Need advice here

Hello everybody i,m new here and wondering if i can call upon your advice.
I met a woman 35 about 6 months ago and from since then its been great we both have fallen in love with each other well i have with my lady and she says she has with me i am 50 although everybody says i look much younger i am a part time fitness instructor so keep myself in trim. I have dated in the past and the age gap has never been a problem until now maybe its because i am 50 and realising my own mortality.The biggset age gap before was 9 years and that didn,t seem to be a problem but 15 seems to to be just to much. All i seem to be dwelling on thesedays is the negative and seem petrified that our relationship wont work out so much so that i feel i don,t want the relationship to work out so i don,t get to badly hurt in the future even though i know i will feel devastated if we broke up now.
Does all this sound as crazy as i think and is 15 years just to much do you have any advice that can help or reassure me

Does all this sound as crazy as i think and is 15 years just to much do you have any advice that can help or reassure me

I am 21 and my OM is 46. We have a 25 year age gap and we have a wonderful relationship even with all the challenges. You have to determine whether you can cope with both the ups and the downs, the age gap should not be a major issue, the love, feelings and communication between you and your partner should. Welcome to the site and you'll hear about bigger age gaps that should reassure you if anything!:bgrin2:

LFW,

Welcome to Ageless Love, glad to have you with us!

The message of Ageless Love is that age doesn't matter. When two people "click", they click, regardless of what their ages are relative to one another. In the end, when you find somebody who is perfect for you, it won't be because of their age, it will be because of their particular blend of personality traits, character, maturity, relationship skills and life style. A person's age is not a guarantee to find certain personality or life style characteristics. There are mature younger people just as there are mature older people, there are romantic younger people just as there are romantic older people, there are older people who are young at heart, and younger people who behave very old.

I understand that your age is bothering you. Life cannot perfect, we shouldn't expect it to be; we shouldn't expect ourselves to be pefect, we shouldn't expect our companions to be perfect, and we shouldn't expect our relationships to be perfect. When the bumps in the road come along, and they always will, we just have to cope with them. The bumps in the road are unavoidable, even when we are young, even when our companions are our same age. Our coping skills today should be better than they were when we were younger, this is a distinct advantage.

15 years is not too much of an age gap. It sounds like the relationship is making you and your lady happy. My advice is to go with the flow & enjoy! Love her with all your might, and enjoy the love you receive in return.

best of luck with your lady

Hi >likefinewine<

I've come to realise that one of the biggest issues people have when they are contemplating a relationship with someone significantly older or younger, is perception.
What will other people think of me? Will they think I'm her father ?(Or in her case, will they think I'm his daughter?). Can she really love me when I'm so much older? What can he possibly see (apart from the physical beauty) in someone so much younger than me? And the list goes on...

It's really hard to develop a thick skin, and we all want other people to think well of us. However, like many other wise people have pointed out in this forum, what matters are the feelings between the two of you, everything else is just distracting background noise.

I'm one of those horribly over anlytical types who drive themselves crazy thinking along these lines... "what if, and then what then..." :ohthedrama:I'm learning to live in the here and now. Do what is best for you now, and don't drive yourself nuts worrying about the unseen future.

I'm with everyone else on this. You can analyze the how's and why's and what-if's forever, but in the end why bother. You have found a woman that you love, and she has found you. Don't waste another minute with this foolish intellectual exercise. What you have others may never find. Hold on to it and cherish it every minute, every hour, every day, for as long as you can. All of this will end for each of us at some time. When it does, all that will matter is what you did with your life while you were here. Wishing you the best,...wishing all of us the best.

Mike