peggylsnyder 03-11-2008, 04:42 AM I have the joy of meeting our precious men and women who are serving in Iraq.
Yesterday, a young man visited my location and I could tell he was very sad.
He revealed that his soon to be ex- wife had called him "discusting" on a recent visit home.
He couldn't erase her words from his mind.
This young man holds a very impressive position and I couldn't help but think..."He could rip your heart out and hand it back to you...yet words tore him apart.
I pray I remember that with love comes a responsibility to be kind even when things end.
Jo-Admin 03-11-2008, 11:35 PM Isn't that the truth...my goodness. Thanks for sharing that....
cuteguy37048 03-12-2008, 02:12 AM Sounds like she's the one with the problem. This man went there and risked his life to protect this country, herself included, and she said that.. Just ain't right.
I heard this once from a millionaire wife. "God why couldn't you have given me a millionaire husband?" God-> "Well how would you treat him?" Her-> "Like a king."
God-> "That's why I gave you this man because that is where he is going."
Needless to say it changed her perspective on things. She wanted a guy who was already rich, God had other ideas. She said when she got behind him and encouraged him that was when things started happening for the better. Now they both earn millions of bucks.
What you say to your precious one will affect what you get. That's something my own mother has never understood. If you speak harshly against them it will take it's toll.
peggylsnyder 03-12-2008, 07:32 AM Cuteguy, you have allot of wisdom. Critical words continue to do damage and can actually affect a person their entire life.
Tony and I both had extremely critical parents. One of our promises to each other is to never attack verbally.
The young man I spoke of was anything but disgusting. He was extremely handsome and I told him so.
Ed369 03-13-2008, 02:19 PM See mod note
peggylsnyder 03-14-2008, 01:36 AM I now understand why the discussion forum was closed.........:confused:
cuteguy37048 03-14-2008, 02:16 AM Cuteguy, you have allot of wisdom. Critical words continue to do damage and can actually affect a person their entire life.
Tony and I both had extremely critical parents. One of our promises to each other is to never attack verbally.
The young man I spoke of was anything but disgusting. He was extremely handsome and I told him so.
I have also learned no words at all in some cases also will have a long enough blade to reach the heart. God forbid it all.
kittylane 03-14-2008, 08:31 PM Peggy, you are only hearing one side, her comment may have nothing to do with his position in the military, he may like to blame it on that but there may be more to the story than meets the eye. I love our military, it is part of my life and heart until I die, but to say that every soldier behaves as a good husband.....is not true.
However, you made him feel good and GOD loves all his children.
Amina 03-14-2008, 09:01 PM See mod note
Dan_Shues 03-14-2008, 09:08 PM COUNTDOWN to this thread getting closed in 3.....2.....1....
JennyJen 03-14-2008, 09:11 PM COUNTDOWN to this thread getting closed in 3.....2.....1....
LOL!!! :giggle:
Kristin 03-14-2008, 09:50 PM COUNTDOWN to this thread getting closed in 3.....2.....1....
It's going to happen immediately if we don't stay on topic. ;)
Off-topic comments not about "Words" have been and will be deleted. Please stick to the topic and refrain from political discussions.
Thanks!
cuteguy37048 03-14-2008, 10:07 PM See mod note
peggylsnyder 03-15-2008, 12:54 AM I have no way of knowing how this young man behaved as a husband. However, I did see the tears in his eyes as he said how much he loved her still.
My point was that even when a relationship ends one has the resposibility to treat the person they once said they loved with dignity.
This hit home with me as I had a simular experience. My ex husband, who I thought I coudn't live, without kissed me as I brought the children to him for a visis. I asked, "What was that about?" His reply was, "I wanted to see if kissing you still made me ill."
I did nothing to deserve that.....I feel this young man might fall into the same category.
Kristin 03-15-2008, 01:01 AM His reply was, "I wanted to see if kissing you still made me ill."
Wow. That was cold-hearted. :mad: No wonder he's the "ex."
It just blows my mind what people will say.
Amina 03-15-2008, 07:18 AM COUNTDOWN to this thread getting closed in 3.....2.....1....
Countdown to lots of people closing their ageless memberships...
Amina 03-15-2008, 07:23 AM I have the joy of meeting our precious men and women who are serving in Iraq.
Yesterday, a young man visited my location and I could tell he was very sad.
He revealed that his soon to be ex- wife had called him "discusting" on a recent visit home.
He couldn't erase her words from his mind.
This young man holds a very impressive position and I couldn't help but think..."He could rip your heart out and hand it back to you...yet words tore him apart.
I pray I remember that with love comes a responsibility to be kind even when things end.
If you don't want political responses then don't mention Iraq, easy as that.
kittylane 03-16-2008, 10:45 PM I dont understand, who is discussing politics? I think there is validity to the fact that many military marriages are falling apart, it is very very sad. I had a similiar experience from an ex-husband.... it tooks years for me to see that his hurtful comment was just that. A comment meant to hurt me, mission accomplished. Years later I did however see what it was.
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