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Being with my guy for 6 years he is 29 years my senior. We decided to move in together and all of sudden we are both self-concious of our age gap. It never bother before. We could care less about it . Now we feel unconfortable when people look at us and he keep asking if I really love him. I feel strange and afraid too.

He has being talking about marriage too .

I love him and could not see myself without him, but all of sudden the age gap seems to be a problem. Could be that we are just afraid of the commitiment ???

Any suggestions?anyone here went thru it???

Being with my guy for 6 years he is 29 years my senior. We decided to move in together and all of sudden we are both self-concious of our age gap. It never bother before. We could care less about it . Now we feel unconfortable when people look at us and he keep asking if I really love him. I feel strange and afraid too.

He has being talking about marriage too .

I love him and could not see myself without him, but all of sudden the age gap seems to be a problem. Could be that we are just afraid of the commitiment ???

Any suggestions?anyone here went thru it???

Why are you caring what others think??

OKAY think about this

do you love him
can you see yourself with you forever?
does he make you happy?


if you answered yes..THEN stop it...LOL

People will stare if you had big boobs..one leg...short, fat skinny..tall..

do you see what I am getting at??

WHO cares honestly who caressssssssss what others think...do what I do when they stare hard..I wave and go HI!!!!!!!...they stop staring LOL


now stop worrying ..and go love that man and tell others to kiss your butt:yes:

I moved your thread to the YW/OM forum since you mention you are the younger woman in this relationship.

I think most people go through a phase very similar to the emotions you describe, so I think what you both are feeling is normal. I don't think it's an indication of any impending failure to your relationship or a fear of committment on either part.

Moving in together is a big deal, much larger of a step than I think most realize and it sounds like you both are figuring out what this step means to both of you.

Of course you appear different in age, he's 29 years older than you. But the question of "do you really love each other" seems like the real issue and not so much the age gap itself. And not do you just love him, but do you love him enough to marry him (and vice versa). Since you have discussed marriage it sounds like you both are trying to find the answer to that question.

And I think that's healthy, because I think the question does deserve a lot of conversations and being completely honest with our feelings and fears. Even moreso when deciding to spend the rest of our life with someone who is in a different phase of life. We want to make sure our lives and future plans mesh.

Allow yourself time to work through these changes and the feelings it has brought forth, don't get nervous or doubtful because you are having them. Most of us have (and on occasion still do). Trust you will emerge on the other side realizing you don't need anyone's approval to love each other.

When we find someone worthy of our love it is extremely unlikely they will come to us the exact way we imagined them in our dreams. But with time, our dreams will adjust and it will be better than we could've envisioned for ourself. I could not imagine a better match for me than what I've found and I wish the same for you and him.