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A 34 Year Age Gap

EMCAD80
05-28-2003, 02:52 PM
~CHARLIE CHAPLIN & OONA O'NEILL~
The uproar over their May~December romance dissolved as the Hollywood rake and the playwright's daughter forged a marriage the world would envy.....



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Just met Charlie Chaplin. What blue eyes he has! 17-year-old Oona O'Neill wrote to her girlhood friend Carol Matthau in 1942. The legendary comic's screen persona may have been the silent Little Tramp, but in the flesh, even at 53, he was a little dickens.

By the time he first saw dark-eyed Oona, Hollywood's busiest satyr had successfully batted his own baby blues at half the female population of Southern California. He had two children and three ex-wives. Two of whom he had wed when they were 16.

Aspiring actress Oona was no empty-headed wannabe, though. The daughter of playwright Engene O'Neill and writer Agnes Boulton, she was "brilliant and well-read," says Matthau.

Oona met Chaplin when she was trying to be considered for a part in his film, Shadow and Substance. The movie was never made, but Oona found the role of her life.

"It was a great, great love affair," says Matthau (married 36 years to actor Walter) " not only because of the intensity but because of the lasting intensity."

Chaplin's teenage sons from his second marriage, Charles Jr. and Sydney, were both attracted to O'Neill when she started coming to their house. But they soon saw that their father was love-struck.

"I was constantly surprised by her sense of humor and tolerance," Chaplin wrote of Oona in his 1964 My Autobiography. "She could always see the other person's point of view."

Oona may have seen him as a replacement for the father who had left her ( Eugene walked out on Agnes when Oona was 2).

Though she would deny this, saying that Charlie, "has made me mature, and I keep him young."

Their relationship came at a turning point in Chaplin's life. His outspoken support for Russia's plight against the Nazis contradicted the nation's growing anti-Communtist sentiment.

In addition, his divorces and flagrant womanizing made unwelcome headlines. His latest troubles began a few months after he met Oona, when 24-year-old Joan Barry, a disturbed starlet, claimed that Chaplin was the father of her unborn child and sued him for support.

Blood tests would prove Chaplin innocent of the charge.

In the midst of the turmoil, Oona and Charlie slipped away to be married in rural Carpenteria, near Santa Barbara, Calif., in 1943. Eugene was so infuriated by their elopement that he disinherited his daughter, but Oona energized her husband.

Depressed over the blows to his reputation, he had mostly stopped working but, he wrote, "she urged me on." He would also father their eight children. The oldest, actress Geraldine, was born when Chaplin was 55; the last, actor Christopher, when he was 73.

The kids were cared for by their nurses and disciplined mostly by Charlie's secretary. Son Michael, 49, who has seven children of his own, does not feel handicapped by the way he and his siblings were treated.

"He was a difficult man," he says of his father. "But they were always solid in their relationship. That gives you a lot in later life."

Daughter Jane, 38, says she "was upset " when she realized that Oona made Charlie her first priority. "Sometimes I felt like I was intruding on their intimacy, but now I understand a love like that. It's once in a lifetime."

By 1952, Chaplin's leftist leanings had ignited Red hunters in Washington. The IRS was after him, and conservatives were calling for his deportation (British-born Chaplin had kept his citizenship). When he was sailing to Europe on a vacation with his family, he was given a telegram on board the ship telling him he could not return to the U.S. Unless he could prove his "Moral Worth." The Chaplins settled on Manoir de Ban, a 37-acre Swiss estate overlooking Lake Geneva. Their world became their love.

On his 70th birthday in 1959, Chaplin told an interviewer, "With Oona to look after me and the children to inspire me, I cannot grow old."

So it remained, until his death on Christmas Day, 1977, at age 88.

Oona lived until 1991.

Jane looks back on their supreme devotion. "They were always holding hands, even when he was an old man," she says. "They were kept together by magic."

Thanks to: People Weekly Feb, 12, 1996
"The Greatest Love Stories of the Century"

The Link (http://www.zonasplace.com/cheryl/chaplin.html)

abaconw
05-28-2003, 04:14 PM
One thing that wasn't mentioned in the article was that although she was only 52 at the time of Charlie's death, she never went on another date with anyone as a widow but simply lived the rest of her life on memories of him, from what I have ever read, and thus this remains in my mind as one of the greatest love stories of all time.

EMCAD80
05-28-2003, 04:27 PM
Huh...I didn't know that. You would think that would be something to put in there...but thanks for adding it!!!

abaconw
05-28-2003, 04:45 PM
Well, once he died all the interest in them died out so she just faded into the background as being not newsworthy any more and I don't even remember where I heard that. It does raise an interesting speculation though, would one older spouse, male or female, want the surviving member of the relationship to not ever remarry or to remarry and continue on with life? Were I asked I would say that not only would I want the younger to go on with life, but I would love to have an insurance policy on me that would provide for a much younger spouse as long as she lived just to make the insurance company pay and pay and etc. lol

EMCAD80
05-28-2003, 04:52 PM
LOL
D's mother never ventured to find another love after her husband died 20 years ago. So if it is true love, then I can see why one wouldn't want to marry again.

rinkrat
05-29-2003, 01:38 AM
Wouldn't it be great if some relationship we were in gets recorded as one of the greatest love stories of all time? What else could you ask for out of love. Heck, I'll just settle for love that lasts my lifetime, let alone lives beyond it. No, when I'm gone, remember me, but find love again. There's plenty of love out there to go around. Each love is a little different, it doesn't mean you have forgotten the person, just that love has changed a little. Enough. Let's talk about life!!

Nessa
05-29-2003, 08:56 AM
sneaking over from where us old women hang out.....

My mom died at the very YOUNG age of 58 my dad was 60 at the time. ON HER DEATH BED she told him (and I was there) that she wanted him to remarry. She didn't want him to be alone.

It was a bad Woody Allen movie scene to be honest. Mom saying how dad was young and had his whole life ahead of him. All of us crying.... and dad going... NO NO I'LL NEVER get married again.

Mom said: "but I dont' want you to be alone"
Dad said: (and I swear this is word for word gang):
'oh i won't be alone. I'll date. I might even live with someone but I'LL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN'

he met a woman about 3 months after my mom died and they are living together now nearly 7 years. I remember when he called me to tell me 'your father is living in sin' Guess he will cope well in six weeks when my YM moves in huh?

also it's proven that MEN who are widowed by spouses they loved tend to find partners much faster than those who were not happily married. Something about them not knowing how to live alone after years of marriage. So it was truly the ultimate compliment to my mom when he met his GF.

EMCAD80
05-29-2003, 10:47 AM
Thanks Nessa...I really enjoyed that small glance at your life. I'm glad your father is doing well.

Rink~it would be fabulous to be know as one of the greatest loves of all time.....*sigh*


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