crystalheart
07-01-2008, 08:44 AM
Hi all!
Ive been reading a lot here and still worried about posting as my boyfriend is young! I am 31 and he is 18. It has taken me a long time to even start to accept that, if he were even 20 it wouldnt be so bad as I think the teen bit sounds awful. I am seperated rom my husband and my bf lives about 3 hours away. He has no problems with the age gap at all and says he doesnt want anyone else...but Im just taking every day as they come. So, I hope you dont mind me being here:confused: and look forward to making some friends.
Kristin
07-01-2008, 05:19 PM
Hi and welcome to Ageless! We've all pretty much been where you are, so stick around and make some friends! :cool:
twinkle
07-03-2008, 11:19 PM
Hi Cyrstalheart,
I'm new also... I think this place will be great for us.
T.:)
twinkle
07-03-2008, 11:21 PM
Hi Crystalheart,
I'm new also... I think this place will be great for us.
T.:)
Zapped1x
07-04-2008, 12:00 PM
Hey, your names match up sort of too....what does crystal do...it twinkles...welcome to Ageless...I do think you will like it here....a bunch of fabulous men and women...
I whis you both Blessings< Jann
crystalheart
07-05-2008, 01:09 PM
thank you all for the fabulous welcome!:D
Angel
07-09-2008, 12:15 PM
Crystal,
I feel your pain. I was 32 and he was 18 when we met!
Here's a couple threads to get you started:
Happy Stories of AGR involving men 18-25 (http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=36284)
Women are our own worst enemies thread (http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=27005)
Common Questions (http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=20506)
Crystal - it can work and it can't work. There's no way to determine the future and only you 2 can control that path.
I won't bore you with the facts because I'm sure those fears are what drove you to this site, but sometimes it works. There's the fact you probably don't hear at all right now.
So I'll say it again (because it's worth mentioning!). It can work!
Never in a million years did I think I would find myself with dating a teenager (yikes that's a hard thing to say, isn't it?). I remember those days and couldn't wait for him to turn 20 and then the magical number 21. Silly, it did bring me comfort. :blush: And you know what? In retrospect, I'm glad it was a hard thing to say because it kept me from putting blinders on about us.
We are now 35 and 21, engaged with a 2 year old daughter together. And there are many stories here of situations like yours. Not all stories last forever, but some, while over, are successes for what they did share.
:welcome: to Ageless!
crystalheart
07-09-2008, 01:52 PM
thank you again for the welcomesxx
Angel, I really needed someone like you to say that today! Ive been having a hard day with peoples opinions! thank you! I will read the threads now!
I really feel at home here already:D
Redhead
07-09-2008, 02:00 PM
I wish you a warm welcome. That is nice that the two of you have a child.
My experience is also that in a relationship where the man is younger, the woman needs a lot of nerves fighting the mean comments fromt he environment.
When I was together with my ex, who was 16 years younger, one of my (formerly believed) good friends said "Well, if you are not ashamed of being seen with him in a restaurant. :mad::mad:
Angel
07-09-2008, 03:07 PM
My experience is also that in a relationship where the man is younger, the woman needs a lot of nerves fighting the mean comments fromt he environment.
I agree it takes a lot of nerves to not let the comments eat away at the relationship. :yes:
For most people the comments begin to taper off once people adjust to seeing you both as just any normal loving couple.
