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EMCAD80 Update

EMCAD80
03-28-2003, 11:25 AM
Phew! I've been out of the loop for a while. Where to start...hmmm...oh! Last Thursday - perfect! I was working with the ex last week and my cell phone rings that special ring when my honey calls. So while he was working w/ the students, I took the call.

*Note* Keep in mind D and I have had minimal conversations and haven't seen each other in two weeks at this point.

Anyway - I'm always excited to hear from him, so I eagerly answer my phone. He asked what I was doing - then I told him that I was working till 9:00. He was bummed, he wanted me to go out to dinner w/ him and his son.

:eek: DAMN TWICE THIS WEEK I MISSED DINNER!!!

There was nothing I could do - so I went back to work. About an hour later my honey calls again! He said that him and his son were going to Benhihana's (our favorite place) and wanted to know if I wanted him to bring me anything home? HOME!? That made my ears perk quickly. So I asked for fried rice. He was concerned that I wasn't getting enough food, but I reassured him that it was plently.

During my rehearsal my cell kept ringing and a number unknown to me was flashing across the screen...I don't know about you, but I like to know who's calling - so I let voicemail answer it. I kept working. As some of you may recall - I was having a mushy moment about the ex about 3 weeks ago. Although he is very handsome and has great personality traits, I know it wasn't meant to be. I've since then moved on passed the flash of emotions.

At the end of my rehearsal, I check my voicemail...it was my honey updating me about the evening. He had called from Benny's - He said they were seated late and wouldn't get home till later. He offered for me to meet them down there. Since his cell was in the car - I couldn't get a hold of him. I went ahead and drove to Benny's. I was about 10 yards away from the front door and my phone rang.

Hey! Where are you? he asked
I'm about 30 steps from the front door. Ok - bye.

Before I could even look up after hanging up the phone he bursted out of the front doors. He had a huge smile on his face :D and welcomed me with the biggest hug. We stood in front for a few minutes hugging. When you haven't hugged in two weeks - it's wonderful. He escorted me to the table they were at, he gave me his seat, and he pulled up a new one. I missed dinner, but got there just in timed for Tampura Bananas - mmmm....the best.

As we were sipping on our wine, he hinted at me spending the night. I let him know that the choice was his. He seized the moment and said that I had no choice but to spend the night. :D :D :D

We got back to his house - I met the new dog, he put his son to bed and we stayed up to talk. Just catching up stuff. When we went to bed we were both extreamly tired....but I couldn't fall asleep, I couldn't stop touching him. I would doze off for a few minutes and the second I would wake up I continued to rub his back. He gives off the sweetest little moans of contentment...warms and tingles the heart just thinking about it.

The next few days I didn't hear from him at all. Bummed but understandable. His life is very hectic, and I am happy I got my last Thursday.

Monday I called him to see if his plans for Vegas were still in effect (there's a pizza expo every year - he owns two pizzarias and looking to expand). He said he almost cancelled because his friend had backed out, but he decided it might be good for him to get out, so everything was still according to plan. I wished him safe travels and sweet dreams.

Tuesday he called me from Vegas letting me know that he arrived safely. He called awhile later to let me know that he was staying in the Rio - he said he was on the 27th floor and had a great veiw of the strip. He was describing a beautiful room that he had gotten for free with his diamond membership.

I wish you were here with me he saidI thought about driving out there tonight to surprise you, but I can't I have too much to do. Well if things change here's the hotel number and my room number.

The wheels in my head were turning. I really wanted to spend quality alone time with him. I was in and out of meetings all day on Tuesday. So instead of paying attention - I was mapping out the next few days to see if I could manage taking a couple of days off. I had it all planned, time of departure, time of arrival...the whole bit. But then it dawned on me...does he want company or does he want to be alone. I called him and left a message asking if he wanted company or not. He called me back:

YOUR CRAZY!!!!
Only for you

He said he did want me there, but he had business to do and I would be alone often, plus he needed some time to himself. Understandable, so I stayed in those boring boring BORING meetings.

I gave him 27 (the day of my birthday) as a number to use for luck. *Note* When he goes on trips I usually sent a card in advance so he receives it the first or second day he's there Anway - since the trip was a short one, I decided to send him a fax. At the bottom I attached a picture of him kissing me and my lip marks :) I also added that if 27 wasn't working...use 32. He won $340 on roulette with 32! :D He called me last night to tell me the good news. He said to send him good vibes in about five minutes when he's back at the tables. I said:Imagine me kissing you
Kissing me....more like giving me a big blow job

!!!!!!!!:eek: !!!!!!!! He's silly, so I wished him luck - sent him some good vibes and hoped for the best.

He gets home today...I can't wait to hear his voice again.

That's the update folks...sorry it's so long - but you all are like my family and I want to share it all with you!

~EMCAD80 :D

EMCAD80
03-28-2003, 11:27 AM
Wow - I just saw how long that was...sorry!
Oh just in case you didn't notice...the writing in Blue is my honey talking and the writing in Pink are me talking:)

calybo
03-28-2003, 12:38 PM
em, im so glad to hear things seem to be getting back on track for the two of you. i just wanted to say that your willingness to give him the space he has been needing is so loving and thoughtful, you are a great person and definitely deserve the best in all you do.

EMCAD80
03-28-2003, 01:01 PM
You are too sweet. Larasteele and I chat a lot and and she helps me see things that I over look. Actually...many of the members here have given me such a huge rock to lean on. Thank you!!!

EMCAD80
03-28-2003, 01:16 PM
I feel so close to all of you and would like your opinion on the fax that I sent to my honey.

Hey Handsom! I hope your time in Vegas is going well. I've been thinking about you a lot and missig you even more. you truly are a wonderful person whether you choose to believe it or not. You have the biggest heart possible, I know it may seem like thins aren't going your way - but with all the good you do, it will come full circle. Your extreamly handsome and very sexy an dI can't wait to fall asleep touching you again. That is one thing I truly love - falling asleep next to you and being lucky enough to wake up next to you. I enjoy the closeness and understanding that we share. I feel like I can be openly honest with you and vice versa. I love sharing every moment I can with you. You make me extraordinarily happy that sometimes I can't think about anything else but you. Just your voice - I can't even explain it in words. I know your scared and confused, I know because I feel the same way. however, the feelings that I have for you are too big to ignore. I'm not looking to rush into anything, I want to take things one step at a time. I'm afraid of us being hurt - truthfully, I hurt with you not being in my life. I know thins in your life are extremely hectic, and I times mine is too but I feel a sense of calmness when I am with you. Even if it's only for a few hours, everything is okay - because I am with you. I support you in and I'll always be here for you and I understand that things are hard for you right now. It's okay to call me and vent. Call me, talk to me and LET me support you. I do it to you, do it to me....you've shown me nothing but kindness and friendship through my hard times. I don't have much to offer buy my love, support and understanding. Please understand I don't want to interfere with your hectic life, I just want to be apart of it. More importantly, I want you in mine. I want to be selfish an dhave you all day everyday, kiss you and hold you till we fall asleep and start over when we wake up. However, i can't be that selfish, but like I said - I just want to take it one step at a time, because I know in my heart it's worth it...your worth it. I accept you and everything you are. I miss you!!

Any input would be helpful...too forward? To anything? Let me know :)

Stan
03-28-2003, 05:17 PM
Not too forward, just right. Too often people don't say what they're feeliing, and their partner has to guess. He won't have to guess, you nailed it. Congrats, I wish you the best. What kind of rehearsal?

EMCAD80
03-28-2003, 05:28 PM
I teach high school colorguard

datura81
03-28-2003, 06:12 PM
Hah! Colorguard. I was in marching band, I played the clarinet until 2nd year of college. (Marching was my leastest favorite part)

Stan
03-28-2003, 06:46 PM
This time of year must be winterguard? Small world, I direct a hs jazz band. I missed out on the marching in hs, I was in the locker room counting fingers....

EMCAD80
03-31-2003, 10:14 AM
Yes...it is winterguard season...April is Championships. I teach at Madison HS in San Diego. :) They are a great group of kids. For those of you who know what Drum Corps is...I marched in the Santa Clara Vanguard and those who know winterguard I marched with Esperanza de Luz. I've been spinning for ten years now and teaching for five. :)

Happy4Me
04-01-2003, 07:02 AM
YAY! EM! I'm glad to hear you are in better spirits and it was really sweet of you to concede to his wanting some time alone. You are SUCH a sweet human being that if D does not treat you well, he's going to have some very YW and OM hounding him and making his life HELL.

;)

Love ya!
Happy

EMCAD80
04-01-2003, 10:58 AM
You are SUCH a sweet human being that if D does not treat you well, he's going to have some very YW and OM hounding him and making his life HELL.

I think this already does. I think (IMO) that he loves me, but with all this mess he can't be with me as much as we want to be together. So it is kind of a living hell. But what kind of person would be to not accept his life....especially if I love him :D

Thanks for your love!

~EMCAD80

Happy4Me
04-01-2003, 01:13 PM
Gawd, you're right. I'll bet it is hell. Poor fella. Well, remember that you have your friends on the OM/YW board on your side and that we are wishing you the best!

:) :) :) :) :)
Happy

EMCAD80
04-01-2003, 01:17 PM
It's hard but we pull each other....i think I pull and push more than he does :) LOL

He's got it rough right now, but I'm behind him (checking out his butt) 100% :D

marcopolo204
04-02-2003, 06:57 AM
Hi EM. I'm just now catching up on all these threads and came across this one. I must say, I just love reading your stuff because you're an excellent writer. I enjoy writing also and sometimes send endless emails to my friends because of it.
English is my second language, though, and I made many Internet friends from Italy so that I can write them in my native language.
I came in late into your story and I don't know the particulars of how you two met, the age difference, how long you known each other, etc. But you're such a soulful person that he's lucky to have you.
When I read someone's writings, I can usually tell their ages, but I would never guess you're 22 by the way you write. There's nothing of the silly, immature phrases, or the easy shortcuts of lazy writers, or the unrealistic wishful thinking. So, in a way, you're ageless.
I guess I have nothing constructive to offer you as you seem very wise, and have everything under control. He does have one huge factor in his favor, though, He owns TWO PIZZERIAS!!!!!!!!
I love pizza, I love mozzarella dribbling down my face, I love the thick crust :eek: If I ever met someone who owned pizzerias it would be love at first sight:D
Anyway, good luck. AL.

Happy4Me
04-02-2003, 07:14 AM
EM!!! Don't you DARE get Al started on pizza again. It's only 8:00 a.m. where I am and now I am frantically searching for a 24 hour pizza parlor. JEEZ! PMS and no sleep strikes AGAIN! (I must meditate. I must meditate. I must meditate...)

marcopolo204
04-02-2003, 07:38 AM
Just think PEPPERONI AND CHEESE..............:)

Happy4Me
04-02-2003, 07:50 AM
STOP! STOP! YOU ARE DRIVING ME MAAAAADDDDD!!!!!:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

EMCAD80
04-02-2003, 10:11 AM
Yes he does have two pizzarias....even though I would be bias anyway - but he truly does have FABULOUS pizza! He is Italian and takes great pride in the food he serves. He also has an Italian Restaurant - he has the best chicken parm! Mmmm....chicken. LOL :D

I came in late into your story and I don't know the particulars of how you two met, the age difference, how long you known each other, etc

Allow me to catch you up - as well as anyone else wo is curious. I had a roommate who was one of D's employees. We went out one night (me, my roommate, D and a few other of him employees) to Dad's (which if any of you remember the little Van Dam girl from Poway that was kidnapped....that's the bar the mother was at that night) anyway - D and I had instant chemistry. When we went out he was kind of dating one of his employees (well she wasn't really an employee, more like a friend who helped out). So she gave him a peck on the lips while I started to play footsy with him! Yeah, I had no shame...I was buzzed :eek: :p So, a week later I called him and told him that I was having boyfriend problems and would like to go out and talk. So we did. Things got ugly with me and my ex and we broke up. D and I didn't start officially dating till a month after. We were just really good friends that later relized how attracted to each other we were. He - still to this day - has a problem with the age difference. His birthday is this month (April 23rd) and he's turning 40. He is dreading it. He told me he thinks his mom is planning a party. He dosn't want one I just want my life to pass I floored and upset. If you let it pass, years from now you will reget letting it slip away. He agreed, but still doesn't want to celebrate. I am so sad that he feels that way. He says that it makes him feel even older than he is and it makes or 17 year age gap seem even bigger. BAH! You would think after a year and four months....you would start to get over it!!! :D

When I read someone's writings, I can usually tell their ages, but I would never guess you're 22 by the way you write. There's nothing of the silly, immature phrases, or the easy shortcuts of lazy writers, or the unrealistic wishful thinking. So, in a way, you're ageless.

Thanks! It's funny because I chat with Larasteele very often - and I always tell her that I'm not good with words! So, your comment truly means a lot.

marcopolo204
04-02-2003, 10:39 AM
Thanks for sharing your story, EM. It sounds like you two really belong together and it will all work out for the best.
By the way, I really love Katharine Zeta Jones and often ask myself, if Michael Douglas, (who's much older), can have someone like that, why can't big Al from Italy??
Hmm, back to reality....... I don't want to correct you but the right spelling is PIZZERIA. Pizze is plural for pizza, so that's how they write it in the old country.
I should know because I went to high school in Italy.
AL. (The professore):rolleyes:

EMCAD80
04-02-2003, 10:42 AM
PIZZERIA!! PIZZERIA!! PIZZERIA!! PIZZERIA!! PIZZERIA!!

LOL! Anyway - I'm sure there is a wonderful gal out there for Big Al from Italy. Just give it time...she'll come a long :P

Happy4Me
04-02-2003, 10:48 AM
I thought they didn't have pizza in Italy.:rolleyes: :confused:

EMCAD80
04-02-2003, 10:50 AM
I had no clue!

marcopolo204
04-02-2003, 11:08 AM
Happy, Happy, they don't have pizza in Italy???
That's blasphemy!!!
I can still smell my mother's home made pizza as she took it out of our stone oven!!! It was divine!!!
They have many pizzerias in Italy and they're excellent. The crust is a little thinner than the ones in America, but the sauce is usually incredible and the mozzarella so fresh!!!
They actually don't put as much stuff on it as they do here and their best seller is called a "Margherita", which is just plain cheese.
My favorite all time Italian food is lasagna, though, and I would marry someone who can make a good one.
Boy, I'm hungry now!!!!! AL.

EMCAD80
04-02-2003, 11:26 AM
No more food...gets me goin' and lunch is 3 hours away!!

Happy4Me
04-02-2003, 11:27 AM
Ha ha ha! Sorry to insult you! I really swear, though that a friend of mine told me they didn't have pizza in Italy. (Reel 'er in!! I'm so gullable.)

Mmmmmmmmm. Pizza. Melty double cheese pizza. Darn you AND EM for bringing it up. I don't know what my favorite Italian food is called (I'm partly a Greek. Ha ha ha) but my boyfriend makes this pasta stuffed with ricotta cheese (with SUGAR in it, of all things) and topped with this great sauce made from tomato sauces and italian sausage and then tops THAT with about three inches of melted mozzerella.

ARRRGH! I'm starving. I'm going to kill you both~


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