A little advice my way

First of all, I would like to say hello to everyone. I am not in a relatioship with a younger man just yet, but I am quite interested in someone. I don't know how to go about it, so I'm hoping some of you could shed some light....
First of all, he is 22yrs old and I'll be 30 next month. I met him at work about 8 months ago and was attracted to him since the first instant. As we got to know each other I found out he had a girlfriend whom he was very serious with. So, I discarded the whole idea of the two of us, yet we still remained friends. Actually, we became great friends. We've confided in each other many things and I know that I can trust him with anything. Just recently he broke up with his girlfriend and we went out last night. Not a date, just two friends out having some fun. Well, it turns out we had too much fun. He actually said he hadn't had this much fun in a long, long time. He was, as has always been, a perfect gentleman...opening doors, holding bags, etc. Throughout the night we shared some intense stares. When the night was over, he brought me home and walked me to my door. We stood there for an awkward moment of silence, I guess not knowing how to say goodbye. So, I hugged him and he gave me a kiss on the cheek. But I wanted so much for him to kiss me, yet I was scared of what I might be getting into. He's the perfect man...and as I've told him before, he will definitely make a very lucky lady very happy. I don't know what to do....please help. I guess I need to be enlightened. :(

Sounds like to me that you handled the evening perfectly. Keep going out as friends for a little while. If he isn't obsessing about the other woman to you, consider it a good sign. Your timing may turn out to be just perfect. Good luck.

Please, please, please don't be afraid to make the first move. Guys a really cowards with this stuff trust me. For your good. For his good. Don't be afraid to make the first move. I'm not saying you did anything wrong at all. Play it cool. Just like a female Fonzi. Just. Please. Please. Please? Don't be afraid. Fear is the mind killer. =P allow it to pass thru you. When it is gone, only you and he will remain.

Actually he had been having some ongoing issues with his girlfriend that ultimately ended up in them breaking up. They were together for 1.5 years but he seems to be taking the breakup rather well. He said that he wishes her the best and that it is time for him to move on. They had some disagreements that were not going to get worked out no matter what. He knew that, I knew that, and she knew that. When we went out on Saturday, we didn't even bring her up. It was all about him and me. He has a very positive outlook on life and does not dwell on the past. As far as he's concerned, they're through. But still, I don't want to rush into anything.

No matter how cool he is behaving about the breakup, he is still on the rebound. Do not make a move. You can continue the significant stares, but don't drag out your dates and don't make yourself too available to him. Unless you are interested in a perhaps brief relationship, do wait a period of time before becoming involved with him. You don't want to end up being the wrestling mat for this guy and his supposed ex. If he brings up starting a new relationship, have a good talk with him and make it clear that you won't accept him if he has not broken all ties (both physical and emotional) with the ex. My current boyfriend had just broken up with his ex-wife (they had somewhat renewed their relationship after the divorce) and he wanted to make a clean break and start anew with me. Unfortunately, he didn't tell me anything about her or that they had renewed their relationship when we met, except to mention that their divorce had been final for a while. She is a criminal and made a lot of trouble for me the first year we were together. He now regrets pulling me into that still-volatile situation and putting me in danger. At the time, he still had no idea what a serious criminal she was. I know that this is an extreme example, but I hope to prove the point that breakups are rarely clean, no matter what the person says. For your own sake, be careful and wait. If he really is serious about you, then he will stick around in order to convince you that his intentions are true and that he is indeed finished with the ex.

I guess it's all in the timing. I'm not going to rush into anything. The one thing that I fear though is affecting our friendship over all this. But at the same time, some of the best relationships started off as great friends. One thing is for sure, I can't wait to see him at work tomorrow. :D