Ldr-->sdr

No one wants to be in an LDR forever. Many of us are making plans to be closer to our loved one. There are a few things on my mind. One of them is that the relationship has been so short that I don't even know if I should commit to moving closer or if it's too soon to even mention it. However, we both know how intensely we feel and how many things are keeping us apart (age, distance, finances, family). He will be close to retirement soon and wants to move to Mexico. That would be a major decision for me because not only is it far away from my family, but it is another country with another language. I don't think it's too bad to be prepared for whatever may be and the bigger the decision, the more thought that has to go into it. I have already been doing some research on living and working there. For such a major decision, I feel that it's not too early to start the research, but at the same time I am afraid that I will put so much time and energy into the dream/fantasy only to find it unfulfilled in the end.

How long have you been in this relationship? You say a short time but that could mean different things to different people.
Life is short and it's so hard to find someone that you like and connect with. No one can really tell you what to do. Only you know what's right for you. I don't know what your situation is but can you move back to your current situation if things don't work out?
I'm kind of facing the same thing, but it's just another state not another country. We've only been together a little bit over a month. I'm not planning on moving until we have been together at least 6 months, at the soonest. That's just what I feel comfortable doing. We have been able to see each other often during this time so it's not just getting time together on the phone, online or texting.
There are a lot of people on this site that have made successful moves and get married so it's possible for things to work out.
Lynetta

I am curious to how long you two have been dating as well. Because there is a period of time that it is called the honeymoon phase..when that wears off
reality sets in and the rose colored glasses come off..if you can make it through some serious rough times..then you got it made. I would not move anywhere if it were less then a year or a year and a half anything less then that..do visits...because living with someone is WAY different then a 1 month to a 2 week visit LOL..trust me

so we need a tad more info

Before I make a big move, I plan on spending more time with my guy. Just visitng for a couple weeks and the long distance stuff is really quite different from living with someone 24/7. Moving is a big step, leaving behind all you know. Moving to another country is a really big step. (I have grown up and lived within 10 miles of this place all my life. I have a lot of extended family here and own my Grandmother's home.)

LDRs are very hard and I am having a hard time with that, as I have posted a few times. :o

I think if you were to move to Mexico...you should be very careful to make sure you have a backup plan....especially because you have such a large gap.

Meaning...have your own money...do your research on the area...make sure you have friends or family members who would come get you if needed...ect.

Nadine.

I have been dating my boyfriend since April and now it's September. I imagine that I will be waiting several years until I actually make the decision to move to Mexico with him in order to acquire the funds to support such an adventure. It's just something to think about now rather than later.

A friend of mine (Hispanic-American) lived in Mexico and complained about how closed Mexican society is. How difficult it is for foreigners to get jobs. I do not know if her experience was the exception to the rule, but you may want to find out.

My bf has went through an ordeal to find a job here, in "friendly" Panama, the language has been another issue as well as the different cultures. He is now back in Indiana and our relationship is quite iffy now, not because of lack of love but because moving here did not work out as planned. (He has a certain blame % there but not all).

Sooooo.... my suggestion is to visit him in Mexico, scout the place, talk to other compatriots who have made the move, and decide based on this.

Hey there :) if i can help you with anything, just let me know, i'll gladly help you out :D

Now with your post. Mexico right now, as many other countries is passing a hard time, finding a job will be difficult, this i can tell you. What city/state is he planning/moving to, do you know? If he will live with his retirement fond, think that 1 dollar=11 pesos for us, so maybe for him, his money will be good enough. There is a looooooot of US citizen moving here to live in the wonderful beaches we have and they live with the retirement money. As for you, what do you do for a living? Do you have difficulty learning other languages? The culture here is diffierent to US culture and different to what you have seen in movies or even in the restaurants like taco bell, we dont even have those here, LOL. Thats not even mexican food, is it easy for your stomach and in general for you, to adapt to this kind of changes?

And Sheila, Mexico is very friendly too, this is why many US citizens and european ones pick the country to retire. Im sorry to hear your friend had a difficult time here finding a job, maybe had to do with what she/he has as career? Is funny cus we usually comment how easy is for forengeirs to get the jobs cus usually the companies picks them over the mexicans LOL...but regardless this, the country is not in the best of its moments...well it hasnt been in quiet a while.

I dont know if you have heard of the insecurity here too?...that is a very important thing to consider. It sadness me to talk of it, but this is something i have to point out too.

Anyway, feel free to PM me or to post here your questions or anything, if i can help you out ^_^ and good luck!

I have been dating my boyfriend since April and now it's September. I imagine that I will be waiting several years until I actually make the decision to move to Mexico with him in order to acquire the funds to support such an adventure. It's just something to think about now rather than later.

Well Im happy you are not rushing into it SO soon as it has been a very short time. Take your time with it. Have him come see you (make sure he helps with his own trip ) and you him THEN go from there.