WHy can't I post???

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I just wrote a long introductory post about myself and it wouldn't post!! How infuriating!!

I am involved with a man 35 years older than myself (ME,32, HIM, 67) and I wanted to discuss some of the problems we have, but I'll do it when I calm down because I'm still so upset that my other post didn't work.

A general question I had was:
Why are there so many couples the same age? I am starting to feel like I am abnormal or something because all my life I was never attracted to guys my age. The smallest age difference I had was that of six years, but even he was not very mature.

Another thing I've pondered over and over again is this: Doesn't it seem better for a woman to be with an older man in the sense that the chances of him cheaing on her with a younger woman
(If they were the same age) later would be much less?? To this day I don't understand why the majority of couples are almost always the same age

Why are so many couples the same age? Well, the way I think about it...when you are just going along, living your life, you tend to meet people your same age who are in the same stage of life. For example--when I was at college, I was surrounded by students my own age. I tended to date guys who I met through school, or school-related activities...then, logically, you graduate, or just go on to a career-level job, and again, you will be with people of the same general age and experience. Maybe this is why people tend to stick to their own age as a general rule?

As others have pointed out, it wasn't always so. Back when marriages were arranged by parents, for instance, a lot of younger women were paired off with older men--parents strove to make a "good match" and a good match was one that could provided their daughter with what she needed.

What does everyone else think?

and welcome to ageless sagwee!

Most of it status quo..... what the norm is no one knows....

It all depends on the people....... I wish you good luck in your relationship........

Who knows the real answers to your questions......

My fiance is 17 years older than me... I am 27 and he is 44 and I love him more than life itself....

Sorry about the missing posts...for a while the site was having problems. It looks like things are okay now.

A general question I had was:
Why are there so many couples the same age? I am starting to feel like I am abnormal or something because all my life I was never attracted to guys my age. The smallest age difference I had was that of six years, but even he was not very mature.

Another thing I've pondered over and over again is this: Doesn't it seem better for a woman to be with an older man in the sense that the chances of him cheaing on her with a younger woman
(If they were the same age) later would be much less?? To this day I don't understand why the majority of couples are almost always the same age:

I agree with larasteele...in the atmosphere your in, you tend to find someone that shares your similar interests and lifestyles, which each generation has different interests. So you generally find someone your own age. However, now that your all grown and on your own maybe you met someone at work, or a church or some where that doesn't identify with a generation interest. It's just an interest.

I do agree with you about dating older men. In my case I know that I won't be cheated on b/c D has had his heart trampled on twice...very badly and knows what it feels like. I know hes ready for someone to love him and he ready to have someone to love. He's past the years of game playing and is as real as he'll ever be. That's one of his best traits.

Although, I'm sure there are men out there closer to our ages that would do just fine, but you just so happened to meet you honey first. Heck, there are probably younger guys that will do a great job, but it's all about being in the right place at the right time to meet Mr. Right. No matter the age, (like larasteele said) it's HIM that you want, not the number of years he is on paper.

My young lady and I are almost 30 years apart in age.

I have a son who is 7 years her junior and another 10 years youger. I am African- American and she is Anglo.

Throughout my entire life, I have been in or around universities.
Being a professional, it is manadatory to continue metriculating.

I have always loved the environment on campus. There is a richness of ideas that are not always evident in the surrounding community.

Long ago, I discovered that I was not physically ageing as quickly as my peers. Now, being around a campus allows me to blend in without questions about age.

I have many female friends my age and younger but there is a common thread, genuine acceptance.

I still compete in track meets as does my son.

Each day of my life is a fresh start.

I fell in Love with this woman at the running track. Athough, I previously detested the idea of another marriage, I can see us married with children.

We compliment each other!

I know that I'm a bit wordy but...

What cinched it for me was a gift from heaven.

I have a 13 year old cat (Yang). His sister (Yin) died in October.

I was there throughout her death. I saw Yang growing old and quiet.

In December, I decided to allow my youngest to get a new cat for Christmas. He chose a 1 year old female kitten (Ya'Mou) who strangely looks like Yang.

Since she had just been fixed, she hissed and growled at him alot.
Yang seemed to be interested but cautious.

After she healed, she began getting closer and closer.

Eventually, she began jumping on him, biting him and wrestling with him. He gradually seemed to become more energized. He was reborn before my eyes.

Now, she continously plays with him and they mutually groom each other. They exhibit pure and sincere affection for each other.
I honestly do not believe that another cat his age could have brought about such a profound change.

They are lovely together!

Although, I am not a cat, I seem to have 9 lives. This woman has allowed me to touch her soul and I don't fear not being there for her as she grows old. I plan to tell this story to our children's children.

I hope the government guys in the black helicopters aren't reading this. I hope that I can be her Ya'Mou when she growes older.

OrpheusdeCocao
As obscure as your post was....I absolutely loved it. How interesting - comparing compassion to the lives of cats. I was wondering 'where is this going' and when I finished read....it was just to sweet.

I'm glad you have found happiness and can find yourself believing in love and re-marriage. Please keep us posted on your happiness.

BTW...welcome. We all look forward to reading your posts

Sorry about digressing, professional habit.

Regarding the statement about the government guys in helicopters.

The governemnt is always looking for "the fountain of youth".
In the movies, their always chasing the person who isn't the same as everyone else.

Regarding the original question:

Many people are taught to belive that sameness is comfortable.
They learn to dewell in worlds with narrow borders.

They are taught to believe that there are fewer problems when their is greater sameness.

Obviously, the rules that one is taught are flawed.

Even if one doe not believe in a life before now or a life after death, the belief that One's "Soul Mate" will be born in the same town, in the same year, to similiar parents is beyond reasonable.

I believe that all beings are the same yet each is uniquely different, with only one other match.

I know that's it may be difficult to accept. This may still be "The Garden of Eden".

One truly can find everlasting Love and happiness!

We are given "free will"!

Finding ones True Love is simple, this is a very tiny planet.

Accepting that one has found that True Love, is the greatest of all tests.

Even when we disagree with what we're feeling, one knows the truth.

True Love knows no boundaries!

When one feels uncomfortable about straying away from the norms of the group, take a moment to reflect upon the energy that is emitted when you are with your True Love.

The energy of a thousand suns could never match the energy created by You and your Love.