a part of her life for the last couple of years, so in a way I DO have what I imagined, albeit a couple of years late. However... we have shared custody of Savannah. She is here one week, with her dad the next, although that might change in the future when she needs a bit more stability. This really works for me because we enjoy our 'off-weeks' where we aren't tied down and having to worry about her needs or wants. And then I feel refreshed for the weeks we do have her, I just wish we had a bit more spare time then to do fun stuff (is it me, or do kids get too much homework?).

This has made me realise that I really don't think I would like to have a baby that would be completely dependent on me. I also don't feel the need to continue the family line, or anything like that, so I'm just happy to be a part of Savannahs life, as I am now.


AWW that was the coolest post! Your a great dad and Savannah is lucky to have a great person like you in her life

NOW if you DID want to be a mom..we can do a JUNIOR on ya ( movie Arnold was in)

AWW that was the coolest post! Your a great dad and Savannah is lucky to have a great person like you in her life

NOW if you DID want to be a mom..we can do a JUNIOR on ya ( movie Arnold was in)

Aww, thanks. :o

Looks down

Actually, I think I might give the pregnancy thing a miss. :eek:

Aww, thanks. :o

Looks down

Actually, I think I might give the pregnancy thing a miss. :eek:

You are very welcome

NOW come on a man who is pregnant can be veryyy sexy ya know..you can start a new trend!!!:bgrin2::yes:

You are very welcome

NOW come on a man who is pregnant can be veryyy sexy ya know..you can start a new trend!!!:bgrin2::yes:

Can't I just expand the beer gut and pretend I'm pregnant?

Can't I just expand the beer gut and pretend I'm pregnant?

nah Unless ya can make it move like babies do and get up off the sofa all funky!

Can't I just expand the beer gut and pretend I'm pregnant?


Sure! Swallow a watermelon and try to pass it through your penis. :)

Sure! Swallow a watermelon and try to pass it through your penis. :)

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eek: ouch

I always wanted them and when I got them I really didn't want them anymore... LOL J/K (not always.. LOL).

But there is one thing I would have liked to have done different and that was to start a little later having them... 18 is way too early!!!

I can't wait to have one now though... :D

Aina, I bet you are the coolest mom in Norway!

I started at 18 too. I would've preferred to wait as well, but sometimes I made decisions with my heart (or other parts) and not so much with my mind. :o

Fortunately for me the consequences of these decisions are one of the very few I regret. ;)

LMAO Chatters...that was too funny.

Rob, a child can never have too many people who love them and set a good example for them. Im sure you are a total blessing to Savannah's life, and she to yours. I probably would have given up my whole barbie collection to have a cool stepfather like you growing up.... :)

I really wanted to be a mom, I became one at 22, if I had a stable marriage there would have been at least 2 more.... I feel blessed to have my three grandchildren, it is like God gave me the joy of the babies and I adore the fact I have a large family now.

Adam loves them, he actually adores them and they adore him, the two year old calls him, A-UM cant do the whole Adam thing, for some reason he calls me MiMi, when I am not there he asks for me and visa versa when I am there. He loves us.

Gosh, kids are great. they put a smile in your soul like nothing else and can make a happiness last all day when you think of their little faces.

Yep, I always wanted to be a mom.

I'm one of those people who swore up and down, "No children! No children!" I did this pretty faithfully until I found the right guy. At first I was like, "Well... maybe..." and now I just think he will be such an amazing dad and we'd have so much fun doing it, that I would be sad to miss out on the experience.

I'm not quite to the point where I'm ready (although I don't think you ever are!) but I'm getting there, finally at 36. I wouldn't say it is so much a biological clock thing, as a finding the right person for me kind of thing. But having said that, I do feel the clock intensely now that I've found that guy. I want to have children or at least a child before 40, so there is some amount of time pressure there...

I always wanted children. I wanted 4. Two girls and two boys. I had 2 of my own, one boy and one girl, (lost one pregnancy before them) and had 2 step children, one boy and one girl, so I eventually got what I wanted.

And now, even though it is still so difficult to believe, I am a grandmother. I love my grandbaby so much. I can't wait to see her when she comes to visit me for Christmas. :D It's so different being a grandmother. I can still swoop her up and give her smooches and can spoil her but I don't have to be responsible for raising her. Yay for grandmotherhood!