Do You Have any Words of Wisdom??

We live our lives, we fall down, we get up, we learn, we grow...hopefully we get wiser:D There are things our mother told us, or our grandmother, or our best friend, and they've proven true for us. Or maybe, after personal failures and big mistakes in our past, we've gained insight that we want to pass on so no one else has to do the same dumb things.

What are some words of wisdom that really ring true for you...and where did you get them?

Here are a couple of mine:

1. My mom always said, "Don't let others define you". This wise phrase has had two applications in my own life: a). Don't walk in someone's shadow or "need" someone else (definition=a man:) ) to fulfill or define who you are.

And...b). When others are "haters" (exhb comes to mind), don't allow their negative assessment of you define who you are to yourself or to the world. Just keep being genuine, don't internalize the negative, and your real "definition" will read clear.
The Four Agreements says it this way: Don't Take Things Personally

2. From my own life mistakes (rushing into everything, especially relationships, since my 20's!!!), I finally learned that to go slowly was the best insurance that something (love) could grow at the pace it needs to sustain itself in the future. When we encourage relationships to go at warp speed, they are like poplar trees = shallow root system, easily uprooted by a strong wind. When we take our time we are like a redwood = deep tap root that keeps the tree standing through any storm that may hit.:yes:

What words of wisdom do you have to share?

Forgive from your heart.....I think I learned this from the Bible. However, most people are doing the best they can no matter how badly they fail you.

I wondered why my Mother deserted me.....I wondered why my ex-husband left......

I've realized that this life is difficult and people deserve compassion. To hold unforgiveness seals you to that moment in time and you are not able to move forward.

1. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you can assume to understand anything about them or their life.

2. Treat others as you'd want them to treat you (golden rule).

Well, my mother said two things to me that I'll always remember and have also rang very true!!!
1. Is it what I said or....what you heard?
2. Most people will say....you never really know a man until you marry.....but, I have found this to be more the case.........you never really know a man until you divorce one :eek:

Here are some truths that I try to refer back to when I feel I'm getting in to deep.

1. Know when you have to deal with something vs. when you have to just let someone else take care of it.
2. Know when to let go and walk away.
3. Never become too attached to an outcome.
4. Learn the value of improvisation.
5. Go with the slide, not against it.
6. Always have a little red wine on hand...but not too much.

And I think the lyrics from The Gambler, sums it all up for me:

"You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
There'll be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

Now evry gambler knows that the secret to survivin
Is knowin what to throw away and knowing what to keep.
cause evry hands a winner and evry hands a loser,
And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep."

2. Most people will say....you never really know a man until you marry.....but, I have found this to be more the case.........you never really know a man until you divorce one

Lol, TD...isn't that the truth!!

LOL...yup Rozie....some lessons can only be learned the hard way....ack! :rolleyes:

2. Most people will say....you never really know a man until you marry.....but, I have found this to be more the case.........you never really know a man until you divorce one

But does this mean that all those wives who never get divorced therefore never really get to know their husbands either?

SW

Let's hope so ;)
Just kidding...but, certainly it is a side I hope neither ever get to know too well!

Lesson 1: Never forget - they are always the enemy.
Lesson 2: Just remember, ********* are born that way, and they usually don't change.
Lesson 3: You do not want to go to jail.
Lesson 4: When you start to take this job seriously, you're in trouble.
Lesson 5: It takes no more to see the good side of life than to see the bad.
Lesson 6: If you decide to run with the ball, just count on fumbling and getting the crap knocked out of you, but never forget how much fun it is just to be able to run with the ball.

Some wisdom I've gained in recent years...

Revenge is not sweet.

Find work that you love. Remember: These are the hours of your life.

Maximize the time you spend with people who have qualities that you respect and admire - this will bring forth your own good qualities.

Likewise, minimize or avoid spending your time with people or situations that bring out your bad side.

Your health is precious. Taking good care of yourself is the ultimate form of self-respect.

Faith

Enjoy the smooth, enjoy the rough
The best is all that's good enough
And quantity can over stuff
The quality of life.

T Edwards after surviving a camel journey in the Sahara

The only thing my father ever said that made sense:

1. Dont chase a man, if he really wants you he should be chasing you.
2. Never think that a man is too good for you, if you think he is, he isnt and if he is telling you that he is then he definately isnt.


Things that I have figured out on my own.

1. it's always easier when it's somebody elses kid
2. happiness is found in the oddest places
3. My perception of me isnt what everyone else sees and sometimes thats a good thing
4. Friends and family are great but only I know what's best for ME.
5. Im not as fat as I think I am, Im not as thin as I want to be but somehow Im still perfect to my love.
6. It's never the end of it all, it's usually a new beginning.

"If you are still breathing, you are not done yet."

"If God gave me riches only to be his silo or physical vault, I would rather be rich than poor because I would see his providence everyday." - myself

"It is better to be a blessing to others than to be rich of your own accord." - me

"If you crucify your own feelings or plans for the benefit of someone else or your own self, you will still find life and freedom."

"How bad do you want it. In that you will know if you really are going to get it."

"To do what is right you may never be popular but you get to walk away in peace and in fulfillment. That in it's self is priceless."

"If you are laughed at, scoffed at, or looked at as weird or as a nerd or geek, you know you are silently held in awe by the same people and you are on the right track."

(That one was in retrospect of studies of famous wealthy men and knowledgeable and wise world changers)

"I can never deny that God's hand of providence is on me. Though I may not be rich I have seen way to much to ever deny it."

"If a person speaks to your soul, chances are, God is trying to tell you something. Seek the answer at all costs because it will be worth far more than any money the world may ever know."

"Wisdom builds the house and knowledge fills the house" - Solomon

"Surround yourself with the best people you can find, delegate authority and don't interfere." - Ronald Wilson Reagan

"If you can find a way to sacrifice yourself for the benefit of others and stand for that which is righteous you will stand to gain very much on earth as it is in heaven. No one will be able to stand against you as God will be by your side to help those in need."

(That was from reflections with God)

And finally I must add this.

Though I may have some spot of wisdom, if I could truly be free to live by it all I would have so much to gain.

I had to make up a words of wisdom thing for our group counciling at the Ywca and here is what I came up with

Set Yourself free by letting go of the past. Set it a flame, burn it to the ground and rise above the ashes to a better tomorrow.

Forgive yourself, love who you are and others shall see a new light from you.

My grandmother always used to say:

"Live in hope. Die in despair" :eek:

She wasn't a very cheery woman......

One thats always proved itself over and over to me is..

" The good Lord gave you two ears, so that you should listen twice as much as you speak. "

:)

I felt sorry for myself when I had no shoes; until I met a man who had no feet.

Mine would be:

Don't sit up reading on ageless at 12:52 AM, when there is only 4,5 hours til you have to get up to get to work :eek:

This too shall pass.

Never give up. The harder it is, the more valuable the end result.

Being kind to someone makes both of you feel better.

Jealousy works the opposite way you want it to.

If you have legs and are flammable, then you are NEVER truly blocking the fire exit.

If you have legs and are flammable, then you are NEVER truly blocking the fire exit.


LMAO thanks I needed that

Never give up. The harder it is, the more valuable the end result.

I was going to suggest the same: nothing good comes easy.

Also, anybody remember that old song that goes a little something like this? "Oh, Lord it's so hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I look at myself in the mirror, 'cause I get better looking each day! To know me is to love me, I must be one helluva man. Oh, Lord it's so hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can!"

In today's society, it really is hard to be humble!

Also, money is the root of all evil. It's been said by the rich, middle class and the poor and I haven't seen any evidence to suggest otherwise.

The words I like to live by ...

Seek first to understand, before trying to be understood!

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end.

I've had to remind myself of this so many times that it's now a part of my psyche, I think!

I remember reading this on a classroom bulletin board in a high school class. It is now on mine.
TD-I love your Ganesh!


After awhile you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn't mean possession
and company doesn't mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises and you begin to accept
your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of an adult not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have ways of falling down in mid-flight.
After awhile you learn that even sunshine
burns if you get too much so you plant your
own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn...


Veronica A. Shoffstall © Copyright 1971

My Grandmother ALWAYS told me:

1. Be sure your sins will find you out.

2. Don't tell a man EVERYTHING.

3. Don't start something unless you plan to keep it up. (Her example was if you plan to cook dinner EVERY night for your new husband don't start doing it for a week or two and then suddenly stop, keep it up or don't start it at all)

4. Beauty is only skin deep.

5. And her favorite..."and this too shall pass"

As a child these seemed silly but as I've aged they all make perfect sense and I find myself saying them to others.