Should I let him go before I get my heart broken??

He's 50 and I'm 30. We have been dating for over a month now, and I feel so excited just being around him. I have such a hard time finding a man I am attracted to, I have been out with dozens of men, and I have never had any luck. But this man, he is amazing! He is so intelligent and strong and kind. He is what I have always dreamed of! But sometimes I feel like it is only a dream. He is the president of a large company, and he is always very stressed out and so busy. I am afraid of falling for this man, because I am getting the impression that as much as he may like me, he will never have a lot of time for me. It is sooooooo depressing! To finally have found a man that I care for and want to be with, and to have such obstacles. I don't think he knows how I feel either. He always jokes about how many men I must be dating.

I try to speak seriously with him but he either a/ gets frustrated with me (because he IS frustrated and always stressed out) or he b/ jokes it all off.

I know he is afraid of getting close to me, as he told me once in one of our only serious conversations. He told me he is terrified of falling in love because he gives all of himself and he has been hurt so many times and betrayed so many times.

I want him to know I would never do that to him. I just feel so happy being with him and I just want to make him happy and hold him and love him.

Sometimes I feel like I am going crazy because I am usually such an aloof person and I never feel this way! He has opened up the gentle side of me and I am totally vulnerable to him! Help!!!!

Can anyone relate?

Should I let him go before I get my heart broken?:confused:

My advice is....

"it is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all"

Love is always a risk.... so you need to decide if he's worth taking the risk......

It's hard loving a man with stress. But if you truly love him...you'll love him flaws and all. Try to have a serious talk...tell him that you know it's frustrating, but this way you both know how you guys feel about each other and wont be left in the dark and wondering what the other feels.

Keep us posted!!

PS...WELCOME to the boards...glad to have you here!

Women whom are in relationships with truely successful men like himself needs to be somewhat independant...... You need to be willing for the late nights and maybe the stressful ones... but only you can make that decision if you want to deal with that but sometimes love is worth it....but sometimes it isn't ... it alllll depends on the woman...... Keep us posted....

Thanks to all of you for your words of wisdom. And thanks for the welcome.

Well, I know you are right, I have to tell him how I feel. I think I may just have to let this all go though, as heart wrenching as it's going to be. I just don't think his heart is open enough to let someone in. I think that's why he uses humour all the time, to avoid feeling.

Thanks for this board. It's great to feel that I am not alone. :)

My advice for you is simply:

Be honest. To yourself.


In the end...consider this:

"...if you allow yourself to feel the way you really feel, maybe you won't be afraid of that feeling anymore." (Tori Amos, Afterword to Sandman, Book of Dreams, Neil Gaiman.)