younger neighbor

I have a question that's a little complicated. This man moved in next door to me last December, and has since transformed what was a drug house into a beautiful little home. He's absolutely amazing. He introduced himself to me soon after he moved in, and I immediately liked him. I was living with someone at that time, but we broke up about two months ago. Since my ex moved out, this neighbor and I have spent a lot of time together. He's either come over to my house for dinner, or I've gone over there. We've had barbeques together. He invited me to a deck building class, which we did together. We've played pool together and gone to the coast for a day. He baked me cookies one weekend after I had dental work because he knew I wasn't feeling good. And he tells me in different ways that he finds me attractive. I found out a few weeks after hanging out with him that he was 25. I'm 36. But he didn't stop acting interested after he found that out. The thing is, as much time as we've been spending together, he's NEVER tried to kiss me or take the relationship farther than flirtations friends. I'm not sure what to think or do. I really like this guy, but I want more than just friendship, and I think he does too, but he hasn't tried anything. I know he's not gay. He IS, however, very inexperienced with dating. I'm wondering what to do from here. Any suggestions?

What I might do is make plans to go to dinner at places that are for people that are a little bit more than friends. Drop more obvious hints and increase the flirting factor. Maybe he will get the hint.

Or you could do what my lady did with me: She reached over and kissed me. Completely out of the blue. It was awesome. . .and here we are so many moons later. . .Good luck either way!

TG,

You da man!


Loy,

I just think that this guy is in a state of confusion since he never thought age played a factor in this type of relationship. The best thing to do is not let that bother you and I think that once you go out with him more, you both can really express interest in one another. Just treat it day by day and really enjoy each other's company. You are in a lucky position because you are interested in him and it really shows! It's usually the YM's that make the move :P You have nothing to lose by going out with him! If he feels the same way about you, then it is a win win situation for the both of you. Just remember to keep another door open just in case it doesnt work out.

From my experience, I was always terrified to approach a OW when I liked her. But at those times I was around 19-22 and inexperienced in dating as well. But I didn't let that stop me from pursuing OW. If I was interested in them I would compliment them and hint to them how sexy they looked. Yet, I would say it in a dignified manner. They thought I was cute, and would pinch my cheeks or tickle my side, so I was pretty lucky (these women were anywhere from 34-45). I kinda knew I was in but scared nevertheless. Sooner or later these OW would end up asking me out or hint that they wanted to get with me too. They knew I was shy around women, especially them being 10-20 yrs my senior. And as a result, they would usually be the ones initiating the moves on me. On the other hand, if they didn't make the move, then I would. Either way, I had nothing to lose.
My point is, yes your neighbor might like you but may have never been involved with an OW before and/or is just too nervous to make the next move. You might want to consider initiating something or wait a little while longer to see what he does.
It's not a big deal, sooner or later, one of y'alls feelings are gonna seep out. But to me, things look great since y'all have already hit it off pretty good.

Well good luck and keep us posted, http://www.extreme-athlete.com/forums/images/smilies/thumbup2.gif

joe

Thank you all for replying. :) I'm just confused because I don't want to scare him off if he just wants to be friends, so I haven't taken the next step myself. I've never been in a position to do the persuing, and I'm not used to it. But I appreciate all of your responses. :)

Do this:
Nail him against the wall and grab his crotch and whisper in his ear, "i want you so badly right here, right now" that usually does the trick for most guys. Or any similar variation to that. Hope that helps. :D

I agree with Tall Guy's suggestions, in terms of dropping hints. Maybe out of the blue, you can kiss your neighbor. It doesn't have to be in a passionate, romantic situation; just because he is who he is.

I know i don't have much experience either, so he probably is shy about making the moves on you. But the fact that he bakes cookies for you and such tells me he is genuinely interested in you.

Perhaps you should ask him out to dinner or a movie, or maybe to go dancing. But be subliminal when you go out. Maybe wear your nicest dress or something that will get his attention, but don't be wild and crazy about it.

Each time you see him or go out with him, do something taht will open the door inch by inch. It'll spark his desire just a little bit and alert him that you're truly interested.

Good luck, Loy!