ow ym movies

does anyone know of any good ow ym movies out there? I'd love to see some.

I'm afraid any movie that I have seen with an OW/YM relationship was always rather lewd and insulting. You know, the best friend's 40 something mom "initiates" the 16 year old high school boy.

I would love to see a romantic, funny, touching movie with a sort of real OW/YM. I bet we have some really good stories here at ageless that would make fabulous movies.


But maybe someone else knows of a good movie that's already out there.

I saw one about 3 years ago, that really loved!
i forgot the title, but maybe someone can remember it if I said what was all about.
The OW name in the movie was Stella, 40 yrs old. (Black gorgeous woman)
that goes to Jamaica on holidays with her best friend, (Whoopy Goldbert) and Stella falls in love with a YM (20) and etc, etc, etc.
if i tell you the story .......
I reckon that this particular movie is very nice to see, specially the issues that they have to confront.
Oh my God!!, if i could remember the title!!!
something about Stella's grooving !
Anyone knows of another one?
Adri

How Stella Got Her Groove Back?

I never saw it, but I think that's the movie you're thinking about. I should go and rent it.

That's exactly the one Im talking about!!
Good movie about OW/YM.
Rent it, you wont be dissapointed
After you watch it, come back and tell us what you thought of that
Adri

Link to harold and maude (http://www.geocities.com/RainForest/5862/harold.htm)

You must have seen the Graduate??

The only one I can think of at the moment....

Jim
xx

I just remembered another one and very recent one too.
"Crush" With Andy McDowell i think.
i havent seen this one so cant tell you if its worth watching it or not.
Adri

There is a movie with Mel Gibson in it called "Tim" about a young male with a slight mental disability who gets involved with an older woman. Its a pretty good movie.

There is also an Australian movie called "The Sugar Factory" where a teenage boy and a 38yr old woman have the "hots" for each other, but the movie doesn't focus on that issue. It mainly follows the boy and his screwed up family life. Its a "different" movie and very sad in some places but its good to watch.

:)

White Palace with Susan Sarandon is excellent. Not exploitative. A good, humane drama with a dose of humor.

I really liked the movie, "Crush." The ym loved her so much, and so many people put her down for being in love with a younger guy. My husband and I both liked "Crush" a lot.

The Letter. Kate Capshaw is the star. Its pretty good. The book is better
Stella is wonderful, the movie blurbs always call it a fling between a 40ish woman and a 20 ish man, but its actually based on the way that the author of the book, Terri McMillan met her much younger husband, and it isn't a fling at all.
Tim, of course. Not easy to find though.
I haven't seen The Good Girl, or Crush, or Tadpole, but they're all recent.
Most of these are based on books, and I'd really recommend the books over the movies on all of them. The book Stella really goes into the fears and joys OW have at first. Since she lived it, she'd know.
Harold and Maude is wierd, but sweet.
The Graduate sucks I think.
And of course - The Summer of 42.

"Crush".....great flick....funny and deals fairly with the ym/ow
'thang'. Love Andie Mc Dowell.
" White Palace".... I own it. Love it...not only does it show that
love can surpass age barriers, but others as well (socio
economic, religious, etc.) Beware: hot sex scene. :D
Susan Sarandon rocks!
"Tim".....sweet

Has anyone seen "Mama Y Tu?".....or "Tadpole" ? Just wondering how they measure up.

Originally posted by special K
"Crush".....great flick....funny and deals fairly with the ym/ow
'thang'. Love Andie Mc Dowell.
" White Palace".... I own it. Love it...not only does it show that
love can surpass age barriers, but others as well (socio
economic, religious, etc.) Beware: hot sex scene. :D
Susan Sarandon rocks!


Ah you've piqued my interest.
I liked Andie in Sex Lies and Videotape and Susan Sarandon in many different roles, who I think is, in reality, seeing a YM.

Personally, I'd love to see more women of more diverse shapes and sizes as well as ages in film, fashion, or any other "in-the-spotlight media-related" industry for that matter.

Richard

White Palace was incredible. I love that movie. It's so romantic... he's so in love with her. And very realistic, when they are dealing with stuff like when she thinks he is embarassed of her, etc. And when his mom goes, "She's no spring chicken."

Susan Sarandon is married to Tim Robbins (if not officially, she is his common-law wife after more than a decade with him). I think he is about 12 years her junior, something like that.:D

Originally posted by special K
Susan Sarandon is married to Tim Robbins (if not officially, she is his common-law wife after more than a decade with him). I think he is about 12 years her junior, something like that.:D

Point of Information:

Common Law Marriage has NOTHING to do with time limits. Very few states recognize CML any more.

In PA if you are able to be married and intend to be married and go to stay overnight in PA and represent yourself as husband and wife you are in PA common law spouses. Once you are common law in one state the other states will recognize it.


Currently these states recognize some form of common law marriage:

Alabama
Colorado
District of Columbia
Iowa
Kansas
Montana
Oaklahoma
Pennsylvania
Rhode Island
South Carolina
Texas
Utah (with limitiations)


there are other things that come into play and other places the recognize them if contracted before a certain date.

It's actually a very interesting topic.

thanks,everyone. I've got a lot of movies to watch.;)

I once, say 10-15 years ago, saw a nice ow/ym movie whose title I don't remember. It was about a 25 yo male (rather tall, I think) working as a cook. He meets a beuatiful blonde 42 yo woman (I think they meet through her daughter), and they fall in love. His mother opposes the relationship and succeeds to split them, but later she tries to get them together again. Part of the story is about the guy's mother and her relation to a writer (or is the mother a writer herself?).

That's all I remember. Anyone who can identify the movie and the main actors?

Forty Carats? I love this movie. It's a comedy yet deals with issues somewhat. Edward Albert and Liv Ulman star.

Has anyone seen In Love and War, with Sandra Bullock?It's the true story of Ernest Hemmingway and how he fell in love with an older nurse(played by Bullock) during WWI. I believe he was 10 years younger than her, and this was his inspiration behind A Farwell to Arms. Anyway, this is another ym/ow movie.
TC

Jus thought I'd bump this thread, because "White Palace" was on AMC tonight and I just got through watching it.

It was great! It was a seriously good movie on an OW/YM relationship. I don't want to ruin anything for anybody, but you'll really enjoy this one.

Oh, and PinkCat, I just had to laugh when his mother said that line.

Now, I guess I need to go get it on DVD so I can see what was cut out for TV.

FYI... It's pretty cheap if you don't mind VHS (I found it for less than $5 online), but if you want it on DVD, the cheapest I saw was $33!

I wish I had grabbed the DVD when I saw it in the Wal-Mart $5.88 bin about six months ago. It wasn't till after I left the store that I realized what that movie was.

I just watched "White Palace" last night at my future sister-in-law's house. I had for some reason, thought the movie was about cocaine! LOL Anyway, I thought it was okay, but I didn't like the fact that when they met at the bar, Susan was BEGGING him to pay attention to her. She was definitely a cougar in that scene. I mean, she redeemed herself later in the movie, but that scene made me cringe, because it portrayed ow as needy, desperate, horny cougars!

I missed from the scene where they discussed going to his friend's wedding together, to where he is at his friend's house at a party and some younger woman (the photographer) is trying to pick him up. We had to drive home during that time. What happened during the part I missed?

Oh, there's a movie with Marissa Tomei and Johnny Depp in it, where they're working in a restaurant together, and Depp is kind of slow, and they end up having a hot romance. He's younger than she is. I forget the name of that movie?

It was Marissa Tomei and Christian Slater, it was called Untamed Heart. I don't think he was younger, she was in Beauty School, and he'd outgrown the orphanage he grew up in, so I think they were both supposed to be early twenties. She still lived at home even. Sweet, sad movie though.
I still think The Letter, is one that every single OW/YM person should see. It was great.
By the way, Stella was written based on the author's (Terry McMillan) real life romance, and subsequent marriage to, a man twenty years younger than her.

Originally posted by Polly
I just watched "White Palace" last night at my future sister-in-law's house. I had for some reason, thought the movie was about cocaine! LOL Anyway, I thought it was okay, but I didn't like the fact that when they met at the bar, Susan was BEGGING him to pay attention to her. She was definitely a cougar in that scene. I mean, she redeemed herself later in the movie, but that scene made me cringe, because it portrayed ow as needy, desperate, horny cougars!

I agree, as I cringed a little on that scene too.... but I think the point was that they were both drunk and he was very reserved while she was more open... sort of a clash of cultures bit.

I've PMed you the part of the movie you missed, because I didn't want to spoil it for anyone else reading the thread.

Three words....
"SOMETHING"S GOTTA GIVE" .....go see it everyone.....Diane Keaton and Keanu Reeves (can it get any better than Keanu Reeves?!?!?)....they aren't the subject of the whole movie, but Hollywood got it right and he loves her for all the right reasons...and she is ONE HOT 57 year old in that flick....
See it this weekend:cool:

Harold and Maude...an absolute classic :D

Freejack. They presumably start out the same age, but then he gets propelled 18 years into the future and they resume their relationship. Does that count?

worth mentioning:

"Moment By Moment" starring Lily Tomlin & John Travolta

"A friend's Betrayel" starring Sharon Lawrence & Sean A. Green

and i thought this thread was about making your own "home videos" if you know what i mean. *wink wink* Sorry i got too excited...:D

Not in Chit-Chat, Youngguy! :D

"So, does she like photographs? Wink, wink, nudge, nudge. Say no more."

Originally posted by MrsHedgeHog
No. Oh no no no. It cannot. ::: slobbering ::: :p

Ditto on the Keanu Reeves thing.

Sail

Gee... all these gals slobbering over Keanu....

I knew of Diane Keaton from some movies before, but I had never really watched a movie with her in a major role before "Father of the Bride." I found her quite beautiful in that movie, and still do. drools.... ;) I'm gonna have to go see "Something's Gotta Give" I guess...

oh yeah! It is Friday afternoon - worked early so I am off tonight! Went to the store and got myself fat free everything including Giant Fudgcicles....

and I got myself
White Palace
How Stella Got Her Groove Back
Crush
and
Divine Secrets of the YaYa Sisterhood.

I can play around all weekend at AL! Lay on the couch. Crunch and stretch if I feel like it.......and veg.....

bf's 7 hours away, and yes, I miss him, but this weekend does sound sweet!

Thanks for the movie tips everyone!

harold and maude is a F***ING CLASSIC , NO TWO WAYS ABOUT IT.

Good thread to revive!

I guess I like the happy ending stories - where the OW/YM stay together, so the only one I liked was How Stella Got Her Groove Back. I haven't seen White Palace, but if they stay together, I'll like it! I'm just sick of the movies that seem "cautionary" or are purely for humor or the woman chooses an older man over the YM.

Good movies (but not necessarily happy ending where they stick together):

Tadpole - cute & funny, a little sad. Teenage boy has a crush on his stepmom and thinks dad doesn't appreciate her like he does. He ends up getting drunk and sleeping with her best friend. Funny & awkward moments galore. Cute ending.

The Letter - A woman finds a love letter and tries to find who has the crush on her. Other characters find the letter and think it's for them. A YM finds it and thinks the OW wrote it to him. A series of comedic events and a short, sweet OW/YM romance.

How Stella Got Her Groove Back - Divorced Stella is a tough business woman who needs a vacation. She meets a gorgeous YM in Jamaica and they begin a beautiful romance that follows her home. Funny, sweet and some very real moments that we may have all been in. (Like when he demands that he be treated as a man and not a child.)

The Good Girl - A realistic movie about realistic people - the veil torn back. The OW/YM thing is really a non-issue. He just happens to be younger and she's in an unhappy marriage. He's also a bit disturbed. Very surprizing, but not a romance.

The Graduate - Directionless YM comes home from college and is seduced by the wife of his father's business partner. He falls for her daughter, but she forbids the romance. Definately not a OW/YM romance.

American Pie - It's just a side story, but Finch's obsession for Stickler's mom is hysterical!

Something's Gotta Give - Loved Keanu Reeves's character (I'm a bit biased - Jeremy kinda looks like him) thought her choice was stupid, but what do I know? Very good movie, though! The OW/YM thing was a side story, not the main story.

I haven't seen Tim, White Palace or Crush - I'll have to get them!

White palace was also one of my favaorite movies...I love Susan Saradon and James Spader is as sexy as they come. I just saw his new serial, I think it is Boston Legal, and he is great in it. I also loved him "the Secretary" which I recently saw on video.

Also, lets not forget about the scene in the Graduate when Mrs Robinson( Anne Bancroft) seduces Ben (Dustin Hoffman). That is an oldy but goody.

Debbie

I am trying to think of hot movies for YW/OM. I am sure there are a ton.

It was on Lifetime the other night To Live For.


Susan, a single mother who has been diagnosed with cancer, struggles with her daughter's reaction to her illness and the matter of who will care for her after she dies. When they move to the West Coast, Susan falls in love with a busboy named Michael.

Their age difference was never actually stated, however, you knew, because she was a successful businesswoman and he was still a busboy who had dropped out of school.

She changed his life as he did hers. They never married, however, she ends up leaving her daughter with him. He adopts the child and has a beautiful relationship with the two of them. She ends of leaving this world to pass over to the next one knowing that her daughter was loved and her SO will forever be connected to her through her child.

It was a tear jerker and makes you realize that age is irrelevant when it comes to true love.

I hope you all get a chance to see this beautiful movie.

Love,
Sora

Although I have not seen all the movies that many have suggested, I have seen a few. Plus just recently I saw one that surprised me because I didn't realize that it had the OW/YM subject in it. I just got it to watch SOMETHING... As it turned out, it was not a bad movie. Although very little humor, but it was interesting how they set the relationship up between the two.
The Movie.. : P.S. With Laura Hinney, Toppa Grace and Gabrial Burn. (Forgive me if I have not spelled all correctly.. but the idea is there.)
It is at least worth a view if nothing else.

SMILE..
Diane

Looks like my boyfriend is going to be watching some what he calls "chick flicks' mwhahahahaa. Took me twisting his arms and legs to watch "Ten ways to lose a man " , anything like that he is not into, but I am gonna tell him this is required relationship 'viewing".

Let me know if any are real bad endings and Ill skip those!!

Heather

Its not a movie, but Sex and the City's Samantha and Smith are a great example

I just watched White Palace last week and I can't give it as glowing reviews as everyone does here. While it does have a happy ending, it's Hollywood and isn't realistic IMHO. Why would a successful, educated, handsome younger male be seriously interested in a dysfunctional, chain-smoking, uneducated white trash waitress? She was a nice enough woman, but that match was totally unrealistic just because they had zero commonalities. It was a little too fairytale for my taste.

Check out Igby Goes Down. That's an interesting story. I also liked Crush.

This one is a far fetched fantasy one but i liked it. Somewhere in time, with Christopher Reeves and Jane Seymour.

Destroy All Monsters!! Great cast & story:

Godzilla - King of monsters, forced to do the Kilaaks' dirty work and not happy about it.
Anguirus - Still a feisty little guy, though he is the unfortunate volunteer to do an impromptu presentation about gravity. Sir Isaac Newton should be glad it was only raining apples that fateful day.
Rodan - Friendly enough in his roost on Ogasawara, we even see him fishing (for porpoises) at one point.
Ghidrah - Summoned by the Kilaaks to defeat Earth's monsters, but the home team puts a serious hurting on him.
Manda - While under alien control he crunches a few cities, that's about it for Manda.
Mothra - In caterpillar form the giant insect is forced to destroy sections of China.
Gorosaurus - Impressive in the battle against Ghidrah, his lethal jump kick even made me say ouch.
Baragon, Spiga, Varan, Minya - Along for the ride, though I believe Baragon did assist in the destruction of Paris. Either that or whoever did the American dub just did not care.
Katsuo - Heroic captain of the rocketship SY-3.
Kyoko - Katsuo's love interest whose mind is controlled by the Kilaaks for a time.
Dr. Yoshida - Spokesman and scientist, obviously chosen for his public speaking skills.
The Kilaaks - Evil alien race intent on enslaving mankind, too bad they turn into lumps of rock at room temperature :p :D

P.S. With Laura Hinney, Toppa Grace and Gabrial Burn. (Forgive me if I have not spelled all correctly.. but the idea is there.)
It is at least worth a view if nothing else.

SMILE..
Diane
I forgot about that one! I just saw it recently and I liked it!

PS - She's in college admissions and sees his name on an application. It's very close to the name of a long-dead love of her life. She calls him in for an interview and he's an artist - like her love was. He also looks very much like him. They start a relationship and fall in love. Some bumps in the road, but they work it out. Nice movie, but a little strange.

They do end up together in "White Palace." Even though his family does a big double-take over the age difference, I always thought the lower class-upper class difference between them was their biggest problem in the movie. But they stay together.

The first time that they hook up was a pretty hot scene, I thought. :eek: Not complaining though.

Why would a successful, educated, handsome younger male be seriously interested in a dysfunctional, chain-smoking, uneducated white trash waitress? She was a nice enough woman, but that match was totally unrealistic just because they had zero commonalities. It was a little too fairytale for my taste.
LOL @ Kat

Why would a college educated, professional woman that grew up in & owns her own house in an affluent suburb be seriously interested in a tattooed, ex-gang member that grew up in the ghetto, lived with 6 people in a run-down apartment and who barely made it through the 10th grade? :confused:

I dunno, but we're in love and I wouldn't give him up for anything! :eek: :D

Sounds like my kind of movie!

does anyone know of any good ow ym movies out there? I'd love to see some.

You may want to check out Tadpole

I just finished watching PS. Happy ending for us older women.

i'm kind of late to this thread, but i'd like to drop my two pennies:

these are smaller movies but worth searching out for: _caught_ about a drifter who dropped in on the lives of an older couple. hubby breezing along in life, wife is bored and not fulfilled. wife gets involved with drifter. jealous son comes home and tries to break them up. lots of oedopus (ian?) and freudian themes. excelent movie. it has james almos something (the miami vice guy) and maria conchita alfonso (gorgeous brazillian actress) it's set in miami i think

a cuban movie called chocolate and strawberry. although it has an ow/ym story, it's more about life in communist cuba and this one particular artist/dissadent...but really good movie. the ow/ym line is pretty big in the movie so don't be discouraged. well worth it.

pedro almadovar's _live fless_ a spanish (espana) film. it has one of my favorite, hottest sexiest sex scenes in movie history. it's not graphic or pornographic either. very tastefully done. again the ow/ym is not the main story line. i think almadovar's just obsessed with his mother. the theme's all over his movies. they're all very good too. all about my mother, talk to her, bad education, el matador, woman on the verge of a nervious breakdown, etc.

catherine deneuve is the french version of susan sarrandon. she does a lot of ow/ym films. indochine...set in vietnam...she's involved with a hot young french officer. east/west is another one but i haven't seen that yet.

whoa..that's lots more than two pennies...i'm done broke...

" Quote: Why would a college educated, professional woman that grew up in & owns her own house in an affluent suburb be seriously interested in a tattooed, ex-gang member that grew up in the ghetto, lived with 6 people in a run-down apartment and who barely made it through the 10th grade? "

Because.....he has an inner core that is true, genuine, beautiful and honorable even if his upbringing may not have been! My current guy is not an ex gang member, and never lived in the ghetto, but he's pierced, drives a Harley, had a tough young life, works as a carpenter/laborer while I, like you, have finished post grad work, am a professional woman who owns my own business and home in an upscale neighborhood, have published work, etc. He also happens to be the most honest, genuine man I've ever known.

I told "J" the following story the other day (paraphrased) when he asked again why in the world am I attracted to HIM any way....

When Da Vinci first unveiled his statue of David, an art critic of the day approached him and said, "How is it that you could have created something of such magnificant, transcendent beauty?"
Da Vinci's reply,"I didn't create him....David was always in there, I just had to chip off some of the stone on the outside to reveal his full beauty underneath."

Our guys are diamonds in the rough, Kristin, that's why we love them :D

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Our guys are diamonds in the rough, Kristin, that's why we love them :D
Of Course! :D

(You do know that my post was a tongue-in-cheek response to katmeup7's post about "White Palace", right?)

Originally Posted by katmeup7
Why would a successful, educated, handsome younger male be seriously interested in a dysfunctional, chain-smoking, uneducated white trash waitress? She was a nice enough woman, but that match was totally unrealistic just because they had zero commonalities. It was a little too fairytale for my taste. Guess special K and I are livin' the fairy tale!! :D

I saw Crush last week. Well, most of it... I turned the tv on, saw Andie McDowell and left it on, so I missed the first 40 minutes or so. I thought it was really quite good, especially how it dealt with her friends not being able to deal with the fact she actually was in love with this ym and one of them was deadset on breaking them up. What happened in the end was rather sad though, and it did seem to get a bit weird and unrealistic towards the end.