terrill 04-10-2003, 09:41 PM The younger man I'm interested and I ran into each other the other day. He stopped to talk to me a little. I thanked him for some help he gave me a few days before. There was a lull in the conversation for a few seconds after he said no problem. He then slowly extended his hand palm up slightly cupped towards me and kept it there. I wasn't sure what he was doing but I reached up slowly and put my hand in his and squeezed his hand gently. He didn't pull away, his hand didn't tense.... I couldn't believe I did that. I was so embarressed I couldn't look up at him . I slowly slid my hand away and then looked up. He looked normal and comfortable about it and we both said we'd see each other soon. The next day I saw him again and he told me I looked good. The sleeves on my shirt were a little long and he reached up and slowly started rolling my sleeves up. Is he interested? My friend said that if was freaked out by my holding his hand that he wouldn't have talked to me and played with my sleeves the next day that he would have tried to avoid me. Any ideas? Is my friend right?
Savannah 04-10-2003, 09:52 PM For what it's worth, your friend's advice was exactly what I would have said........that sleeve-rolling thing definitely shows a high degree of comfort with you (unless he's a compulsive neat freak!)
But what you really need are the opinions of some YM on this........Guys??
terrill 04-10-2003, 10:21 PM Guys, I really could use a male point of view on this one.
mauravel 04-11-2003, 12:50 AM Hi,
Not sure if 31 qualifies as young, but here goes!
If that had happened to me then I would definitely assume that you were interested and I would definitely also read interest into your actions.
In my humble experience, the first time I got involved with on OW I knew that both she and I were interested, just took a bit for me to get my head around it, but once I did it was great!
Give him a little time and if nothing comes of it give him another hint or if you feel brave enough just launch yourself at him!
Pretty sure that he is interested and that he is just a bit cautious...
Good luck..
Jim
xx
Okay, I'm barely 26 and i have to say that YES he is a "little" interested. If not, a lot!!!
Most guys would have been just like "yeah whatever" and think nothing of the hand holding. Then, when they start doing "maintenance" on you, such as the sleeve rolling, there is something inside them that says, "Hey, I actually care about this person." And when compliments seem to be on a more than constant basis, especially about shirts, earings, hair, etc. . . then something in the YM's heart is there. Take it for what it's worth and if I were you, wait to see what his next move will be. If he likes you, in hopes of pursuing a relationship, then he will most likely be making the first move.
Stay calm and be happy, you just might be in for a surprise.
Good luck,
joe
special K 04-11-2003, 01:14 AM ....rolled up your sleeves?!?! How adorable. That was definitely a "nurturing" moment he used to convey that he cares about you. People who don't care keep a "comfort distance" between them and other people. And the reaching-out-for-your- hand-thing...oooooweeee. It's almost as sweet as someone special pulling your hair back from the front of your shirt, or brushing a wisp of hair away from you mouth, etc. It SOOOOOO means he is comfortable, if not enamored with you. Take it slowly, follow his lead....but definitely GO WITH IT !!!!
nafadda 04-11-2003, 06:06 PM [terrill]Is he interested?[/QUOTE]
yes.....from what you described,he is ......subtle and sweet....very nice....:)
terrill 04-11-2003, 08:33 PM Thank you,everyone.:) I hope you're all right. I'm just so afraid of getting my hopes up. I will take it slow and follow his lead. I don't know what possessed me to hold his hand like that but I'm glad I did it. It just felt right. Thanks again.
Savannah 04-11-2003, 08:39 PM Terrill,
Hey, don't forget to keep us posted -- I, for one, can't wait to hear what this guy does for an encore!
Good luck!
yellowrose 04-11-2003, 08:53 PM How sensuous! I love it!
Nessa 04-14-2003, 02:26 PM sounds like he's interested to me. I like it.
keep us posted.
terrill 05-10-2003, 06:50 PM Well, nothing's happened yet. He did a slap me five thing and squeezed my hand after but nothing else. I met his girlfriend the other night. Blond,beautiful and probably 25 years old. Oh well. On to greener pastures.
singalou 05-10-2003, 07:14 PM yup, yup...i agree...that 'sleeve-rolling thing'...ooooo sounds soooooo .....interesting;) I would definitely proceed...with caution;) GOODLUCK...let us know how 'things' develop!
ps...blonde, beautiful, 25...hmmmm come on ter....think you've got some good stuff 'up those sleeves' too=) OW are not just OLD u know;):D
terrill 05-12-2003, 04:25 PM I know I could give him a lot more than she could but it's up to him.
Harrison 05-12-2003, 04:51 PM Terrill, you poor thing....
You're being toyed with. :(
terrill 05-12-2003, 04:56 PM Originally posted by Harrison
Terrill, you poor thing....
You're being toyed with. :( That's what I feel like sometimes unless he's unsure of my feelings. And I don't see how he can't see how I feel. He's had enough clues.I hope he's not laughing behind my back. He seems like too nice a guy to do that but.....:(
Harrison 05-12-2003, 05:18 PM "I hope he's not laughing behind my back. He seems like too nice a guy to do that but....."
But even nice guys 'n gals play insensitive little games.
One of the hazards of dealing with young 'uns is their
poor communication skills.
Once I gave a ride to a young lady who very bluntly asked
me: "Do you have a girlfriend?"
After I said no, we chatted a bit more, and she asked:
"Do you want me to call you?"
Amazing! I politely declined, but I had to give her an
"A+" for communication skills. :D
Now, if only everyone could be so straightforward! :)
Originally posted by Harrison
Terrill, you poor thing....
You're being toyed with. :(
What he said.
singalou 05-13-2003, 06:16 AM okay...so as the 'eternal optimist' here...how do we really KNOW what is or is not intended. Like 'ole Harrison said "guys and gals play insensitive games"...unfortunately. Terrill...IF u like this guy AND he IS sending 'lil messages' that you don't know quite how to interpret...step 'out on a limb' and just ask him...really what do u have to lose?...maybe a 'lil pride if rejected, but pride's not all it's cracked up to be anyhow=).
Harrison 05-13-2003, 06:30 AM Singalou said:
Step 'out on a limb' and just ask him...really what do u have to lose?...
Excellent point. Nice to hear that from a woman.
A direct gaze in the eyes and a "Do you or don't you want
me for a girlfriend?" should settle the issue for once and
for all. :D
singalou 05-13-2003, 06:32 AM yuppers, harrison...think that should do it:D
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