The Positive Sides of LDRs

Beside the fact that LDRs are hard, I'm trying to look at the positive sides.

Peter comes "home" (as he calls it) once every month or so. We miss each other terribly when we're apart, but I look at the positive side.

With each visit (8 so far in 10 months) he feels more comfortable and he really acts himslef, and so do I. There is still some honeymoon factor, but less and less. This allows us to get to really know each other, have time between visits to think things over and to know if we can definitely live together or not.

It is during these times apart that we have time to take a deep breath and think things over, whereas if we were always together we wouldn't have that reconsideration time.

So far we are determined to live together in the future, but at least we don't feel under pressure to follow up events quickly and to jump into conclusions.

This way when he will finally move to Paris we will know that it's a very solid step and we have carefully calculated all of the pros and cons and this is what we really want.

Am I making any sense ? Anyone else in a LDR feels this way ?

You came across an obsessional freak, that's not the fault of the LDR.

This is exactly the way that I feel about my LDR and now we are counting down the months until we can live together. Over the almost 3 years that this has been going in, we have definitely transitioned through some "honeymoon" stuff, but I still wonder what its going to be like when we see each other every morning and I no longer have those trips to look forward to. There is nothing quite as exciting as rushing around to make it to one of our monthly visits and nothing as comforting as that first hug when we've been apart a month or more. I wonder if I will miss the thrill of the LDR relationship once its gone.

On the other hand, I have been a strong proponent of bringing an end to LDR's if at all possible. I can tell you this, you do eventually hit a point when the negatives outweigh the positives.