xlroadster
05-04-2008, 12:52 PM
Hello, fellow members!
My name is Tony (28) and I am in a relationship with a wonderful OW (45), who we both have shared and are sharing two magnificent years together.
I became alarmed for no apparent reason when she asked me a couple weeks ago for space (though we are living together) and that's how I found this site. Apparently, most relationship-based websites are not privy to the relationships or OW/YM (like it's a societal taboo or something!) and advice given is always geared towards couples of similar age.
Here I just sense a different support structure and attitude. And of course, it's a good thing! And while I read and taken input in some member's advice, I just "pulled back" on my affection and everything is "perfect" again!
Like you, I (or we) occasionally receive the "mother/son" questions, but not so much as the "adoptive son" we get from the ignorant. I mean, it's perfectly fine to ask, but I thought people were smart enough the see the difference between parents/children and partners. In the past, we would make it a note to clear up the confusion, but now it is senseless. So we say nothing. But I hate the "raised eyebrows"!
My SO (Julie) has been nothing but great to me and even though we have our age difference, I have found it flattering that her family has readily accepted me as one of their own (she had been in two past serious relationships which both have ended badly), and commended me that no one has made her happy as I have.
But enough about me. I made this post to introduce myself, and to thank you all for a great mini-community we have here! I hope that like my relationship with my SO, there will be many great years here.
My name is Tony (28) and I am in a relationship with a wonderful OW (45), who we both have shared and are sharing two magnificent years together.
I became alarmed for no apparent reason when she asked me a couple weeks ago for space (though we are living together) and that's how I found this site. Apparently, most relationship-based websites are not privy to the relationships or OW/YM (like it's a societal taboo or something!) and advice given is always geared towards couples of similar age.
Here I just sense a different support structure and attitude. And of course, it's a good thing! And while I read and taken input in some member's advice, I just "pulled back" on my affection and everything is "perfect" again!
Like you, I (or we) occasionally receive the "mother/son" questions, but not so much as the "adoptive son" we get from the ignorant. I mean, it's perfectly fine to ask, but I thought people were smart enough the see the difference between parents/children and partners. In the past, we would make it a note to clear up the confusion, but now it is senseless. So we say nothing. But I hate the "raised eyebrows"!
My SO (Julie) has been nothing but great to me and even though we have our age difference, I have found it flattering that her family has readily accepted me as one of their own (she had been in two past serious relationships which both have ended badly), and commended me that no one has made her happy as I have.
But enough about me. I made this post to introduce myself, and to thank you all for a great mini-community we have here! I hope that like my relationship with my SO, there will be many great years here.