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05-26-2008, 05:36 AM
Hi everyone
I'm a new member here so i will explain everything really fast so that i wont be misunderstood here.
I'm from Portugal, and i'm 30 years old. And i met this girl in Hong kong in the beginning of the year, she is only 20 years old. When we started, i honestly thought that our age-gap wasn't that big and it wouldn't be really a big obstacle to our relationship. But ever since the beginning of the month, we quarrel almost every week sometimes for just the smallest of things, at the moment i can't also be in Hong Kong every time, i'm trying to find a job there and i already have some job offers, but our relationships seems to going down. Mostly, because our points of view are a bit different: She thinks she doesnt have to tell me where she is going or when she is going out while it upsets me, because i always tell her where i'm going or with who; she also wants to study abroad and even though i can't really say anything about it, because it's something for her future, for me it's hard because, as someone who is reaching the 30 crisis, i really want to start thinking about having my own family; and lately i think i can't have those with her. Once, the topic of babies came into one of our conversations, and she said it she would never have them, i didn't say anything but obviously i love children and it upset me that she said it. Now i love this girl a lot, and when we started i thought she was the right person for me, but now i can't stop thinking that it's not going to last. Does anyone know what can i do about it? Or does anyone ever experienced something similar? :confused:
I'm a new member here so i will explain everything really fast so that i wont be misunderstood here.
I'm from Portugal, and i'm 30 years old. And i met this girl in Hong kong in the beginning of the year, she is only 20 years old. When we started, i honestly thought that our age-gap wasn't that big and it wouldn't be really a big obstacle to our relationship. But ever since the beginning of the month, we quarrel almost every week sometimes for just the smallest of things, at the moment i can't also be in Hong Kong every time, i'm trying to find a job there and i already have some job offers, but our relationships seems to going down. Mostly, because our points of view are a bit different: She thinks she doesnt have to tell me where she is going or when she is going out while it upsets me, because i always tell her where i'm going or with who; she also wants to study abroad and even though i can't really say anything about it, because it's something for her future, for me it's hard because, as someone who is reaching the 30 crisis, i really want to start thinking about having my own family; and lately i think i can't have those with her. Once, the topic of babies came into one of our conversations, and she said it she would never have them, i didn't say anything but obviously i love children and it upset me that she said it. Now i love this girl a lot, and when we started i thought she was the right person for me, but now i can't stop thinking that it's not going to last. Does anyone know what can i do about it? Or does anyone ever experienced something similar? :confused: