My next step in the LDR drama!

Well, I talked with Nikola today, and he got his masters degree and will get the "sheepskin" in a ceremony on Jan 4th. I am very proud of the man as he actually did half a year in like 21/2 months (they have a dif system there and can take the exam whenever they think they are ready as there are really no classes, just seminars and labs that are done 7 days a week if needed! All they need to do is to pay for it and have their prof make the time to give it) He also has his plane ticket and will arrive in NYC on the 9th! I am glad that he will be home on the 7th as that is their Serbian Orthodox Christmas, and he will be able to see all his family one last time. I was worried for a bit as to whether or not he would be able to come as our countries' relations are strained even more due to Kosovo and the darn Serbian Resolution they made last Thursday, but it looks like it is still a GO!:bgrin2:

I am not sure when we will actually see each other as we are both tied up for two weeks once he gets here, but again, at least we can talk on the phone every night if we need to. So that is the second leg of my LDR!

With all that said, however, I must confess that I am both elated and a bit scared in a way, as this long sought after "dream" is becoming a reality, and it will be the beginning of a life changing event for both him and me (but from what I can tell, he has no qualms or jitters). So....any advice on how to get rid of my "butterflies" would be greatly appreciated!

Regards to all!

I don't have any suggestions to get rid of the butterflies...

((((HUG))))

How exciting for the both of you though! Such a journey! Enjoy every min of it. Soon you'll be together! :D

Nadine.

When will Nikola arrive to stay with you in Florida?????? I want to meet both of you soon LOL

SB, talk about the "butterflies.....what are they from?
Excitment, something going wrong, etc....
Helps me;)

I have no advice on the butterflies...in your shoes I think I would exactly the same way. I can't wait to hear how it all goes and I really hope you find some time to see each other those first weeks.
:bighug:

I have a suggestion (as you might have guessed :yes:). I suggest you believe that you are getting what you have always wanted and "accept" that it is real!!! And further, that it's time, and you deserve it, and besides ... it's quite normal to feel excited (i.e. butterflies, lol). Imma got butterflies FOR you lol.

Big Hugs,

Dy :)

linda...the butterflies are completely normal. what you "knew" now changes and a new experience coming up! we get comfortable in the LD... we want it to end, but it has been the relationship for so long! now can it work in "real time"?

enjoy... it has been a long journey... and getting closer to the goal.


and great news that he got his degree!!!

Thanks all for the good wishes!

TD the butterflies are not due to something going wrong (I don't think!); but maybe like Dy said, something RIGHT! I am still in awe that one of Belgrade's most eligible bachelors chose me out of all the gorgeous, young and thin women over there, and I guess I am alittle scared as to what it will be like for him to see me on a day to day basis. When we were together over there, he was gone a lot, so he basically only saw me at my best! Plus, I am in for a major life change after being alone (not counting my kids) for over 20 years, so perhaps it is due to a combination of all three??? But whatever it is, I do think they will subside once we are together.

And Colorado, he won't be living here, I don't think. After his year is up at the Serbian Consulate, he will look for a job using his masters, and as it stands now, he wants to try somewhere in Europe. But then who knows what will happen!?! But one thing that I do know is that for his line of work, he would definitely need a bigger city than my lil ole beachside one.

Christina, you may be right as I alluded to above as LD is different from RL! And yes, I am proud of the man!!!

Again thanks for your kind responses... Nine days and counting!

Regards

Ah, but she still doesn't get that your "inside" is ever so much more precious as your outside ... to him and to everyone who knows ya ... Thin doesn't always bring along with it ... intellect, wisdom, common sense, and ever so many more qualities which men appreciate ...

Selah...

:)

I'm so happy for you... seems like so many LDRs are closing their gaps these days!!!

I agree that butterflies are normal. You'd be crazy if you *didn't* have them:tongue2:

I'm so excited for you, Suicideblonde! :)

I wish you and Nikola all the best! :yay:

Hey SB! I just popped in and found out you were engaged! Congratulations! Well, it certainly looks like 2008 is going to be your year. I, of course, wish you the very best and all the happiness that you can bear. I am still with my younger man. We are going on 13 years together. He is now 44 years old and I am now closing in on 63! It's been an interesting ride. I will be retiring from teaching this year. I am so looking forward to that! Anyway, good to hear from you. I'll try to check in more often.
Ana

No reason to get rid of the butterflies!!! I love having butterflies :D:D:D

Thanks Dy for the introspective comment. You do that rather well when I tend to wonder about things! :D

Ana, glad to read that you are still together with your SO after some ups and downs. AND that you are retiring!!!!! I still have 3 more years, but more than likely next year will be my last...and all I can say is WHOOOO HOOOO and doing a happy dance like you are! Sad to me how society has changed so much that teaching is no longer fun. I wonder who will be there to teach the next generation as so many of us are leaving and not too many are entering the profession. BUT that is another topic! Again, I am happy that all is well with you, and you really need to post more telling these relationships can last when one is over 60!

Z, I agree with you that it does seem on BOTH sides of the boards that LDR's are closing their gaps with more occurring next year :D And to be honest, I have not seen so many do just that since I have been here.

And finally B and J thanks for your kind thoughts. And since both of you are living with your SO, I know you can identify with this. But as J wrote: Butterflies CAN be a good thing, and I have them now thinking that next week at this time he will be on his way here! YIKES!

Its been a long time ... I just wanted to say hi and am very glad to hear your engaged and happy ( butterflys and all ) lol
:D

How you doing SB?
I am so excited for you!
And....you most certainly DO deserve all the happiness that has come into your life!
Love, TD

Thanks TD for the kind words. I didn't answer sooner as I was getting abit miffed, nervous as well as a myriad of other emotions, for I hadn't heard from him since Sunday (which meant not even a Happy New Year!). His phone was off then on, but not answering when I called and I was grrrrrr. Well, he told me today that they sent him on one last mission and he didn't want to tell me for fear I would worry. Well heck, I worried more by him NOT telling me as you know what goes through women's heads when there is no contact all of a sudden, as well as being ignored! He told me he couldn't answer his phone or anything due to where he was.... BOY, I will be glad when this part of his life is OVER ! But he told me that it is still a GO for Wednesday!

All I can say is I will TOTALLY believe it when I see it!

I love reading these posts from those of you who are or already have closed in on the LDR....they give those of us who are still in them hope.

SB isn't it amazing how men are about things like that? Like you're not going to worry not being able to get in contact with him all that time. It just never ceases to amaze me how differently they think about those kinds of things. I guess that's part of what makes life with them "interesting"?

And Flyer, how nice to hear you have been with your YM that long....I don't hear those too often and I must admit the years down the road are the ones that I really wonder about.

Im late! Just wanted to say Congrats on your engagement :bgrin2:

Lynn, you are sooooo right about the differences in the way we think. I often have to keep myself in "check", so I don't end up either saying something I will regret, or put my foot in my mouth! I did hear from him today though, as it looks like his adssignment is still not over and he won't be home until Monday. He told me he would call me then... I just don't know how he will be ready to leave on Tuesday! :( BUT I am trying to think POSITIVE!~

Raven, thanks for the congrats! But I may have to go over there and "hog tie him" and bring him back! :tongue2:

SB....looks like you and I are sharing a few of the same emotions lol!
Never thought I'd find myself in any sort of LDR but.....here I am :confused:
Luckily it isn't a very long one....he'll be home in April but.....ack!
It is hard to know what to feel or what to bring up and what not to.
In my case, he only gets into town where there is internet once or maybe twice a week.
Phone calls are very expensive, etc....
I do wish that I knew him better before he left b/c we both know that the sparks are flying, we have a pretty deep understanding of each other, at least as far as 5 hours worth of in person conversations can tell you.
In one way, it can be very romantic and an "old world" type of courtship but in a lot of other ways........it's just plain FRUSTRATING :yes:
Am glad yours is finally coming to and end and a beautiful new beginning is awaiting you!
Love, TD

Like I had written before, I was not going to believe it until he was here, and he never made it. He is still on assignment, and does not know when it will end to tell you the truth. The last time he was there, it was for a month. So that is that. I am not a happy camper that is for sure, but there is nothing I can do about it, so will just keep plugging along with school (which is not making me happy either due to an irate parent) and will keep you updated if anything changes...

Regards....

Just want to give you one of these: :bighug:

what a horrible disappointment. i am so sorry....

:bighug: another one SB, hang in there

Praying that his assignment ends soon and you can finally be together.

((( hugs )))

But now I am really worried. Serbia had its Presidential elections today, and it looks like there may be a run off between the incumbent Pres Tadic and an "old guard" candidate that is against the US and NATO. "The outcome of the election could bring Serbia closer to Europe or threaten a return to the international pariah status it had under Milosevic in the 1990s." THis is not good news at all for Nikola coming here as his boss is under Tadic who is the president now. I am at a loss....

Prayers, pls!

I missed that he hadn't made it. :( What a downer!! I do pray this doesn't change things outside of postponing them. I would be hysterical by now.

PRAYING hard here!!!!

Remember to think positive!!!!

SB, I hope everything pans out positively very soon. I cannot imagine how hard this is for you two.
Hang in there!! Sending positive energy your way!

has his assignment ended??

thoughts and prayers...

I'm sorry to hear this, know that you both will be on my mind and that I'm crossing my fingers for that everything goes well!

Hoping everything goes the way you want it to. I can't even imagine what it's like to deal with all of that political stuff. Keeping my fingers crossed that you are together soon.:bighug:

THanks everyone for your support. I am trying to keep positive, but when one has no control over a situation, it is a bit harder, let me tell you!

Chris, he is still on assignment, and don't know when he will be back. In the past, it could be up to a month. :(

And I just read that the run off elections will be Feb. 3rd. I just cannot believe that the Serbian people would want to go back instead of move forward, but then too, the voter turn out is never high, esp with the educated people in Belgrade, and I DON'T KNOW WHY!!!!

HANG IN WOMAN !!!! You've got nuttin but faith in which TO believe ...

hugs,
dy :o

:(

I don't understand it either...

But I hope his mission ends soon. I'm so sorry it got right up to the date and then fell through..what a disappointment.

Hang in there...and please keep us updated.