hello from heartache Missouri

My name is Teena, just recently joined this site and got out of a relationship with a 39 yo man. Its not been easy considering I quit my job to start working at a nursing home so we could be together. We started seeing each other when we both worked at Walmart. He was a over night support manager and I was a 2nd shift cashier. I thought there was just something about him. I've never dated anyone more than 5 years older than me before. He is 16 years older than me. My half brother is 17 years older than me so my family really see too much of a problem with it. He had been seperated from his wife of 20 years for 2 years and she took the kids because he didn't make enough money to suit her. He made a better person out of me. He was always afraid I'd find someone a lot younger and hotter. He was a Lil bit taller than me had a over weight belly and was balding. I didn't care something about him attracted me. He introduced me to modified racing and he was someone I could trust and go to for anything. A month ago we seperated because I wasn't sure if wanted kids or not and I knew he didn't. Well just last week after my birthday, after he had texted me bugging me making sure I wasn't seeing anyone and me going to the expensive races to try and talk, I found out he is a couple with my sisters hair dresser. She's a good friend of my family and I knew she had been good friends with my ex for a long time so it always made me wonder. She still proclaims that they are only good friends but he says their a couple. It was a little too much for me to bear this weekend and now I'm finding it hard to go on day to day healing. I saw the hair dresser today and she acted normal just a Lil quieter than normal and doesn't want this to affect our friendship. Its hard but I don't know what to say to her. I miss him everyday and every night that I have to be alone. I'm not wanting to date for a long time now. So there is my reason for coming to the boards! Everyone have a great day!

I am sorry for your heartache. Time does indeed make it better, helps you heal a little bit more and more. I got dumped back in mid March and right now, I can't even see myself ever wanting him back, much less think the moon hung on him like I did before.

You need to pamper yourself, give yourself space to breathe, talk it out with somebody who has some maturity and can just be a listening ear.


Shania Twain's husband just dumped her. A gorgeous, much younger woman, with a beautiful voice and seems to be an awesome person. People magazine says he took up with a very close friend of theirs. The picture of the woman he is rumoured to be leaving Shania for is not as pretty, probably does not have the talent for singing either!


So think about that before you beat yourself up too much...nothing in this world will make you 100% secure from heartbreak...even being as talented, smart and pretty as Shania Twain. Don't beat yourself up at all!

I am sorry that you are sad. These are the kind of things that only time will heal.