To go up, or down, that is the question....?

It's always a personal choice, to determine whther you'd have interest in going towards the older man or younger man; and often the basis of the polar opposites relates to either virility or some caring identification of a parent --which has always been a stereotypical topic summing up of the desired "means to an end".

Outside of these choices, we find perhaps true love; but what has it been for you? Has it been finding wisdom and intellect of an older kindered spirit, the freshness of life in a young man's folly, the pure interest in experiencing just what it's all about?

I have presented a few of my own thoughts, like that of a genuine respect for an individual who is open, honest, shows great wisdom and wit, as well as still being surprised at how I can really relate to younger males on an intellectual level. I could say that neither presents a problem...but I wonder if there's just a preference for specific reasons fior some?

I am with a younger man not because of his age. When we met I wasn't really looking to meet anyone. We met online...and when he told me his age...I thought...well...we won't be anything more than just friends. But as time went on and we really started to get to know one another...and develop feelings for each other...the age difference was a huge factor in our discussions as to why this would never work. We did have a lot in common, including a lot of the same music likes, movie preferences, just general things. But we also found that we had a lot in common on a deeper level too. Such as values and future dreams and goals.

He is the first younger man I have ever been with. And if I had seen him walking down the street I may have taken a second glance because he is so handsome, but I would never have approached him because of his age.

It took me a while to get used to the age difference and overcome a lot of insecurities I had about us. But now that we have been in this for over 2 years, and I have spent tiem with him, he has given me a new perspective about life, and having fun with it, taking the time to play after working so hard. He makes me laugh, he helps me see the fun side of things. We balance each other very well.

I have come to see that age is only a number. There are decent men of all ages and attractive men of all ages...and there are jerks of all ages too.

It is more important to enjoy being with a person that enhances your life than to think about how old or young a person is. My guy just happens to be younger than I am.:)

I can only speak for myself...the appeal of younger men definitely has something to DO with my past experiences with OLDER men.
The younger men I have met display a genuine interest in not only learning from, but in having a relationship in all aspects of the term. The older men that i have had relationships with take 'women' with a grain of salt...they have a priority of 'providing for'...which equates to controlling what is it that we THINK, DO, and just 'how much' affection they can dole out while maintaining that 'provider' stance. I have never been taken as intelligent, or 'serious' by older men...Im the 'young' looking lil girl who NEEDS to have THEM in my life to TEACH me SOMETHING....grow me up per se....granted in ANY loving relationship we learn and grow....Im just at a point now...where im not financially, emotionally, spiritually, or physically DEPENDENT on another person...that allows me to seek LOVE for just that and to OFFER that to another in a way that I would not have been capable of at an earlier age. Technology itself has opened many doors for individuals in 'meeting' that, traditionally,would never have existed. I feel that is a good thing and has been the impetus, along with the financial/economic growth of women in general, for the increase of non-traditional relationships such as OW/YM ones. Let ALONE the fact that women are, by PHYSICAL nature, more suitable for younger men than older ones....we just tend to, statistically OUTLIVE them=) in more ways than one....Hope 'board crossers' here are NOT offended=)...for EITHER way...AGE is really JUST A NUMBER when it comes down to it...maturity in relationships...is...AGELESS.

Great reply singalou.. couldn't have said it better myself. I have come to the same realizations regarding men my age and older, and what I have personally encountered.. nicely said.

:)
Gen

A most gracious Thank You, Guin, Gen, and singalou; I appreciate your candor and honesty in sharing.
It warms my heart to have this forum to openly discuss these things openly, and even have the chance to focus on them. I doubt that forums out there with varied interests in current events, opinions, and passing thoughts, don'thave the great collection of "inter-age" relationships as much as this site, yet do develop through their share of members who become regulars.
Once again, thanks, and keep sharing!:cool: