Emily talked to her mom this weekend

Well emilys mom came home from her medical mission this week.
when emily called her the first words out of her mouth were" i was really disappointed that you were not home when i got back". emily said she was not dissapointed and that she is not moving out becuase its what she wants.

so obviosly from her first words her moms not done, she needs to realize emily is happy, im happy and we are not going to drop everything beacuse its not in moms plan.

im trying not to be angry but its just not working. maybe im a little short on paitence since im sick this week. last week emily was sick so i babied her as ussuall. she is so sweet even when shes sick,,, im kind of a grouch when im sick, so i dont think i will talk to her mom till im better..

for those who responded to my last thread thanks


johnnys

I hope you two feel better soon!
There is opposition, which is normal, for these type of relationships. Just relax and let things go as planned.

so obviosly from her first words her moms not done, she needs to realize emily is happy, im happy and we are not going to drop everything beacuse its not in moms plan.

Hope you're feeling better soon Johnnys, because you're going to need to deal with this woman face to face, and soon. Some of this is about who's going to be fighting the battles in your family, you or your future wife. This lady's a bully and the only way to deal with her is strait ahead. Not angry, because then she wins. Be strong, stay in control, and make it very clear to her that this YW is going to be your wife. That you are going to love her, provide for her and make her happier than she's ever been, or ever will be, in her life. That, as mother of the bride, she is entitled to her opinion, and very much entitled to keep that opinion to herself. That, as mother of the bride, she can give her blessings on this union, or she can get out of the way. There just aren't any other choices. Step up son, and soon.

Mike

Hmm... I'm sorry you're sick! *sending some cyber soup*

I guess you're just going to have to deal with the fact that this woman is nonrelenting. Which seems odd all considering, but maybe the reality is too close... like maybe she thought you or her daughter would "come to your senses" and end the relationship, and since it has progressed even further is now recanting the support she once showed.

Just hold strong with Emily, love will prevail!

I THINK THAT THE LATTER THOUGHT IS CORRECT,,,,
THEY THOUGHT IT WOULD END SO THEY WENT ALONG WITH IT.
Thats ok though, maybe talking to her she can see that shes causing emily a lot of pain and its not right.
i plan on talking to her sunday at church so load me up with confidence till then

thanks john

I presume this is a continuation from another thread because you don't tell your story here, but I get the gist of it from context. It's another one of those "mom doesn't approve of the relationship because you're 'too old' for her daughter" stories. Those always make me sick to my stomach.

You and Emily seem to have something real, based on what you've said, so as long as that's true then stick to your guns. Don't ever let anyone tell you not to be with the one you love. In some cases, after a period of time (maybe years!), the parents come around and accept you for real, not just go along because they think it will end. There are stories in other threads on this board where this has happened, so you may want to find those for inspiration.

Other than that, all I can say is sorry to hear about your grief. I wish the two of you the best.